today I realized something........the background of my cellphone is a '''sexy'' girl...every times i looked at my phone, i was kind of ''tempted'' to masturbate even tho it wasn't the moment (like school or work)........ ((i never did it at school between))
Well yeah, i changed that, now my background image i a calm field with trees.. :P
However, today i still felt ''empty'' 5 or 6 time in the day ... This is what bother me, am I supposed to feel that bad only because i don't masturbate ???
Anyway, at the point i was, i wasn't even fapping because i felt ''turned on'' but only because it was now an automatism .....
In fact......Its hard to explain but now i don't feel sexually deprived......it's something else.... i feels only ''empty inside'' (it's very weird)
Day 3 : still respecting my decision
today I realized something........the background of my cellphone is a '''sexy'' girl...every times i… more looked at my phone, i was kind of ''tempted'' to masturbate even tho it wasn't the moment (like school or work)........ ((i never did it at school between))
Well yeah, i changed that, now my background image i a calm field with trees.. :P
However, today i still felt ''empty'' 5 or 6 time in the day ... This is what bother me, am I supposed to feel that bad only because i don'… moret masturbate ???
Anyway, at the point i was, i wasn't even fapping because i felt ''turned on'' but only because it was now an automatism .....
In fact......Its hard to explain but now i don't feel sexually deprived......it's something else.... i feels only ''empty inside'' (it's very weird)
Your body probably has become accustom to the dump it gets from masturbating. The same thing can occur with eating habits--especially sugar. The human body has a nack for habituating intakes. But like anything else, if you set a pattern and hold to it, a new habit will come of it.
And sorry about the empty feeling, man. It is weird, but you got this! There is plenty that goes on for a guy within his body during the process, and your body may be expecting that as "normal" and a part of your daily cycle. Not doing it then makes it feel empty or "starved" of something it is use to having. The emptiness will be an enduring factor to overcome and only will be when it is replaced with something else.
Hang in there, man. Stay strong. Just as badly as your body may want to do this and think it necessary, it could just as well not. Masturbating isn't one of those things that "once you start, you have to keep doing it for your body and mind's sake." I admire your wanting to stop it. And if that's a choice you feel proud of pursuing, reaching out for help is definitely a great first step. Keep strong man, keep open--you'll win!
However, today i still felt ''empty'' 5 or 6 time in the day ... This is what bother me, am I supposed to feel that bad only because i don'… moret masturbate ???
Anyway, at the point i was, i wasn't even fapping because i felt ''turned on'' but only because it was now an automatism .....
In fact......Its hard to explain but now i don't feel sexually deprived......it's something else.... i feels only ''empty inside'' (it's very weird)
"I truly don't know how to stop or slow down masturbation without God. I've only had experiences of freedom with religion involved (if you want me to discuss), and since you are not religious, I'm afraid I can't provide very good advice."
I'm sure I'm going to offend some people here, and I don't care, because we're talking about a person's mental and physical health here. Do NOT look to religion. It sort of seems like that argument has played itself out and I'm not sure how much more I can add to it, just other that to say, there is no such thing as sin. There is immoral behavior, and how you define what is or is not immoral is ultimately up to you. I can talk with you, I can debate with you, but in the end you are the only person who can decide your values, and more than rationally think them, you also need to feel that those are your values. I'll be straight up and say I don't believe in religion and find it harmful, and this is one major example of why.
But there are two questions you need to ask yourself:
1) Why do you think masturbation, even everyday, is wrong? Is it something that interferes with your life (ie: going off to masturbate during class/work)? You said it did once; but it might be a good idea to allow yourself to masturbate at home, but at work, tell yourself to wait. It's like dieting, if you say "I can't have this food" eventually you'll explode and pigout; but if you say "ok, wait until friday night, and I'll let myself have a treat," it's a lot easier to resist.
2) I know the term 'addiction' has come up, and I believe it to be a misnomer. I think a more appropriate term is Non-paraphilic Compulsive Sexual Behavior - in either case, it is usually the product of some sort of dissatisfaction, usually sexual (in the broad sense of having/not having a partner), and masturbation becomes a means of releving the emotion pain associated with that loss. The point is, don't focus on the masturbation, focus on the root cause. You won't really be able to stop until you do.
I don't know your situation, but it might be the case where you simply have to feel that lack. You balance it out with other things in your life so that you don't become completely depressed, but accept that masturbation is an outlet for it, and try to find a way to satisfy that want truly (IE finding a partner). Obviously that's easier said than done, but there may be programs that will help you or ways you can meet people etc.
To be honest, I'm completely terrible with women, and so I know it isn't easy and I really can't give you any advice as far as that goes (if that is indeed the root problem) - I will say though, even if it ends in rejection oftentimes just going out there, talking to people, and giving it a try is uplifting.
Your body probably has become accustom to the dump it gets from masturbating. The same thing can occur with eating habits--especially sugar.… more The human body has a nack for habituating intakes. But like anything else, if you set a pattern and hold to it, a new habit will come of it.
