My unfortunate story
I want to tell you something because I have no one else to tell this and I know you people are good listeners. Okay then.
Flashback to a month ago. My high school finals just ended and I was waiting for results. I was depressed because I knew Idid bath at math. To take my mind off o f things I installed an app called 9chat. There I've found one girl who was pretty and I started chatting her. The five days I've chatted her were the best days in my life. Until I asked for her number. And then she blocked me. I was feeling bad but I let her go with the help of my Australian friend.
I really moved on until yesterday. I saw she changed her profile pic and her beauty reminded me of the chat. I decided I should apologise to her so we can talk again. I did and I was suprised that she answered. We started chatting and she told me she doesn't feel good. She told me people around her and online made her sick. We ultimately decided we will delete our accounts there. So we did. I sent her a message on kik then. She told me to leave her alone and that she doesn't need anyone. I really want to help her. We are really alike and I fell in love with her. I know you can't possibly fall in love online, but I did. And she lives only two hour drive from me.I don't know what to do. She gave me hope when we started chatting again but it ended only with her breaking my heart.
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Soothe your pain
Leave her alone.
I want to help her. I don't want her to be alone through this.
A close friend of mine actually went through a similar situation as yours. This is my advice to him, but I'm not sure if it'll be of much help to you:
Learn to let go, you're only going to make it worse if you insist.
If there's even a possibility of me talking to her again, I won't let go. What happened with your friend?
He let it go once he realized it was just an online thing. It hit him hard nonetheless, but he has moved on from it. He went through another heartbreak recently and is having a hard time moving on from this one as it's more personal.
Trust me. You can learn to let this one go.
I'll try one more time and then I'll try to move on. Thanks.
I don't know who gave you the notion that it's impossible to fall in love online, but it's untrue. Ask her what's wrong, maybe she's suicidal, maybe she needs help. Offer your help, and give her numbers to suicide hotlines if need so, since you live really close to her, it will probably be the same number.
Once you say that, try to let go. You can't help everyone, and that's ok.
I've asked her what's wrong a lot of times and I said I'm always here to talk. But she just wants to be alone.
I've been through a lot of crap in my life and I know going solo isn't the way to go.
You don't want her to be alone through her wanting you to leave her alone?
Sounds like you need a big, tall glass of man the fuck up.
It's probably a catfish anyway.
Thanks for the kind words, stranger.
And believe me, I know a catfish when I see one.
You're welcome. And I mean that, because my advice is honestly the best that you're gonna get in this situation. It may sound harsh or abrasive, but consider it a wake-up call. Giving no fucks is the most empowering and freeing feeling there is.
He/she/it is playing you and will continue to do so until you come to that realization or he/she/it has had he/she/its fun. Cutting contact and moving on with your life is the best thing you can do for yourself.
Lol I'm sorry but this reply made me laugh.
This made me laugh too. She wants you to leave her alone, but you don't want her to be alone through it lol.
He said that they went on video chat, so how can she be a catfish? Lol
I don't see anything in his post that indicates that. 9chat isn't video chat.
From what I gathered, he saw he/she/it through he/she/its profile picture or a picture that he/she/it posted on the app. He said that he also messaged he/she/it on kik and he/she/it replied, which implies that they communicated through text.
She ain't worth the trouble. It seemed like she really didn't want to talk to you. Pushing the matter further won't help.
my advice is you need to stay away the cycle will always repeat itself of her wanting to talk then blocking you and you getting depression over all the bs all the time she is not into you and you deserve better then a person who just wants to avoid you not worth your time
You will just look back months later her with a new boyfriend and you have wasted all that time on a girl not interested I know the type to hot and cold this type are insane sometimes really mess with your head get away and find a girl who loves you to
Just lust a pretty face always makes the girl seem perfect almost angelic your true love I warn you a brief chat on the internet is never a true indication of a person and a pretty face can never have a fault in peoples eyes XD
Also could be a catfish
Anyway I'm not sure just trying to help and best of luck bro
I recommend finding another girl who wants to talk to you and won't mess you around this nearly always ends badly imo
Try to leave her alone for a while, but do not let go and do not go away. Maybe she's just afraid to tell you about something important? She may think that she no one needs. But it is the right moment to tell her about your feelings. Tell her that you love her and that you need it. Let her know the truth!
