Bullies are usually wimps. I got bullied a few times before during primary school. I just told them to "piss off" and told the teacher about it. Then they will not dare to bully you anymore.
Bullies are usually wimps. I got bullied a few times before during primary school. I just told them to "piss off" and told the teacher about it. Then they will not dare to bully you anymore.
Bullies are usually wimps. I got bullied a few times before during primary school. I just told them to "piss off" and told the teacher about it. Then they will not dare to bully you anymore.
Sure, I got made fun of on the bus, if that counts. Not really though. Hearing the shit kids pull these days with the internet and their smartphones makes me glad I grew up in the days before cellphones in the good old days of AOL dial-up.
Sure, I got made fun of on the bus, if that counts. Not really though. Hearing the shit kids pull these days with the internet and their sma… morertphones makes me glad I grew up in the days before cellphones in the good old days of AOL dial-up.
And Lunchboxes.
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In middle school I was harassed, called names, and treated rudely. It made me a withdrawn, cynical, friendless person in high school. But after graduating high school, I realized that bullies weren't worth getting upset or angry about. What matters in life wasn't them. It's pursuing happiness and interests. With this came new found confidence and now I'm not like I was before. I can laugh at bullies now because I have logic on my side.
Same here. Teachers for me (in both primary and secondary school) tell you to just ignore it while ignoring the real issue of how these kids are acting and how it will hurt everyone, including the bully themselves.
Used to be called all kinds of names because my skin is too light and because my hair is too puffy. Got beaten up repeatedly for a total of 4 years (I think the equivalent to what would be the end of primary school to the end of middle school in the US) by the same guy. We studied in a Catholic school. He was expelled eventually, not for beating me up, but for telling a nun to shut up. The asshole broke my Game Boy Color with my Pokémon Blue version in. Smashed it in the ground. Told me I wasn't girly enough and then beat me up again. Near the end of middle school, he started with the rape threats. And yes, I told my parents, my teachers, the nuns, his parents and everybody was just like "Oh that's just how kids are" or "he does it because he likes you" or "if you stop crying he will stop doing it". Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
With today's shitty society where you can get stabbed for looking at someone funny, I don't think I'd be far from the truth if I said everyone's gotten bullied in their lifetime.
Jesus, rape threats? Personally, that would be a turning point for me. I wouldn't hesitate to get a steel bat and see if he still decides to give rape threats.
I find it absolutely disgusting how people an shrug off abuse/threats and use it as a way to tell kids that they're liked. And the fact that the only reason he was expelled was for telling a nun to shut up, and not because he threaten to rape you, is the reason why I still own a steel bat. Ugh, shit like that makes me sick. Sorry you had to go through that.
Yes. I still have the scars to prove it.
Used to be called all kinds of names because my skin is too light and because my hair is too puf… morefy. Got beaten up repeatedly for a total of 4 years (I think the equivalent to what would be the end of primary school to the end of middle school in the US) by the same guy. We studied in a Catholic school. He was expelled eventually, not for beating me up, but for telling a nun to shut up. The asshole broke my Game Boy Color with my Pokémon Blue version in. Smashed it in the ground. Told me I wasn't girly enough and then beat me up again. Near the end of middle school, he started with the rape threats. And yes, I told my parents, my teachers, the nuns, his parents and everybody was just like "Oh that's just how kids are" or "he does it because he likes you" or "if you stop crying he will stop doing it". Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
@CrazedRabbit and @xboxplayer_12 Luckily for me, the teachers here do care. There used to be a bully in my school, and he was from China. He was expelled in his first year in the school.
Some teachers do not care but most do in my country. Once, someone bullied me and I poured water on him and humiliated him and got him scolded. The teachers here are very reasonable, seriously
In primary school.. I had some solid friends but there were other people that were absolute snake douche bags that are just out to put you down, avoid them.
High School was awesome though and I made plenty of worthwhile friends and I'm actually glad I went through everything I went through, makes me tougher and more alert... If nothing bad ever happens to you? How will you ever learn from it? Because when something bad eventually does happen you won't know how to deal with it.