And sorry about the empty feeling, man. It is weird, but you got this! There is plenty that goes on for a guy within his body during the process, and your body may be expecting that as "normal" and a part of your daily cycle. Not doing it then makes it feel empty or "starved" of something it is use to having. The emptiness will be an enduring factor to overcome and only will be when it is replaced with something else.
Hang in there, man. Stay strong. Just as badly as your body may want to do this and think it necessary, it could just as well not. Masturbating isn't one of those things that "once you start, you have to keep doing it for your body and mind's sak… [view original content]
"I truly don't know how to stop or slow down masturbation without God. I've only had experiences of freedom with religion involved (if you w… moreant me to discuss), and since you are not religious, I'm afraid I can't provide very good advice."
Your words.
DAY 5 : GODDAMMIT !!!!! i did it before going to school omg i only stood 4 days and a half .
OK OK i'm not gonna let this put me down ! i'm gonna try to finish my whole month anyway !!!!and still, i have never been that far since 3 years , so its not that bad.
Between, i don't know why but after these 4 days i felt a lot happier. It makes me want to beat that record
DAY 5 : GODDAMMIT !!!!! i did it before going to school omg i only stood 4 days and a half .
OK OK i'm not gonna let this put me down ! … morei'm gonna try to finish my whole month anyway !!!!and still, i have never been that far since 3 years , so its not that bad.
Between, i don't know why but after these 4 days i felt a lot happier. It makes me want to beat that record
You got this man! It's so cool to see you wanting this change:P Just know you got a lot of people here backing you up, and more still going through the same thing and looking to see how you handle it!
DAY 5 : GODDAMMIT !!!!! i did it before going to school omg i only stood 4 days and a half .
OK OK i'm not gonna let this put me down ! … morei'm gonna try to finish my whole month anyway !!!!and still, i have never been that far since 3 years , so its not that bad.
Between, i don't know why but after these 4 days i felt a lot happier. It makes me want to beat that record
Well congrats on making it 4 days and that you are willing to TRY to beat that record. I used to be like you at a very young age. Not to sound TOO graphic but my hands were always in my pants. At 25 years old, I've learned to control it.
A lot of people may think you have some sort of Sexual Addiction. I've even heard some experts say hypersexual behaviors such as compulsive masturbation may lead or cause addiction. I've even heard some say its a medical condition.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about. You should be very proud for trying to control this habit. Have you tried seeing a specialist? Or even a doctor? I'd try these options and see if there is something they can help you with. Again, congrats on trying to make an effort. Hopefully everything works out for you.
Well that's not a bad effort! Maybe doing it in the morning or evening is a good thing since you can relieve any work-related stress. Remember, it's completely healthy to masturbate. So don't feel bad if you can't completely stop yourself.
DAY 5 : GODDAMMIT !!!!! i did it before going to school omg i only stood 4 days and a half .
OK OK i'm not gonna let this put me down ! … morei'm gonna try to finish my whole month anyway !!!!and still, i have never been that far since 3 years , so its not that bad.
Between, i don't know why but after these 4 days i felt a lot happier. It makes me want to beat that record
DAY 5 : GODDAMMIT !!!!! i did it before going to school omg i only stood 4 days and a half .
OK OK i'm not gonna let this put me down ! … morei'm gonna try to finish my whole month anyway !!!!and still, i have never been that far since 3 years , so its not that bad.
Between, i don't know why but after these 4 days i felt a lot happier. It makes me want to beat that record
Well congrats on making it 4 days and that you are willing to TRY to beat that record. I used to be like you at a very young age. Not to so… moreund TOO graphic but my hands were always in my pants. At 25 years old, I've learned to control it.
A lot of people may think you have some sort of Sexual Addiction. I've even heard some experts say hypersexual behaviors such as compulsive masturbation may lead or cause addiction. I've even heard some say its a medical condition.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about. You should be very proud for trying to control this habit. Have you tried seeing a specialist? Or even a doctor? I'd try these options and see if there is something they can help you with. Again, congrats on trying to make an effort. Hopefully everything works out for you.
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Day 3 : still respecting my decision
today I realized something........the background of my cellphone is a '''sexy'' girl...every times i looked at my phone, i was kind of ''tempted'' to masturbate even tho it wasn't the moment (like school or work)........ ((i never did it at school between))
Well yeah, i changed that, now my background image i a calm field with trees.. :P
However, today i still felt ''empty'' 5 or 6 time in the day ... This is what bother me, am I supposed to feel that bad only because i don't masturbate ???
Anyway, at the point i was, i wasn't even fapping because i felt ''turned on'' but only because it was now an automatism .....
In fact......Its hard to explain but now i don't feel sexually deprived......it's something else.... i feels only ''empty inside'' (it's very weird)
do it, you need it. maybe that sexy girl pic was a sign.
but seriously, if you feel depressed or bad just do it. Just try not to do it daily rather every other day since you feel guilty.
Your body probably has become accustom to the dump it gets from masturbating. The same thing can occur with eating habits--especially sugar. The human body has a nack for habituating intakes. But like anything else, if you set a pattern and hold to it, a new habit will come of it.
