I understand what you're saying and respect it fully. But I hear that "you'll change your mind" jargon all the time from people and it goes … morein one ear and out the other. However, the choice is already made. My tubes are burned lol
I hope your kids grow up to be really nice people and you give them the best childhood ever. I'm glad you're not thinking of mindlessly popping them out for welfare or something crazy like that lol
I also don't want them. I don't dislike them or hate them or anything like that tho. It's also convenient that I don't care what other people think about that. I'm not here to please them so I don't care if someone thinks it's selfish (and oh boy, there are lots of folk who think that way or just think they know better). But then again, everything we do is selfish. Because we want it. Even when we help others and do things like that, or when we decide to have kids. It's just those things benefit society/government and thus it's encouraged.
Since I am 19 years old, I am pretty much unsure if I want to have kids in the future. I am either going with one or none. I cannot see myself as a father, but as a big brother figure, since I babysitted my step-sister and a cousin when I was younger, and boy it was not easy. Changing diapers is disgusting, not knowing what to do when a baby cries or basically being paranoid when you don't know if the kid will hate if you didn't do something he/she wanted. I would like to focus on my studies, get a nice job, live a life, play VG, party, travel, read as much as books as possible etc. I would take some convincing for me to have a child, but I can see myself having one and only one. Otherwise, I don't want them, especially more than one. My parents have lots of friends who either have 2 or 3 kids, and 95% of them are spoiled and annoying brats. Listening to them screaming and crying for stupid things (ex. not getting ice-cream) is so much to take... Plus, it will take a shitload of money to take care of them. Since I am the only child, my mom would love a grandchild in the next 10-15 years. My dad simply advised me not to even commit. I know that I might change my opinion in the future, but really I deeply thought about it, but it will probably either be one or none.
Yeah, if it's happening at all, it's probably happening within the next year or two. I've become quite familiar with how quickly time (and with it, health) can slip away from you.
If you're ready in all aspects, you should probably do it. Time slips between your fingers, and fertility problems can arise around that age, and then it might be impossible.
It's up to them, really. If you don't want kids, don't have any. It's your choice. Personally, I respect the hell out of anyone who wants to remain childfree, whether it's because they have big plans for their career, or they want to travel, whatever. And I'm always a fan of people making something out of their lives, whether it's "conventional" or not.
In my opinion, the days where procreating was an essential part of human survival to continue the human race is long gone. It's always an option for those who want it, but it's not really required anymore. Once the human population starts to decrease, maybe some things would be different but right now? Nah.
Also might I just say that the belief that a woman's SOLE JOB in life is to make lots of babies is such bullshit. It's no more a woman's job to procreate than it is a man's job to work day and night in a field or a mine. It might be a huge part of her life and she may experience lasting effects, but it's not her entire life and you're no less of a woman if you do not have kids.
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I love these.
lmao Oh hell no. No one wants that.
I wish your mother had Versacebabe's mindset. Making it one less asshole in the world. Just saying.
Good lord no lol
Maybe a little controversial? But I can get behind this...
I also don't want them. I don't dislike them or hate them or anything like that tho. It's also convenient that I don't care what other people think about that. I'm not here to please them so I don't care if someone thinks it's selfish (and oh boy, there are lots of folk who think that way or just think they know better). But then again, everything we do is selfish. Because we want it. Even when we help others and do things like that, or when we decide to have kids. It's just those things benefit society/government and thus it's encouraged.
I dunno, I would have a hard time choosing between being pregnant and being a drug addict. xD Both equally terrible for me.
Since I am 19 years old, I am pretty much unsure if I want to have kids in the future. I am either going with one or none. I cannot see myself as a father, but as a big brother figure, since I babysitted my step-sister and a cousin when I was younger, and boy it was not easy. Changing diapers is disgusting, not knowing what to do when a baby cries or basically being paranoid when you don't know if the kid will hate if you didn't do something he/she wanted. I would like to focus on my studies, get a nice job, live a life, play VG, party, travel, read as much as books as possible etc. I would take some convincing for me to have a child, but I can see myself having one and only one. Otherwise, I don't want them, especially more than one. My parents have lots of friends who either have 2 or 3 kids, and 95% of them are spoiled and annoying brats. Listening to them screaming and crying for stupid things (ex. not getting ice-cream) is so much to take... Plus, it will take a shitload of money to take care of them. Since I am the only child, my mom would love a grandchild in the next 10-15 years. My dad simply advised me not to even commit. I know that I might change my opinion in the future, but really I deeply thought about it, but it will probably either be one or none.
Yeah, if it's happening at all, it's probably happening within the next year or two. I've become quite familiar with how quickly time (and with it, health) can slip away from you.
I'm not really near that stage yet but well...idk even, that's something I would have to think about.
It's up to them, really. If you don't want kids, don't have any. It's your choice. Personally, I respect the hell out of anyone who wants to remain childfree, whether it's because they have big plans for their career, or they want to travel, whatever. And I'm always a fan of people making something out of their lives, whether it's "conventional" or not.
In my opinion, the days where procreating was an essential part of human survival to continue the human race is long gone. It's always an option for those who want it, but it's not really required anymore. Once the human population starts to decrease, maybe some things would be different but right now? Nah.
Also might I just say that the belief that a woman's SOLE JOB in life is to make lots of babies is such bullshit. It's no more a woman's job to procreate than it is a man's job to work day and night in a field or a mine. It might be a huge part of her life and she may experience lasting effects, but it's not her entire life and you're no less of a woman if you do not have kids.
Don't really care about passing on my genetic material.