One thing I learned is there is always a reason as to why people act the way they do, everyone has their own problems, the seemingly happier kids at school have family problems at home.. the bullies usually got bullied when they were younger, don't take things personally unless someone makes it personal.
Yes. I got bullied in high school, not with violence but with words. The girls in my classes would say shitty things to put me down for years, that by the time I left school I had regressed into a vegetable state of living, that for the first year after I just sat in front of a computer screen not knowing what or how to live my life. I was so withdrawn, socializing was impossible! My grades were a mess because of the bullying and time absent from school, and I've only been able to make up for it with classes at an adult community college and NVQs gained from volunteering.
The bullying has scarred me for life. I can't go to a normal college or even think about university, because the environments remind me too much of that time as a teenager. I arrived at a college once and the crowds of young adults outside there had me turning and leaving almost straight away. I did volunteering at a college for ONE day and I hated it, the worst part being forced to sit in that crowded cafeteria feeling like everybody was watching me. Recently I tried to do an IT course at this other place prior, but I had to back out and go back to the adult community college, and why? Because the computer college course was based in an old primary school and the strict and seriousness with how things were dealt with there was too much, I had to get out of there.
Want to know the best part in all this? When I was getting bullied at school, the staff at the school didn't have any interest whatsoever in stopping the bullying, but instead said I should go to another school! And then I wasn't coming in as much the school because of the bullying, the school targeted my Mom threatening legal action. I mean why bother dealing with a bunch of troublemakers if they can just pick on the one kid instead? Perfect logic!
You get told to say stay quiet and the bullies will go away, but you know what? The tactic ruined me! I have no confidence in myself, my anxiety is through the roof and socializing is still difficult. If I could go back in time to that point in my life, I would've given those bitches a piece of my mind the moment they started picking on me!
When I was grade 2 and kinder, people used to make fun of me. Even my cousin made fun of me. But when I growed up, nobody can bullies me. Last fucker puts his hands on me, gets a mark into his/her face.
I didn't get a steel bat, but one day I lost my cool after he destroyed my drawing notebook and kicked his back really hard. He fell on his face and cut his lip. One of the most satisfying moments of my life.
And really, karma got him. Not the "magic" kind of karma, the "be an asshole and see where it gets you" kind of karma. He got expelled from two other schools and ended up working as a bus conductor (I don't know if that's the right expression for it. A guy who doesn't drive the bus, but he works in the bus collecting the passengers' money. I don't know if that's a thing in the USA). Meanwhile, I went to Law School and I'm a lawyer now, about to start my specialization next year
Jesus, rape threats? Personally, that would be a turning point for me. I wouldn't hesitate to get a steel bat and see if he still decides to… more give rape threats.
I find it absolutely disgusting how people an shrug off abuse/threats and use it as a way to tell kids that they're liked. And the fact that the only reason he was expelled was for telling a nun to shut up, and not because he threaten to rape you, is the reason why I still own a steel bat. Ugh, shit like that makes me sick. Sorry you had to go through that.
@CrazedRabbit and @xboxplayer_12 Luckily for me, the teachers here do care. There used to be a bully in my school, and he was from China. He was expelled in his first year in the school.
Yes. I still have the scars to prove it.
Used to be called all kinds of names because my skin is too light and because my hair is too puf… morefy. Got beaten up repeatedly for a total of 4 years (I think the equivalent to what would be the end of primary school to the end of middle school in the US) by the same guy. We studied in a Catholic school. He was expelled eventually, not for beating me up, but for telling a nun to shut up. The asshole broke my Game Boy Color with my Pokémon Blue version in. Smashed it in the ground. Told me I wasn't girly enough and then beat me up again. Near the end of middle school, he started with the rape threats. And yes, I told my parents, my teachers, the nuns, his parents and everybody was just like "Oh that's just how kids are" or "he does it because he likes you" or "if you stop crying he will stop doing it". Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
QFT,
I don't even talk about what i went through because its so crazy, compared how things are now. Its like night and day, i guess they realised that a lot of people were coming out,. messed up. I remember seeing my shop teacher in the punch my friend in the face. That's just one of the lovely memories i have from my childhood. I tended to try to block out my childhood, but i still remember some things.