And sorry about the empty feeling, man. It is weird, but you got this! There is plenty that goes on for a guy within his body during the process, and your body may be expecting that as "normal" and a part of your daily cycle. Not doing it then makes it feel empty or "starved" of something it is use to having. The emptiness will be an enduring factor to overcome and only will be when it is replaced with something else.
Hang in there, man. Stay strong. Just as badly as your body may want to do this and think it necessary, it could just as well not. Masturbating isn't one of those things that "once you start, you have to keep doing it for your body and mind's sake." I admire your wanting to stop it. And if that's a choice you feel proud of pursuing, reaching out for help is definitely a great first step. Keep strong man, keep open--you'll win!
"i just got back from vacation" *goes online *sees this thread *clicks on thread *backs away slowly until there is less weird shit
"I truly don't know how to stop or slow down masturbation without God. I've only had experiences of freedom with religion involved (if you want me to discuss), and since you are not religious, I'm afraid I can't provide very good advice."
Your words.
I'm sure I'm going to offend some people here, and I don't care, because we're talking about a person's mental and physical health here. Do NOT look to religion. It sort of seems like that argument has played itself out and I'm not sure how much more I can add to it, just other that to say, there is no such thing as sin. There is immoral behavior, and how you define what is or is not immoral is ultimately up to you. I can talk with you, I can debate with you, but in the end you are the only person who can decide your values, and more than rationally think them, you also need to feel that those are your values. I'll be straight up and say I don't believe in religion and find it harmful, and this is one major example of why.
But there are two questions you need to ask yourself:
1) Why do you think masturbation, even everyday, is wrong? Is it something that interferes with your life (ie: going off to masturbate during class/work)? You said it did once; but it might be a good idea to allow yourself to masturbate at home, but at work, tell yourself to wait. It's like dieting, if you say "I can't have this food" eventually you'll explode and pigout; but if you say "ok, wait until friday night, and I'll let myself have a treat," it's a lot easier to resist.
2) I know the term 'addiction' has come up, and I believe it to be a misnomer. I think a more appropriate term is Non-paraphilic Compulsive Sexual Behavior - in either case, it is usually the product of some sort of dissatisfaction, usually sexual (in the broad sense of having/not having a partner), and masturbation becomes a means of releving the emotion pain associated with that loss. The point is, don't focus on the masturbation, focus on the root cause. You won't really be able to stop until you do.
I don't know your situation, but it might be the case where you simply have to feel that lack. You balance it out with other things in your life so that you don't become completely depressed, but accept that masturbation is an outlet for it, and try to find a way to satisfy that want truly (IE finding a partner). Obviously that's easier said than done, but there may be programs that will help you or ways you can meet people etc.
To be honest, I'm completely terrible with women, and so I know it isn't easy and I really can't give you any advice as far as that goes (if that is indeed the root problem) - I will say though, even if it ends in rejection oftentimes just going out there, talking to people, and giving it a try is uplifting.
thanks for you support man
Heeeey guys! turns around and leaves
It's just sex...
DAY 4: still. not. fapped.
Like. A. Boss.
And yet I provided him with advice and he wanted to take a go at it, so lets drop it, okay?
Holy crap, you're going to beat my record!
I'm so proud of you. I know a close friend going through something like this... something but not entirely. good luck.
DAY 5 : GODDAMMIT !!!!! i did it before going to school
omg i only stood 4 days and a half .
OK OK i'm not gonna let this put me down ! i'm gonna try to finish my whole month anyway !!!!and still, i have never been that far since 3 years , so its not that bad.
Between, i don't know why but after these 4 days i felt a lot happier. It makes me want to beat that record
It's okay. You made it further than I have in a long time!
You got this man! It's so cool to see you wanting this change:P Just know you got a lot of people here backing you up, and more still going through the same thing and looking to see how you handle it!
Well congrats on making it 4 days and that you are willing to TRY to beat that record.
I used to be like you at a very young age. Not to sound TOO graphic but my hands were always in my pants. At 25 years old, I've learned to control it.
A lot of people may think you have some sort of Sexual Addiction. I've even heard some experts say hypersexual behaviors such as compulsive masturbation may lead or cause addiction. I've even heard some say its a medical condition.
There is nothing to be embarrassed about. You should be very proud for trying to control this habit.
Have you tried seeing a specialist? Or even a doctor? I'd try these options and see if there is something they can help you with. Again, congrats on trying to make an effort. Hopefully everything works out for you. 
Well that's not a bad effort! Maybe doing it in the morning or evening is a good thing since you can relieve any work-related stress. Remember, it's completely healthy to masturbate. So don't feel bad if you can't completely stop yourself.
thank you all guys :P
thanks ! and yeah i already told a doctor about that an he didn't helped me about it very much![:\](https://community.telltalegames.com/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
he talked to me like i was a little child :
he said '' it's all normal at your age young man, nothing to do with that '' and then he told me he had other patients so i have to leave -_-