Good luck to you!
Stay away from online chat romances, you could be talking to a guy for all you know. If you want to meet someone try tinder.
Trust me when I say this that she seems more like a catfish, reason why is because she met you and knows how much you feel about her so she goes into this thing of blocking you for a while, then talks to you, blocks you again and doesn't want to talk to you and makes you think there is a problem to make you go in deeper for her and then she will talk to you again and the cycle continues with blocking and talking.
There's nothing you can do right now. Wait six months. (Yeah, I know that puts us around Valentine's Day, but that's just a coincidence. You can push it slightly earlier or later to avoid that.)
Then send her a message saying you've been thinking about her and are wondering if she's doing any better. Say you respect her wishes to stay away, but you'll always be available if she wants to chat, and all she has to do is start one if she ever wants to talk.
If she doesn't respond to that, it's over. Leave her alone.
Five days is nothing. It sounds like you are mostly interested in her for her looks anyway ("found one girl who was pretty" was all you used to describe her, "I saw she changed her profile pic and her beauty reminded me of the chat" makes it seem like you were thinking with your other head). If she's asking you to leave her alone, leave her alone. Acting thirsty and desperate will rarely make a girl view you as anything other than an annoyance. I know all this is really harsh, but I've been that girl and have known other girls in the exact same situation and if she's telling you to leave her alone, then leave her alone. This type of thing rarely ends well so it's better to stop now then let things escalate.
Heh. That's what my friend went through. He constantly bothered her and got annoyed. Always saying he's over it but keeps on going.
So yea, better to give this shit up.
Don't be like that guy. Nobody wants a Ted Mosby.
Give her the space she wants, she doesn't want to talk and doesn't want help. If you really want to help her respect her wishes and leave her be. She'll talk to you when she's ready to.
My grandfather who served in the military, one of my inspirations, told me these keywords to get me through hard times.
"F it, two tears in a bucket." I took those to heart, especially when shit got real.
I've had dramas similar to this in my past. When I look back on them I'm always happier with the ones where I disappeared as soon as possible without any followup. Never feels good either way, but once the dust settles I'm ALWAYS grateful when I didn't extend the drama further.
I just cant get over the pain she must be going through. I really want to help and I don't want her to go through this alone.
How old are you?
Okay, first of all, Online relationships and 'love' are a horribly slippery slope. You really only fall in love with an image of them you conjure in your mind. Even if you see a picture of them, that doesn't mean you actually know them. Just because you have things in common and enjoy talking, doesn't mean you two are completely compatible lovers who could spend an entire life together. I had someone this year, within a week of conversing with through my art business, wanted to begin a online relationship. I told him no, and he continued to press the matter. So, I had to make things clear, and now that we've been talking for 6 months, and he had found out what I'm really like, he has never brought up dating again. He knows who I am now, how I react to things, and realizes that I may have seemed like a great match to him at first, but when he understood who I was, he was not interested.
Another thing, you have to think of this as if you were the one being pursued. Would you really want for someone to keep on chasing after you after you made it clear that you were not interested?
Do you think if she felt the same, she would've blocked you? I'm sorry man, getting rejected sucks majorly. But, you need to move on before things get any more serious or drama filled. Looking back on another day, you will be glad you dropped the issue before things escalated.
You let it go, guy. If a girl tells you to stay away, you let it go.
This wins the internet. What you just said is articulate, valid, and true.
Focus on real life, worrying about some girl on the internet is just stupid, if you knew her in real life it would make more sense. Just dont bother stressing over it, for all you know she could be playing you and making up excuses for you to stop talking to her.
If she asks you to leave her alone, do it.
Guys these days are mistaking "no" for "convince me."
That is true poetry!
If she says, "I want to end it all"...Send her a box of razor blades and wish her the best
But yeah, he's obsessing and because he's "depressed" (undiagnosed by a true professional), he needs to focus a bit more on himself and probably practice some more math problems because he obviously wasn't prepared for the finals! How will he do next year, or in college, or in life???? Tragic!
I'm sorry, what?
A girl's like a fridge, once a week you should stalk it.