Getting bullied and could use help
TheEndBeyond
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Hi guys, its not a very nice moment in my life to admit that im getting bullied by a girl half my size, but I am.
This girl is the only girl I have met that actually acts like the bitchy girls in them teen movies you know? As far as she is concerned if you aint good looking, you aint worth beep She joined my work place about a year ago and I tried to help her on her first day by showing her around, introducing her to the other workers and stuff, she seemed nice at that time, but as the weeks went by she just started making hurtfull comments about me and one or 2 others.
Im not an attractive man and I have trouble making friends, I don't know why she turned on me like that but she did after the sly comments became too much I spoke to my boss but he said without proof he cant do nothing, he suggested trying to talk to her so I did, she backed away from the conversation and then the bitch went to the boss to complain about ME! my boss told me to leave her alone? ( Found out via office gossip that her and the boss have been flirting a lot )
It was my birthday recently so I brought some chocolates into the office to share, I avoided offering some to the girl because of the situation, I figured she would not want me to speak to her. She then complained to the boss again that I purposely left her out, I explained to my boss about why I did not offer her some and you know what he said? ITS STILL UNAACPTABLE! so I called him out there and then on him and her flirting and he gave me a warning.
My life is not exactly great but it was ALOT better before all this stuff started. Im thinking of making a complaint to my Boss's Boss, but I need something solid, Not many people in the office are willing to back me up for fear of the girl and the boss.
I have a plan but I need outside help. So please PM me if you are at all intersetd in helping me and I will explain what I need, thanks guys. Bullys only get worse if nobody steps up.
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Umm ok wrong board
well I need some help from people who it cant be traced back to, show me the ' help with bullying board ' and I will gladly post on that.
Go to Telltale Talk, which is located at the very bottom.
"who it cant be traced back to,"
Slowly walks away
....Im not asking you to kill her dude.
Well that line was kinda creepy no offense
Makes mean comments about my appearance, then when I react she makes complaints and gets me in trouble, she has even lied/twisted the truth at times to make my punishments more extream.
and I don't need ADVICE, I need someone to do something for me.
hey man, just be yourself, and continue being nice to her, and when she makes jabs at you, just play them off and laugh with her if you can, she won't continue to say stuff to you if she sees that it doesn't bother you. you gotta make nice with her though, offer her the chocolates you brought in as a peace offering kinda, not exclude her b/c u think she doesn't like you. it's a little late for that, and it seems your boss isn't going to side with you on it now, but, you just gotta act like you have so much other good stuff going on in your life that whatever they say for the few hours you are at work doesn't mean shit. ya know? plus dude, don't even sweat it, how old are you? I'm sure you won't have that job forever, and if it really gets so bad, go apply elsewhere and work somewhere else for the time being... I'm too old to do something like that, but when I was in high school, I worked at a pizza hut, and I got fired b/c I requested off on my birthday (over a month in advance), and my boss told me I couldn't have off for it, so I just didn't show up and I reminded him that I was taking off that day, and he still fired me. fuck em, I found a job at a ruby Tuesday making more money anyway, doing more important things than washing pizza pans... ya know? point is, is you can get a job anywhere, unless you really like your job, in which case, you either suck it up and play them off like what they do doesn't matter one bit in your life, or you confront both of them, together, and tell them that you will not stand for being treated the way you are... idk, I read your post and felt I should offer something to you. hope it works out for you!
I will give you some advice even though this is the wrong place.
You have already wronged yourself.. Anyone can be attractive if they have the right attitude.. I have seen some real ugly guys get girls and the better looking ones get left out because they are shy.. But it is because they are confident and persistant and dont care what others think, If you think you are attractive others will think so to.. Chin up.
all I need is for someone to post something on her twitter tonight at an exact time, that's all I need.
would you help me?
Two words: Salt. Lick.
You could always have another girl beat her up
Tell us the address and we'll dispose her.
I kid.
My reaction to this thread;
You mentioned something about posting to her twitter - I'm not sure what you're thinking, but bullying is never the answer to bullying. (btw, I would have recommended offering her some chocolates - you're still coworkers and shunning her isn't going to help the situation...) Has she ever told you exactly what the beef was?
It sounds like your boss has been completely unwilling to help, and it is difficult to do anything without solid evidence (again, worried about the twitter, whatever you do, do not fabricate evidence).
Do you have any way you can simply avoid her? Or maybe you can ask a coworker to talk to her with you, if you think it's enough of a problem, you can get your boss to sit down all together too. The other thing is you can confront her in a more assertive fashion, not angry or aggressive, but just telling her you don't like the way she treats you and that even if she doesn't have to like you deserve basic respect as a person.
Also, I'm not sure what country you're from, but if you've tried all those methods and still are being mistreated there may even been legal means (discrimination/harassment etc.). That's another reason to have a coworker with you if you do talk to her, because then you have somebody to back up your story if it does come to legal measures.
I don't want to hurt her, she is a woman.
yeah, I thought you were asking for advice, I did not realize you wanted someone to do something specific like post on her twitter page. and this isn't the wrong page to post this to! we're all friends here right??? haha! also, posting here about this will get you some great responses on how to address the situation, like, say, taking a hammer to her, or, crushing her with a salt lick... haha! good luck!
Seriously, though. Just ignore her. If she ever makes any comments about you just be like:
I just want one little victory over her.
I cant help being ugly, its not something I chose at birth, but I have suffered so god dam much because of it. People always tell you that looks don't matter but they do, they fucking do. And im tired of bowing down and taking it.
I just need help to expose her for the lying cunt she is.
Technically you won't be hurting her
Fuck it, I'm all for exposing people. Message me what you need.
could you email me? I don't get how the whole PM thing on here works x
Click on his name, and then click private discussion on the left.
I did, he didn't reply.
Sounds like a toxic workplace, all you can do is ignore and avoid her. Eventually she will either tire of picking on you, or others will become fed up with her behavior and act.
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The third one... not cool.
Sounds like some passive-aggressive nonsense.
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How do you want this to end?
If you lash out in some way as retaliation, do you think that will be the end of it?
Does it matter what she thinks?
If you want her to get in trouble, wait until she does something wrong that is work related. For example, if she needs to contribute to a report you're writing, and she isn't doing it just because she hates you, then you bring up to the boss that completion of your report is pending woman's input, and you haven't heard an update on when she will be done with that, so the deadline might be missed as a result.
If you want the business to respect you, you gotta be all business.
Nah its ok dude, I have decided to just murder her anyway.
Man, if you are fat or something like that, you can always go to gym. I strongly suggest you to quit your job.
I did though :P
Quit his job for something as silly as that? Put up with the bullshit for the paycheque man
Well I don't know, if he is so depressed and desperate with his situation, he should quit. Besides, this guy seems to have low self-esteem. Not everyone is as tough as you.
I am pretty chubby, but I have a messed up face, my head and face are a bit bigger than the norm =[