My dad gave me a nice backhand (with a closed fist) in the face when I was 14-15. Can't blame him for doing so, since I was violently angry at the time and he thought that I might hurt somebody. I took the hit like a man, but it gave me a new appreciation for how strong my dad is; it was a pretty light hit by his standards and still cut/bruised my cheek.
It was actually more like the time Lee had to "beat some sense" into Kenny.
EDIT: I got spanked (very lightly) when I was little, but my parents weren't big on corporal punishment.
Move them away and lock the room so that when they go back to the room they continue to do what they were doing. Taking them away from something they are doing when they have been told why they shouldn't do it doesn't solve anything, because then they are just going to satisfy their instincts again at the next available time aren't they? I know removing me from whatever situation it was didn't work for me.
Instead of a no with the "because I said so reasoning" I was always given the actual reason why I shouldn't do certain things, and this was always good enough except in this one instance. I knew and understood the superficial elements of cheap and expensive associated with my actions, but I continued because I felt like it. No fear or insecurity based on fear came from the scenario, instead I just stopped scratching the floor and moved on with my life.
When i was young, I had some small racing car toys, I was About 10 as well, And despite how much did i like them, I always dis-assembled eve… morery little piece of it. Why? In Psychology, A child at that particular age begins to develop a very strong curiosity while they're still unaware of the superficial elements such as being cheap or expensive. They just want to satisfy their instincts.
Solution: Move them away and then lock the room.
Because you feared to do so, not because you were convinced. Locking the room is a temporary solution. Speak to the child when he's not at it and then he may understand. Children are stubborn.
Move them away and lock the room so that when they go back to the room they continue to do what they were doing. Taking them away from somet… morehing they are doing when they have been told why they shouldn't do it doesn't solve anything, because then they are just going to satisfy their instincts again at the next available time aren't they? I know removing me from whatever situation it was didn't work for me.
Instead of a no with the "because I said so reasoning" I was always given the actual reason why I shouldn't do certain things, and this was always good enough except in this one instance. I knew and understood the superficial elements of cheap and expensive associated with my actions, but I continued because I felt like it. No fear or insecurity based on fear came from the scenario, instead I just stopped scratching the floor and moved on with my life.
You know the superficial elements, But you can't really feel their true value. Humans are a product of evolution, They still go where their instincts tell them to.
Move them away and lock the room so that when they go back to the room they continue to do what they were doing. Taking them away from somet… morehing they are doing when they have been told why they shouldn't do it doesn't solve anything, because then they are just going to satisfy their instincts again at the next available time aren't they? I know removing me from whatever situation it was didn't work for me.
Instead of a no with the "because I said so reasoning" I was always given the actual reason why I shouldn't do certain things, and this was always good enough except in this one instance. I knew and understood the superficial elements of cheap and expensive associated with my actions, but I continued because I felt like it. No fear or insecurity based on fear came from the scenario, instead I just stopped scratching the floor and moved on with my life.
I'm just going to have to agree to disagree with you, because I've already told you that my parents always explained things to me, and that taking me from the situation did not solve the problem. Constantly removing me from a situation I had no care about obviously did not change my defiant attitude, whereas in the end I got the belt and I stopped scratching the floor.
Because you feared to do so, not because you were convinced. Locking the room is a temporary solution. Speak to the child when he's not at it and then he may understand. Children are stubborn.
I couldn't lose my job if I'm the one being assaulted. To make a long story short, the only reason I was smacked in the face by the customer was because I wouldn't let him buy any alcohol because he had no I.D.
As for the other: He lost some items that he bought, AFTER he left the building and he wanted them replaced for free, I said "No".
You can sue and be sued at that age, I flipped through a book called 'Laws for teenagers' while in my school library. Note that these were UK laws though.
Oh, okay. I misunderstood what you were saying. I thought that you were doubting the fact that she'd been hit any where but a slight smack o… moren the wrist because she's 14, and not an 80's kid. I'm sorry.
But my father hasn't been like this in years and I'm not going to rip apart my family for something that's in the past. Now, if he does it to my sister at all (she's 2), that's about when shit will be flipped. Oh, and my dad's only 5'8. But he's like 300 pounds. Besides, I m not old enough to file a report.
