That only happened to me once in 2nd grade. Usually, I'm the one asking someone out and get rejected. Besides, I'm not that good looking, and I'm pretty awkward most of the time.
I'd like to think that if this is your biggest trouble, your life is pretty fucking good.
* I've had a woman who Slash my tires tw… moreice.
* Punch me daily
* broke a beer bottle over my head in anger
* Accuse me of things, that i wasn't doing ie Cheating, talking to other girls.
* Trashed my house a few times
* She would get super drunk and belligerent to the point of no return. She had a condition that she would get extremely paranoid and when she drank it got extremely bad.
* I had a woman take a beer bottle and break it over a countertop when i broke up with her. She lunged at me, with the crazy look in her eyes, i wasn't sure i was going to make it that day, i ran to my truck and never looked back.
I've been in a couple abusive relationships, Women are just as capable of being abusers as a man.
As a man its even harder to deal with, because people call you out for it. They expect the "man" to lay down the law, and that just isn't who i am as a person. I'm the kind of person that avoids fighting if possible, especially now. I grew up with it my entire life. When you tell people that she is violent/abusive, you aren't believed.
The only reason why i was able to break up with that particular girl was she assaulted me in front a group of people, and i was able to get away from her at that point. I did it the best way i thought possible, because deep down i am too nice. People take advantage of me because of it.
People need to realize men and women are equally capable of violence. Don't let the innocent look fool you.
I think there was this girl in high school that had a crush on me. I didn't notice it back then. I guess I wasn't interested. I didn't want to get too attached to women as i feared the consequences. But i think i'm a little more open now.
In before somebody comes in the with CDC's 40% male victim statistic - that includes all forms of abuse including slapping and pushing. When you go to more violent things like beating, burning, use of knieves/guns, women are the victim 2 to 5 times more often than men.
That's not to belittle male victims of domenstic violence, it should be dealt with and people should be more willing to come out - an issue that's a much cultural as it is legal. BUT - if you're going to throw out statistics, they should be correct.
Well when I was in school I genuinely didn't get it and for the most part I just ignored them because I thought they were joking, of course I made an exception with the girl I actually liked :P
But anyways, now, well last time someone explicitly asked me out I said "I'm not really interested in having a relationship with anyone right now" and she seemed really hurt and never talked to me again, I mean I'm a pretty blunt person so I get it, I didn't even try to soften the punch but she was 16 and I was 21, I mean 5 years isn't that big an age difference but she was just a kid, I genuinely had no interest at all in going out with her.
As for more recent occurrences, well if I'm honest I've only had the one girlfriend when I was 15 and she asked me out so I don't really know what to do, I mean it's weird I'm extremely good at flirting and making girls get interested in me but once they are paying attention and clearly want to hang out with me I kinda just do nothing, last time I went to a party I had 4 girls that wanted to dance with me and I just said "Eh.., I don't dance and I really don't like that kind of music" and just stood there, one of them wouldn't let me stay still and dragged me all over and two were literally rubbing themselves against me and I had no reaction at all, after 2 hours I just said I was bored and left.
Eh... I guess I'm so socially inept that not acknowledging that it's happening is what I do.
Well, I know that if you're being nice to people they'll think it's encouraging. I know this yet I do the same damn thing every time. I'm being nice, dude misunderstands, then I start to ignore the person, after that I either switch to rage mode and tell him to leave me alone or I just delete the contact If I can x) I don't want to hurt people but some of them are so stupid. It's so frustrating when someone doesn't get that you're not interested... but thankfully I've never had a crazy person in my life.
Well, I know that if you're being nice to people they'll think it's encouraging. I know this yet I do the same damn thing every time. I'm be… moreing nice, dude misunderstands, then I start to ignore the person, after that I either switch to rage mode and tell him to leave me alone or I just delete the contact If I can x) I don't want to hurt people but some of them are so stupid. It's so frustrating when someone doesn't get that you're not interested... but thankfully I've never had a crazy person in my life.
They're just as capable, yes, but even if the predicted men not reporting cases of abusive came forward, women rape/abuse statistics would still be far higher.
Because that's just how gender works at the moment: if you're a male you are more likely to be aggressive and resort to violence. It's a by product of a sexist society.
Eh, I have an extreme version that too, alongside depression.
It's just about being social in protected ways. Meeting one stranger to you with a best friend who knows them well is a start, then going with friends basically everywhere you go, until you feel able to do it on your own.