Yes. I still have the scars to prove it.
Used to be called all kinds of names because my skin is too light and because my hair is too puf… morefy. Got beaten up repeatedly for a total of 4 years (I think the equivalent to what would be the end of primary school to the end of middle school in the US) by the same guy. We studied in a Catholic school. He was expelled eventually, not for beating me up, but for telling a nun to shut up. The asshole broke my Game Boy Color with my Pokémon Blue version in. Smashed it in the ground. Told me I wasn't girly enough and then beat me up again. Near the end of middle school, he started with the rape threats. And yes, I told my parents, my teachers, the nuns, his parents and everybody was just like "Oh that's just how kids are" or "he does it because he likes you" or "if you stop crying he will stop doing it". Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
Yes. I got bullied in high school, not with violence but with words. The girls in my classes would say shitty things to put me down for year… mores, that by the time I left school I had regressed into a vegetable state of living, that for the first year after I just sat in front of a computer screen not knowing what or how to live my life. I was so withdrawn, socializing was impossible! My grades were a mess because of the bullying and time absent from school, and I've only been able to make up for it with classes at an adult community college and NVQs gained from volunteering.
The bullying has scarred me for life. I can't go to a normal college or even think about university, because the environments remind me too much of that time as a teenager. I arrived at a college once and the crowds of young adults outside there had me turning and leaving almost straight away. I did volunteering at a college for ONE day and I hated it, the worst part bein… [view original content]
I understand. I had teachers that hit kids, too, but that was rarer and only happened to me with the ballet teacher (ballet was an optional class, and I ended up leaving it). The others, it didn't happen with me, but with kids in my class. A geography teacher on primary school that would smack kids around with a book if they were not paying attention, a physics teacher on the last year of middle school who would throw small objects at people who made "dumb questions" and a ballet teacher on primary school that literally stomp on us and called us all sort of synonyms for "worthless" if we couldn't perform as she wanted. I don't miss my childhood at all. I love being an adult. I love being in control of my life.
A lot of people complain that now adults protect the kids too much, and that's why they have no respect for anyone anymore, and maybe that's true, but the kids are the weaker side of the relationship. I think people need to be able to identify when something is just going too far. Sometimes, it is a matter of the kid learning to fight their own battles, but other times there is just no way the kid can win that battle alone.
Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
QFT,
I don't even talk about what i went through becau… morese its so crazy, compared how things are now. Its like night and day, i guess they realised that a lot of people were coming out,. messed up. I remember seeing my shop teacher in the punch my friend in the face. That's just one of the lovely memories i have from my childhood. I tended to try to block out my childhood, but i still remember some things.
I don't know, there are things in my past i never told my parents about, or anyone. It was just things were, and we knew what to do to not make worse. I remember teachers bullying students. I had a science teacher, that taught us earch science or whatever, and he would just pick on this one girl for living in the "rich" part of town. At that time, it wasn't easy to stand up against bullying, but i did to help this girl. So he started to bully me, but i didn't care because i was getting it from other people as well. Things happened there, that would be front page daily mail articles today.
I understand. I had teachers that hit kids, too, but that was rarer and only happened to me with the ballet teacher (ballet was an optional … moreclass, and I ended up leaving it). The others, it didn't happen with me, but with kids in my class. A geography teacher on primary school that would smack kids around with a book if they were not paying attention, a physics teacher on the last year of middle school who would throw small objects at people who made "dumb questions" and a ballet teacher on primary school that literally stomp on us and called us all sort of synonyms for "worthless" if we couldn't perform as she wanted. I don't miss my childhood at all. I love being an adult. I love being in control of my life.