I couldn't lose my job if I'm the one being assaulted. To make a long story short, the only reason I was smacked in the face by the customer… more was because I wouldn't let him buy any alcohol because he had no I.D.
As for the other: He lost some items that he bought, AFTER he left the building and he wanted them replaced for free, I said "No".
I couldn't lose my job if I'm the one being assaulted. To make a long story short, the only reason I was smacked in the face by the customer… more was because I wouldn't let him buy any alcohol because he had no I.D.
As for the other: He lost some items that he bought, AFTER he left the building and he wanted them replaced for free, I said "No".
Eh, since people seem to be discussing this a fair amount, I guess I'll expand a bit more on my view towards hitting children as punishment. The way I see, as a parent, it is your responsibility to raise your children to understand and follow the rules of the society. So hitting your kids seems really weird to me because it's essentially teaching them that when someone does something wrong, you should hit them to make them stop. Which really isn't the lesson you want them to be learning as they become adults.
I guess I can understand it a bit more if it's used as a last resort measure against a particularly unruly child who can't be reached even after repeated talks and such. But even then, I think it'd still feel like having to strike your child is a mark of failure for a parent. It's essentially an admission that you don't know how to control your child though any other means than through physical violence.
Ha ha ha! That would have been something. Sad thing is in those situations you have to bite your tongue. The only times I have ever gone for someone is when one person was shoplifting and when another customer made one of my colleagues cry. I guess I was more Lee Everett than Bigby Wolf.
Eh, since people seem to be discussing this a fair amount, I guess I'll expand a bit more on my view towards hitting children as punishment.… more The way I see, as a parent, it is your responsibility to raise your children to understand and follow the rules of the society. So hitting your kids seems really weird to me because it's essentially teaching them that when someone does something wrong, you should hit them to make them stop. Which really isn't the lesson you want them to be learning as they become adults.
I guess I can understand it a bit more if it's used as a last resort measure against a particularly unruly child who can't be reached even after repeated talks and such. But even then, I think it'd still feel like having to strike your child is a mark of failure for a parent. It's essentially an admission that you don't know how to control your child though any other means than through physical violence.
Abusing a child is wrong. Instead of smacking, or beating a child you should just make them stand in a corner, and be a good parent teaching them right for wrong. Abusing a child just makes everything worse. When the child grows up it'll think it's okay to beat their child. Some people who suffer abuse become murderers, and thieves like Carver. Carver was abused by his parents that's why he was so strict, and had harsh rules.
So yea if you're ever thinking about beating a child, then expect to be ready for Child Services to visit you.
Well, when you're young and stupid, the stupid part gets you in trouble, and trouble gets you a smack.When I have children of course I won't wanna hit them, but you have to sometimes.
La chancla. Enough said. But I was mostly a really quiet kid, so I rarely was ever punished, and never by my parents (just another relative). Abusing a child is wrong and I'm glad in this generation, it's becoming more and more taboo. Physical punishment, especially when repeated and without reason, can cause just a learned helplessness that sometimes never really disappears. It fucks a child up.
Yeah, a few times. Probably would have been a lot more if my parents hung out with me more. I was left alone a lot and when they would come home I was a 'nuisance'.
Of course you can sue, I don't need no book to tell me what to do. You CAN report them, and then go to a foster home. And then everyone's happy. Well... kinda. Foster homes are kinda depressing. I'm sure you have another family member though.
You can sue and be sued at that age, I flipped through a book called 'Laws for teenagers' while in my school library. Note that these were UK laws though.
90's what? What? Wha... WTF does that have to do with anything!? And how am I annoying her? I'm saying, that who the fuck has the nerve to hit someone her age?
I appreciate your noble goal, But your way of putting it is wrong. She hasn't said that she has been hit, She doesn't even want to talk about it. It's pretty obvious. So, i just don't her to feel stressed. That's all.
90's what? What? Wha... WTF does that have to do with anything!? And how am I annoying her? I'm saying, that who the fuck has the nerve to hit someone her age?
When you said that you feel sorry for us, the 90s kid. It kinda pissed me off. As i said, You have a noble cause, But you're portraying it the very wrong way. We don't need anyone's pity, You know.