I couldn't go to the gym at all because I was too scared of the guys there, even though I'm pretty masculine myself. But after my husband went with me for a couple of months, eventually I managed to go alone.
I'm just trying to say we need to look past the sexes at this point. Anyone can shoot someone in the face with a 357, it just takes a crazy mind. I've think their would be a lot of unreported crimes, that never get talked about because of the social stigma, on both sides of the sexes.
If a woman rapes a man imo it would be discounted as false by the majority of people. Anything can be true. The whole weaker sex thing might of been true before strength training, I've seen some buff bitches.
They're just as capable, yes, but even if the predicted men not reporting cases of abusive came forward, women rape/abuse statistics would s… moretill be far higher.
Because that's just how gender works at the moment: if you're a male you are more likely to be aggressive and resort to violence. It's a by product of a sexist society.
One of my first experiences back on the dating scene after coming back to the states. I met this girl at work, at a job i was working when i was going to college for the second time. We start hitting it off, and we end up having relations. I liked her and wanted to keep seeing her, so i'm taking her home after just coming back from dinner, we haven't defined our relationship at this point.
So i ask her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, and she starts to immediate sob, and tells me this story how her last boyfriend put a gun to his head and said if i can't have you i don't want to live, and shot himself dead. I don't know if its true, but she ended up quitting her job just to avoid me LOL. I mean honestly i took it pretty well, and moved on at that point.
Yes i agree.
I'm just trying to say we need to look past the sexes at this point. Anyone can shoot someone in the face with a 357, it j… moreust takes a crazy mind. I've think their would be a lot of unreported crimes, that never get talked about because of the social stigma, on both sides of the sexes.
If a woman rapes a man imo it would be discounted as false by the majority of people. Anything can be true. The whole weaker sex thing might of been true before strength training, I've seen some buff bitches.
One of my first experiences back on the dating scene after coming back to the states. I met this girl at work, at a job i was working when … morei was going to college for the second time. We start hitting it off, and we end up having relations. I liked her and wanted to keep seeing her, so i'm taking her home after just coming back from dinner, we haven't defined our relationship at this point.
So i ask her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, and she starts to immediate sob, and tells me this story how her last boyfriend put a gun to his head and said if i can't have you i don't want to live, and shot himself dead. I don't know if its true, but she ended up quitting her job just to avoid me LOL. I mean honestly i took it pretty well, and moved on at that point.
Yes exactly, that's why I identify as a feminist in my university, which in academia isn't just being pro-equal rights it's being extremely anti-all gender concepts.
It's fighting for a gender-blind society, which I think would be awesome.
Yes i agree.
I'm just trying to say we need to look past the sexes at this point. Anyone can shoot someone in the face with a 357, it j… moreust takes a crazy mind. I've think their would be a lot of unreported crimes, that never get talked about because of the social stigma, on both sides of the sexes.
If a woman rapes a man imo it would be discounted as false by the majority of people. Anything can be true. The whole weaker sex thing might of been true before strength training, I've seen some buff bitches.
Yes exactly, that's why I identify as a feminist in my university, which in academia isn't just being pro-equal rights it's being extremely anti-all gender concepts.
It's fighting for a gender-blind society, which I think would be awesome.
Yes exactly, that's why I identify as a feminist in my university, which in academia isn't just being pro-equal rights it's being extremely anti-all gender concepts.
It's fighting for a gender-blind society, which I think would be awesome.
Of course it will to some people - because some people are scared of all change.
But the facts are, in a genderless society literally everyone wins. No pressure on women to starve themselves to death, no pressure on men to go to the gym seven billion times a week, no pressure on women to be afraid to express opinions and vote, no pressure on men to hide their feelings..
Of course it will to some people - because some people are scared of all change.
But the facts are, in a genderless society literally eve… moreryone wins. No pressure on women to starve themselves to death, no pressure on men to go to the gym seven billion times a week, no pressure on women to be afraid to express opinions and vote, no pressure on men to hide their feelings..
Why would it possibly be bad?
This isn't saying 'let's all chop off our bits and unflatter our bodies so we all look exactly the same', it's saying that we shouldn't pressure people into doing things or being things because of what they've got between their legs, and our society currently does to a huge extent.