A lot of people complain that now adults protect the kids too much, and that's why they have no respect for anyone anymore, and maybe that's true, but the kids are the weaker side of the relationship. I think people need to be able t… [view original content]
Damn, kids know how to be mean. And it bothers me how some people don't take it seriously. Especially teachers, since they're supposed to see what happens in class. I'm sorry to hear about what you had to go through. I've been bullied in the past, so I can relate a bit.
Yes. I still have the scars to prove it.
Used to be called all kinds of names because my skin is too light and because my hair is too puf… morefy. Got beaten up repeatedly for a total of 4 years (I think the equivalent to what would be the end of primary school to the end of middle school in the US) by the same guy. We studied in a Catholic school. He was expelled eventually, not for beating me up, but for telling a nun to shut up. The asshole broke my Game Boy Color with my Pokémon Blue version in. Smashed it in the ground. Told me I wasn't girly enough and then beat me up again. Near the end of middle school, he started with the rape threats. And yes, I told my parents, my teachers, the nuns, his parents and everybody was just like "Oh that's just how kids are" or "he does it because he likes you" or "if you stop crying he will stop doing it". Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
Well, this thread has effectively quelled any intentions I had at reproducing...
Two things suck nowadways, one is that parents will ally with their kids against even the teachers, believing their kid can do no wrong, and two is you can't even hit your kids anymore, no matter how much they're acting like little shits. The only thing you can do is call the police, and then half the time the cops just end up beating the kid harder than any disciplinarian parent would and give them a criminal record and potential jail sentence. Because that's so much more productive. That is if they don't shoot the kid.
I'm an adult and law permits self defense so... at least as an adult I have been free of bullies.
It's hard to define a bully (not the dictionary definition.) as some of them are quite harmless while other ones go so far that they push people over the edge almost literally.
So yeah I have probably been bullied to some extend but never by group of organized people doing so together or anything like that. Heck, I have probably bullied some others during my non-adult life even if I didn't always realize it until later.
So yeah, some people might get closest of being bullied by someone throwing toilet paper at them once to getting into physical conflicts that lead to hospital visits.
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Indeed. Not anymore, thankfully.
Too many times. Not anymore though.
You've had to never go outside once in your entire life to have never been bullied.
Before.
I'm friends with nearly everyone in school now
Everyone has been bullied, at one time or another.
You know how you beat them?
You don't become like them!
Bullies are usually wimps. I got bullied a few times before during primary school. I just told them to "piss off" and told the teacher about it. Then they will not dare to bully you anymore.
You told the teacher in primary school? By primary school teachers don't do shit here, you just get bullied more for opening your mouth.
Lol if only telling your teachers (especially in the primary, even in the middle school) could actually help, like it should. It can get even worse.
Yeah. My eyes have always been funny looking, which made me a target for ridicule in my early years.
My parents saw it coming though and made sure I knew how to defend myself.
Sure, I got made fun of on the bus, if that counts. Not really though. Hearing the shit kids pull these days with the internet and their smartphones makes me glad I grew up in the days before cellphones in the good old days of AOL dial-up.
And Lunchboxes.
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Yes. Many times in the past. I was an easy target for bullies.
in primary school i was bullied and i was a bully, but not when i got older
Yes, I have been bullied when i was younger, now not so much.
True that. I got teased and all, but kids today are out to ruin eachothers' lives.
I love this song, i used to listen it all the time. It was one of my favorite pump songs.
In middle school I was harassed, called names, and treated rudely. It made me a withdrawn, cynical, friendless person in high school. But after graduating high school, I realized that bullies weren't worth getting upset or angry about. What matters in life wasn't them. It's pursuing happiness and interests. With this came new found confidence and now I'm not like I was before. I can laugh at bullies now because I have logic on my side.
Same here. Teachers for me (in both primary and secondary school) tell you to just ignore it while ignoring the real issue of how these kids are acting and how it will hurt everyone, including the bully themselves.
Yup, all kinds of stuff. Everyone gets bullied at one point, some more than others.