90's what? What? Wha... WTF does that have to do with anything!? And how am I annoying her? I'm saying, that who the fuck has the nerve to hit someone her age?
La chancla. Enough said. But I was mostly a really quiet kid, so I rarely was ever punished, and never by my parents (just another relative)… more. Abusing a child is wrong and I'm glad in this generation, it's becoming more and more taboo. Physical punishment, especially when repeated and without reason, can cause just a learned helplessness that sometimes never really disappears. It fucks a child up.
Why would it piss you off? I feel sorry for all, fuckin' 50's, 60's, 70's, and all that. You shouldn't be hit. Dunno why that would piss you off, you like getting hit? Does it make you feel good? Sure, it was legal back then but legal now? NO. It's not. So if she has been hit she should get the busies involved.
When you said that you feel sorry for us, the 90s kid. It kinda pissed me off. As i said, You have a noble cause, But you're portraying it the very wrong way. We don't need anyone's pity, You know.
Well, i've been hit with belts, rocks, spoons, shoes, cleaning mops, those hammers for meat (brother hit me with that one where nobody wants to be hit) i've been stabed with a pencil in my leg, with backpacks, and some slaps, im sure im missing some but they were as painful as Carlos' slap.
Whether if she was hit or not is her concern. Pushing her too far would hurt her. I felt pissed because I felt it more like a stereotyping. That you're saying that the 90s kids are pitiful. Might be just me who felt so.
Why would it piss you off? I feel sorry for all, fuckin' 50's, 60's, 70's, and all that. You shouldn't be hit. Dunno why that would piss you… more off, you like getting hit? Does it make you feel good? Sure, it was legal back then but legal now? NO. It's not. So if she has been hit she should get the busies involved.
90's pitiful whatawhata what what? I don't get it. I don't care either, she's scared to admit it because she doesn't want to think of her dad like that. I don't blame her, but... yano. I think this conversation is over now. Soooooo... yeah.
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My dad gave me a nice backhand (with a closed fist) in the face when I was 14-15. Can't blame him for doing so, since I was violently angry at the time and he thought that I might hurt somebody. I took the hit like a man, but it gave me a new appreciation for how strong my dad is; it was a pretty light hit by his standards and still cut/bruised my cheek.
It was actually more like the time Lee had to "beat some sense" into Kenny.
EDIT: I got spanked (very lightly) when I was little, but my parents weren't big on corporal punishment.
A few times growing up but I forgive my parents. Raising 6 kids wasn't easy
When I have kids I never want to lay my hands on them
Move them away and lock the room so that when they go back to the room they continue to do what they were doing. Taking them away from something they are doing when they have been told why they shouldn't do it doesn't solve anything, because then they are just going to satisfy their instincts again at the next available time aren't they? I know removing me from whatever situation it was didn't work for me.
Instead of a no with the "because I said so reasoning" I was always given the actual reason why I shouldn't do certain things, and this was always good enough except in this one instance. I knew and understood the superficial elements of cheap and expensive associated with my actions, but I continued because I felt like it. No fear or insecurity based on fear came from the scenario, instead I just stopped scratching the floor and moved on with my life.
Because you feared to do so, not because you were convinced. Locking the room is a temporary solution. Speak to the child when he's not at it and then he may understand. Children are stubborn.
Not by my parents. But I have been smacked at where I work once by a customer. I also had a hand against my throat by another customer as well.
By customers? I'd have lost that job quite some time ago.
You know the superficial elements, But you can't really feel their true value. Humans are a product of evolution, They still go where their instincts tell them to.
sigh fine, think that.
I'm just going to have to agree to disagree with you, because I've already told you that my parents always explained things to me, and that taking me from the situation did not solve the problem. Constantly removing me from a situation I had no care about obviously did not change my defiant attitude, whereas in the end I got the belt and I stopped scratching the floor.
I couldn't lose my job if I'm the one being assaulted. To make a long story short, the only reason I was smacked in the face by the customer was because I wouldn't let him buy any alcohol because he had no I.D.
As for the other: He lost some items that he bought, AFTER he left the building and he wanted them replaced for free, I said "No".
You can sue and be sued at that age, I flipped through a book called 'Laws for teenagers' while in my school library. Note that these were UK laws though.