Your making generalisations men can have anorexia and women can go to the gym too much. I dont know what century you've just transported yourself from but I dont know any women that are scared of voting. There are differences between men and women but it doesn't have to be a bad thing women should be able to be feminine without people looking down their noses and saying "thats societies fault" and man should have the rogjt to be masculine. People should be who they want to be not forcef to live in some genderless utopio I know transvestites that are the girliest girls Ive met and ive met girls that are butch as fuck and proud, if you want to be androgynous thats your choice but dont fool yourself into believing your choice is right for everyone because its not
Of course it will to some people - because some people are scared of all change.
But the facts are, in a genderless society literally eve… moreryone wins. No pressure on women to starve themselves to death, no pressure on men to go to the gym seven billion times a week, no pressure on women to be afraid to express opinions and vote, no pressure on men to hide their feelings..
Why would it possibly be bad?
Yes exactly, that's why I identify as a feminist in my university, which in academia isn't just being pro-equal rights it's being extremely anti-all gender concepts.
It's fighting for a gender-blind society, which I think would be awesome.
Umm, I never said men and women couldn't do those thing. But society pressures them into doing those things more than the other way around, which is the point.
Lot's of women are scared of voting: far fewer women vote in election than men (google it).
Of course men have the right to be masculine. They also have the right to be 'feminine' or 'nothing' because 'masculine' and 'feminine' are greatly entrenched in our society for no reason.
There's no biological reason why pink is 'girly' in society, and blue is 'for boys',It's all society's bullshit.
I'm not saying everyone should be androynous. I'm saying people should look however the fuck they want without having gender imposed on them. That way if you're angdogynous you're not less female or less male, you just are. There's no such thing, in this society, as the ideal man or the ideal woman. It's just people being who the fuck they are.
Your making generalisations men can have anorexia and women can go to the gym too much. I dont know what century you've just transported you… morerself from but I dont know any women that are scared of voting. There are differences between men and women but it doesn't have to be a bad thing women should be able to be feminine without people looking down their noses and saying "thats societies fault" and man should have the rogjt to be masculine. People should be who they want to be not forcef to live in some genderless utopio I know transvestites that are the girliest girls Ive met and ive met girls that are butch as fuck and proud, if you want to be androgynous thats your choice but dont fool yourself into believing your choice is right for everyone because its not
No idea, never dated a girl and I doubt anyone's ever been interested, and if they have I move every three years anyhow so I guess that works for me. I'm definitely not dating anyone until after college.
But dang, I know if anyone that I wasn't interested in wanted to date me, I'd be to nice, I don't like causing pain, yet that would possibly make it worse.
Women dont not go to elections because there scared dont be so bloody ridiculous, I didnt vote because I couldn't be arsed!
Gender isn't imposed on us men and women exist because nature dictates that there be a male and female in order to reproduce, men and women are different and are attracted to different thing even in nature. I recently saw a doc where they were testing how much of this is environmental or chemicaland I was shocked that in experiments where girl and boy toys where presented to children they usually took the one that was supposed to appeal to their gender, they then did the same test with monkeys and the results were pretty much the same. We are different bbecause we have different roles to fulfill only women can give birth and this is what this all stems from, I dont want to change that it shouldn't be changed.
Umm, I never said men and women couldn't do those thing. But society pressures them into doing those things more than the other way around, … morewhich is the point.
Lot's of women are scared of voting: far fewer women vote in election than men (google it).
Of course men have the right to be masculine. They also have the right to be 'feminine' or 'nothing' because 'masculine' and 'feminine' are greatly entrenched in our society for no reason.
There's no biological reason why pink is 'girly' in society, and blue is 'for boys',It's all society's bullshit.
I'm not saying everyone should be androynous. I'm saying people should look however the fuck they want without having gender imposed on them. That way if you're angdogynous you're not less female or less male, you just are. There's no such thing, in this society, as the ideal man or the ideal woman. It's just people being who the fuck they are.
Get into lifting weights Gary, best advice i can give you. If you stick with it, it will fix all your anxiety problems give you the self confidence you never thought you could have.
It won't be such a issue imo 200 years, they'll be technology that we can't even comprehend.
Like i said bro, i bet it will be as simple as taking a pill. Just last week they just recently developed the first artificial antibodies, now with more research this could be a cure for things like aids, cancer whatever. It is taken orally. I read about it on daily mail, quite interesting if you want to read the article yourself.
Technology, and how fast things are coming, kind of blows me a way. Its just insane.
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I can relate to that.
Well I'd say you found your 'type'.
Ebil?
So Evil it becomes EBIL the definition of Evil.
Anyone can be a abuser.