I agree, most of this happen because:
Ask me if you wanna know how I know those things, (if you want)
Yes. I still have the scars to prove it.
Used to be called all kinds of names because my skin is too light and because my hair is too puffy. Got beaten up repeatedly for a total of 4 years (I think the equivalent to what would be the end of primary school to the end of middle school in the US) by the same guy. We studied in a Catholic school. He was expelled eventually, not for beating me up, but for telling a nun to shut up. The asshole broke my Game Boy Color with my Pokémon Blue version in. Smashed it in the ground. Told me I wasn't girly enough and then beat me up again. Near the end of middle school, he started with the rape threats. And yes, I told my parents, my teachers, the nuns, his parents and everybody was just like "Oh that's just how kids are" or "he does it because he likes you" or "if you stop crying he will stop doing it". Growing up in the 90's and early 00's, nobody really cared about bullying.
Sounds like all of you could have really used a Safe Space™.
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Many, many times. I still do actually, it's mostly for my appearance and if they bully anyone else they'll get a straight up smack.
I don't full on blame the way I now am on them, but the shit they say to me and about me is a big reason.
With today's shitty society where you can get stabbed for looking at someone funny, I don't think I'd be far from the truth if I said everyone's gotten bullied in their lifetime.
Jesus, rape threats? Personally, that would be a turning point for me. I wouldn't hesitate to get a steel bat and see if he still decides to give rape threats.
I find it absolutely disgusting how people an shrug off abuse/threats and use it as a way to tell kids that they're liked. And the fact that the only reason he was expelled was for telling a nun to shut up, and not because he threaten to rape you, is the reason why I still own a steel bat. Ugh, shit like that makes me sick. Sorry you had to go through that.
@CrazedRabbit and @xboxplayer_12 Luckily for me, the teachers here do care. There used to be a bully in my school, and he was from China. He was expelled in his first year in the school.
Some teachers do not care but most do in my country. Once, someone bullied me and I poured water on him and humiliated him and got him scolded. The teachers here are very reasonable, seriously
In primary school.. I had some solid friends but there were other people that were absolute snake douche bags that are just out to put you down, avoid them.
High School was awesome though and I made plenty of worthwhile friends and I'm actually glad I went through everything I went through, makes me tougher and more alert... If nothing bad ever happens to you? How will you ever learn from it? Because when something bad eventually does happen you won't know how to deal with it.
One thing I learned is there is always a reason as to why people act the way they do, everyone has their own problems, the seemingly happier kids at school have family problems at home.. the bullies usually got bullied when they were younger, don't take things personally unless someone makes it personal.
Yes. I got bullied in high school, not with violence but with words. The girls in my classes would say shitty things to put me down for years, that by the time I left school I had regressed into a vegetable state of living, that for the first year after I just sat in front of a computer screen not knowing what or how to live my life. I was so withdrawn, socializing was impossible! My grades were a mess because of the bullying and time absent from school, and I've only been able to make up for it with classes at an adult community college and NVQs gained from volunteering.
The bullying has scarred me for life. I can't go to a normal college or even think about university, because the environments remind me too much of that time as a teenager. I arrived at a college once and the crowds of young adults outside there had me turning and leaving almost straight away. I did volunteering at a college for ONE day and I hated it, the worst part being forced to sit in that crowded cafeteria feeling like everybody was watching me. Recently I tried to do an IT course at this other place prior, but I had to back out and go back to the adult community college, and why? Because the computer college course was based in an old primary school and the strict and seriousness with how things were dealt with there was too much, I had to get out of there.
Want to know the best part in all this? When I was getting bullied at school, the staff at the school didn't have any interest whatsoever in stopping the bullying, but instead said I should go to another school! And then I wasn't coming in as much the school because of the bullying, the school targeted my Mom threatening legal action. I mean why bother dealing with a bunch of troublemakers if they can just pick on the one kid instead? Perfect logic!