My implication was that I would have retaliated, I didn't mean you should be fired for being assaulted.
Should've taken a page from Bigby's book and [glass him]
Precisely.
To be clear, this is deep in the past right?
Eh, since people seem to be discussing this a fair amount, I guess I'll expand a bit more on my view towards hitting children as punishment. The way I see, as a parent, it is your responsibility to raise your children to understand and follow the rules of the society. So hitting your kids seems really weird to me because it's essentially teaching them that when someone does something wrong, you should hit them to make them stop. Which really isn't the lesson you want them to be learning as they become adults.
I guess I can understand it a bit more if it's used as a last resort measure against a particularly unruly child who can't be reached even after repeated talks and such. But even then, I think it'd still feel like having to strike your child is a mark of failure for a parent. It's essentially an admission that you don't know how to control your child though any other means than through physical violence.
Ha ha ha! That would have been something. Sad thing is in those situations you have to bite your tongue. The only times I have ever gone for someone is when one person was shoplifting and when another customer made one of my colleagues cry. I guess I was more Lee Everett than Bigby Wolf.
If your kids are misbehaving all the damn time then you failed your job as a parent.
If you hit your kids for any reason whatsoever you also failed your job as a parent.
That's how i see it.
Abusing a child is wrong. Instead of smacking, or beating a child you should just make them stand in a corner, and be a good parent teaching them right for wrong. Abusing a child just makes everything worse. When the child grows up it'll think it's okay to beat their child. Some people who suffer abuse become murderers, and thieves like Carver. Carver was abused by his parents that's why he was so strict, and had harsh rules.
So yea if you're ever thinking about beating a child, then expect to be ready for Child Services to visit you.
Never across the face.
Well, when you're young and stupid, the stupid part gets you in trouble, and trouble gets you a smack.When I have children of course I won't wanna hit them, but you have to sometimes.
Well as a kid my mom would spank me with a wooden spoon when I was out of line if that counts
La chancla. Enough said. But I was mostly a really quiet kid, so I rarely was ever punished, and never by my parents (just another relative). Abusing a child is wrong and I'm glad in this generation, it's becoming more and more taboo. Physical punishment, especially when repeated and without reason, can cause just a learned helplessness that sometimes never really disappears. It fucks a child up.
Yeah, a few times. Probably would have been a lot more if my parents hung out with me more. I was left alone a lot and when they would come home I was a 'nuisance'.
Well your scared to admit it soooo... what else am I supposed to think?
Of course you can sue, I don't need no book to tell me what to do. You CAN report them, and then go to a foster home. And then everyone's happy. Well... kinda. Foster homes are kinda depressing. I'm sure you have another family member though.
Just, Leave her alone, Man. You don't need to over-stress her.
Depends,the face or the ass?
I will, why don't you stay out of it? Nosy kids.
Well, We, "90s kids", look out for each others and don't annoy each others. That's why I'm here.
90's what? What? Wha... WTF does that have to do with anything!? And how am I annoying her? I'm saying, that who the fuck has the nerve to hit someone her age?
I appreciate your noble goal, But your way of putting it is wrong. She hasn't said that she has been hit, She doesn't even want to talk about it. It's pretty obvious. So, i just don't her to feel stressed. That's all.
When you said that you feel sorry for us, the 90s kid. It kinda pissed me off. As i said, You have a noble cause, But you're portraying it the very wrong way. We don't need anyone's pity, You know.
Ouch, those can be painful
Why would it piss you off? I feel sorry for all, fuckin' 50's, 60's, 70's, and all that. You shouldn't be hit. Dunno why that would piss you off, you like getting hit? Does it make you feel good? Sure, it was legal back then but legal now? NO. It's not. So if she has been hit she should get the busies involved.
Well, i've been hit with belts, rocks, spoons, shoes, cleaning mops, those hammers for meat (brother hit me with that one where nobody wants to be hit) i've been stabed with a pencil in my leg, with backpacks, and some slaps, im sure im missing some but they were as painful as Carlos' slap.
Whether if she was hit or not is her concern. Pushing her too far would hurt her. I felt pissed because I felt it more like a stereotyping. That you're saying that the 90s kids are pitiful. Might be just me who felt so.
Mom did that too but with a plastic spoon
yeah. :P