As a man its even harder to deal with, because people call you out for it. They expect the "man" to lay down the law, and that just isn't who i am as a person. I'm the kind of person that avoids fighting if possible, especially now. I grew up with it my entire life. When you tell people that she is violent/abusive, you aren't believed.
The only reason why i was able to break up with that particular girl was she assaulted me in front a group of people, and i was able to get away from her at that point. I did it the best way i thought possible, because deep down i am too nice. People take advantage of me because of it.
People need to realize men and women are equally capable of violence. Don't let the innocent look fool you.
I think there was this girl in high school that had a crush on me. I didn't notice it back then. I guess I wasn't interested. I didn't want to get too attached to women as i feared the consequences. But i think i'm a little more open now.
Yeah its just that most abuse cases have men as the perpetrators.
In before somebody comes in the with CDC's 40% male victim statistic - that includes all forms of abuse including slapping and pushing. When you go to more violent things like beating, burning, use of knieves/guns, women are the victim 2 to 5 times more often than men.
That's not to belittle male victims of domenstic violence, it should be dealt with and people should be more willing to come out - an issue that's a much cultural as it is legal. BUT - if you're going to throw out statistics, they should be correct.
Well when I was in school I genuinely didn't get it and for the most part I just ignored them because I thought they were joking, of course I made an exception with the girl I actually liked :P
But anyways, now, well last time someone explicitly asked me out I said "I'm not really interested in having a relationship with anyone right now" and she seemed really hurt and never talked to me again, I mean I'm a pretty blunt person so I get it, I didn't even try to soften the punch but she was 16 and I was 21, I mean 5 years isn't that big an age difference but she was just a kid, I genuinely had no interest at all in going out with her.
As for more recent occurrences, well if I'm honest I've only had the one girlfriend when I was 15 and she asked me out so I don't really know what to do, I mean it's weird I'm extremely good at flirting and making girls get interested in me but once they are paying attention and clearly want to hang out with me I kinda just do nothing, last time I went to a party I had 4 girls that wanted to dance with me and I just said "Eh.., I don't dance and I really don't like that kind of music" and just stood there, one of them wouldn't let me stay still and dragged me all over and two were literally rubbing themselves against me and I had no reaction at all, after 2 hours I just said I was bored and left.
Eh... I guess I'm so socially inept that not acknowledging that it's happening is what I do.
Well, I know that if you're being nice to people they'll think it's encouraging. I know this yet I do the same damn thing every time. I'm being nice, dude misunderstands, then I start to ignore the person, after that I either switch to rage mode and tell him to leave me alone or I just delete the contact If I can x) I don't want to hurt people but some of them are so stupid. It's so frustrating when someone doesn't get that you're not interested... but thankfully I've never had a crazy person in my life.
I have a hard time being mean as well. Especially when women cry, that cuts through me like glass.
They're just as capable, yes, but even if the predicted men not reporting cases of abusive came forward, women rape/abuse statistics would still be far higher.
Because that's just how gender works at the moment: if you're a male you are more likely to be aggressive and resort to violence. It's a by product of a sexist society.
Eh, I have an extreme version that too, alongside depression.
It's just about being social in protected ways. Meeting one stranger to you with a best friend who knows them well is a start, then going with friends basically everywhere you go, until you feel able to do it on your own.
I couldn't go to the gym at all because I was too scared of the guys there, even though I'm pretty masculine myself. But after my husband went with me for a couple of months, eventually I managed to go alone.
Yes i agree.
I'm just trying to say we need to look past the sexes at this point. Anyone can shoot someone in the face with a 357, it just takes a crazy mind. I've think their would be a lot of unreported crimes, that never get talked about because of the social stigma, on both sides of the sexes.
If a woman rapes a man imo it would be discounted as false by the majority of people. Anything can be true. The whole weaker sex thing might of been true before strength training, I've seen some buff bitches.
It's never easy... But stay this way and try to avoid crazy women
One of my first experiences back on the dating scene after coming back to the states. I met this girl at work, at a job i was working when i was going to college for the second time. We start hitting it off, and we end up having relations. I liked her and wanted to keep seeing her, so i'm taking her home after just coming back from dinner, we haven't defined our relationship at this point.
So i ask her if she wanted to be my girlfriend, and she starts to immediate sob, and tells me this story how her last boyfriend put a gun to his head and said if i can't have you i don't want to live, and shot himself dead. I don't know if its true, but she ended up quitting her job just to avoid me LOL. I mean honestly i took it pretty well, and moved on at that point.