You get told to say stay quiet and the bullies will go away, but you know what? The tactic ruined me! I have no confidence in myself, my anxiety is through the roof and socializing is still difficult. If I could go back in time to that point in my life, I would've given those bitches a piece of my mind the moment they started picking on me!
When I was grade 2 and kinder, people used to make fun of me. Even my cousin made fun of me. But when I growed up, nobody can bullies me. Last fucker puts his hands on me, gets a mark into his/her face.
I didn't get a steel bat, but one day I lost my cool after he destroyed my drawing notebook and kicked his back really hard. He fell on his face and cut his lip. One of the most satisfying moments of my life.
And really, karma got him. Not the "magic" kind of karma, the "be an asshole and see where it gets you" kind of karma. He got expelled from two other schools and ended up working as a bus conductor (I don't know if that's the right expression for it. A guy who doesn't drive the bus, but he works in the bus collecting the passengers' money. I don't know if that's a thing in the USA). Meanwhile, I went to Law School and I'm a lawyer now, about to start my specialization next year
What does being from China have to do with anything?
I have both been bullied and been a bully, it has left its scars.
Wow, sounds horrible. Sorry you had to go through that messed up stuff, nobody ever deserves that.
QFT,
I don't even talk about what i went through because its so crazy, compared how things are now. Its like night and day, i guess they realised that a lot of people were coming out,. messed up. I remember seeing my shop teacher in the punch my friend in the face. That's just one of the lovely memories i have from my childhood. I tended to try to block out my childhood, but i still remember some things.
I hope it gets better for you. I don't know, life is hard. The only thing that keeps me centered anymore is my dog.
I understand. I had teachers that hit kids, too, but that was rarer and only happened to me with the ballet teacher (ballet was an optional class, and I ended up leaving it). The others, it didn't happen with me, but with kids in my class. A geography teacher on primary school that would smack kids around with a book if they were not paying attention, a physics teacher on the last year of middle school who would throw small objects at people who made "dumb questions" and a ballet teacher on primary school that literally stomp on us and called us all sort of synonyms for "worthless" if we couldn't perform as she wanted. I don't miss my childhood at all. I love being an adult. I love being in control of my life.
A lot of people complain that now adults protect the kids too much, and that's why they have no respect for anyone anymore, and maybe that's true, but the kids are the weaker side of the relationship. I think people need to be able to identify when something is just going too far. Sometimes, it is a matter of the kid learning to fight their own battles, but other times there is just no way the kid can win that battle alone.
I don't know, there are things in my past i never told my parents about, or anyone. It was just things were, and we knew what to do to not make worse. I remember teachers bullying students. I had a science teacher, that taught us earch science or whatever, and he would just pick on this one girl for living in the "rich" part of town. At that time, it wasn't easy to stand up against bullying, but i did to help this girl. So he started to bully me, but i didn't care because i was getting it from other people as well. Things happened there, that would be front page daily mail articles today.
Damn, kids know how to be mean. And it bothers me how some people don't take it seriously. Especially teachers, since they're supposed to see what happens in class. I'm sorry to hear about what you had to go through. I've been bullied in the past, so I can relate a bit.
Well, this thread has effectively quelled any intentions I had at reproducing...
Two things suck nowadways, one is that parents will ally with their kids against even the teachers, believing their kid can do no wrong, and two is you can't even hit your kids anymore, no matter how much they're acting like little shits. The only thing you can do is call the police, and then half the time the cops just end up beating the kid harder than any disciplinarian parent would and give them a criminal record and potential jail sentence. Because that's so much more productive. That is if they don't shoot the kid.
I'm an adult and law permits self defense so... at least as an adult I have been free of bullies.
It's hard to define a bully (not the dictionary definition.) as some of them are quite harmless while other ones go so far that they push people over the edge almost literally.
So yeah I have probably been bullied to some extend but never by group of organized people doing so together or anything like that. Heck, I have probably bullied some others during my non-adult life even if I didn't always realize it until later.
So yeah, some people might get closest of being bullied by someone throwing toilet paper at them once to getting into physical conflicts that lead to hospital visits.