Oh god, that's horrible :S (I assume it's true, it would be an insane lie..) I guess you aren't lucky either.. You have some messed-up stories.
Yes exactly, that's why I identify as a feminist in my university, which in academia isn't just being pro-equal rights it's being extremely anti-all gender concepts.
It's fighting for a gender-blind society, which I think would be awesome.
you don't hit up enough gyms bro.
One day they'll be a pill where you can change your gender. Just wait.
I think you're more likely to get struck by lightning than to go to the gym and see a woman like that.
I don't want that though, I want there to be no concept of 'gender'
(To clarify, I am talking about gender and not sex.)
I think that sounds fucking awful
Of course it will to some people - because some people are scared of all change.
But the facts are, in a genderless society literally everyone wins. No pressure on women to starve themselves to death, no pressure on men to go to the gym seven billion times a week, no pressure on women to be afraid to express opinions and vote, no pressure on men to hide their feelings..
Why would it possibly be bad?
How would you know who actually has vagina though?
Um, by seeing if someone has breasts or not?
This isn't saying 'let's all chop off our bits and unflatter our bodies so we all look exactly the same', it's saying that we shouldn't pressure people into doing things or being things because of what they've got between their legs, and our society currently does to a huge extent.
Your making generalisations men can have anorexia and women can go to the gym too much. I dont know what century you've just transported yourself from but I dont know any women that are scared of voting. There are differences between men and women but it doesn't have to be a bad thing women should be able to be feminine without people looking down their noses and saying "thats societies fault" and man should have the rogjt to be masculine. People should be who they want to be not forcef to live in some genderless utopio I know transvestites that are the girliest girls Ive met and ive met girls that are butch as fuck and proud, if you want to be androgynous thats your choice but dont fool yourself into believing your choice is right for everyone because its not
That sounds like a wonderful, wonderful world.
Umm, I never said men and women couldn't do those thing. But society pressures them into doing those things more than the other way around, which is the point.
Lot's of women are scared of voting: far fewer women vote in election than men (google it).
Of course men have the right to be masculine. They also have the right to be 'feminine' or 'nothing' because 'masculine' and 'feminine' are greatly entrenched in our society for no reason.
There's no biological reason why pink is 'girly' in society, and blue is 'for boys',It's all society's bullshit.
I'm not saying everyone should be androynous. I'm saying people should look however the fuck they want without having gender imposed on them. That way if you're angdogynous you're not less female or less male, you just are. There's no such thing, in this society, as the ideal man or the ideal woman. It's just people being who the fuck they are.
We'll get there.
It's basically unavoidable. In 200 years the way we treat gender will be seen as archaic.
No idea, never dated a girl and I doubt anyone's ever been interested, and if they have I move every three years anyhow so I guess that works for me. I'm definitely not dating anyone until after college.
But dang, I know if anyone that I wasn't interested in wanted to date me, I'd be to nice, I don't like causing pain, yet that would possibly make it worse.
It is too bad that I will be dead by then...
I think the opposite.
It is damn good that I'll be long dead by then.
Women dont not go to elections because there scared dont be so bloody ridiculous, I didnt vote because I couldn't be arsed!
Gender isn't imposed on us men and women exist because nature dictates that there be a male and female in order to reproduce, men and women are different and are attracted to different thing even in nature. I recently saw a doc where they were testing how much of this is environmental or chemicaland I was shocked that in experiments where girl and boy toys where presented to children they usually took the one that was supposed to appeal to their gender, they then did the same test with monkeys and the results were pretty much the same. We are different bbecause we have different roles to fulfill only women can give birth and this is what this all stems from, I dont want to change that it shouldn't be changed.
i see them like that a lot actually. Its quite popular where i live, i guess.
Get into lifting weights Gary, best advice i can give you. If you stick with it, it will fix all your anxiety problems give you the self confidence you never thought you could have.
It won't be such a issue imo 200 years, they'll be technology that we can't even comprehend.
Like i said bro, i bet it will be as simple as taking a pill. Just last week they just recently developed the first artificial antibodies, now with more research this could be a cure for things like aids, cancer whatever. It is taken orally. I read about it on daily mail, quite interesting if you want to read the article yourself.
Technology, and how fast things are coming, kind of blows me a way. Its just insane.
I've pretty much been a lonely dragon my entire life so far, what can I say?