How Do I Stop Being Friends with Someone?
Hey guys. I very rarely talk about my personal problems on here, but I really need some advice.
There's this girl I've been friends with for like a year and a half. She has a crush on me which I've known about for a while and she's brought up a few times, but I've made it perfectly clear that I only want to be friends and nothing else. But the major downside is, she never leaves me alone. She texts me like six times a day every day and she also texts my family and other female friends to try and find stuff out about me behind my back. I've talked to her about all of this, but none of it is really getting to her. It's driving me nuts. So I feel like I need to rip off the bandaid and stop being friends with her. So my question is, "How?"
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Why do you only wanna be friends with her? Maybe you two should date.
I don't like her that way. That's the issue.
Date her and then break her heart and eat it for breakfast. As a magnificent bastard myself, I fully endorse this strategy.
In all seriousness, if it were me, I'd either be really firm, or just ignore. But it's not me, so I can't speak for you.
It's a tricky situation and I don't know how either of you are addressing it, but I'd suggest really standing your ground on this one.
If you haven't made it clear that you're getting annoyed with her "attempts", then make sure to do that. From there, if you she doesn't respect that, then it's totally fair game to rid your life of her. If she can't respect you, then she isn't a friend at all. Cut ties with her by slowly drifting away, ignoring her or something else along those lines. Good luck!
Is there someone else you like? Date that girl (I'll call her Elaine) really openly, and constantly go on about how great Elaine is to the girl who won't leave you alone (I'll call her Morgan). If Elaine won't date you, then just go on and on about how awesome she is and you wish she would.
Morgan should get the hint at that, and if she doesn't, you can offer to set her up with some other guy (which won't work, but at least you offered), or just start blocking her on the phone and don't react to anything she does. Morgan won't like this, but she needs to learn.
You gently take her aside some where quiet and look in her eyes and say "F off"
You have to be straight up with her if she texts you like six times a day then that's like a sign of obsession... I think idk,but people who are like that don't understand,so I would just be straight up with her,but at the same time try not to hurt her feelings.
Add her number to the reject list and ignore her.
Stab her to death, worked for me.
Just tell her straight up you do not appreciate her actions and if she cannot respect your space make it clear you 2 cannot be friends and cut it off from there.Cause now it is starting to sound kind of like stalking and harassment.
Great Answer
I can't say much because I'm going through a similar issue like this myself. I've been friends with these two girls for two years, and whilst one is okay the other isn't. She makes multiple racist, homophobic (which is a pain in the ass for me) and ageist comments as well as judging nearly every popular girl which walks past and overall being a negative person.
All I can suggest is confront her about it, tell her how uncomfortable she's been making you feel and say it's gotten to the point where you wish not to be friends with her anymore.
I typed out a message but haven't sent it yet.
So and So, I gotta say something. And you're probably not going to like it. I can't help but feel like you're over obsessed with me. I know you have feelings for me and I'm flattered and all, but it's turned into an obsession that's been making me feel very uncomfortable latley. You tag me in every quiz you take and you message me multiple times a day every day and you somehow get a notification every time I update my Facebook status and you've texted both my sister and one of my best friends behind my back asking personal stuff about me. I've talked to you about these things before, but nothing's really changing. So I think it's best that we have some space for a little while. I've had a lot of time to think about this and I'm not at all saying that we're no longer friends, but for a while, I felt like I've been completely smothered. I'm sorry, but I really think it's for the best. I know this will probably be hard for you and, believe me, it's hard for me too. I hope you understand.
The text seems good enough. Though things like these should rather be settled in person.
I fully endorse that, plus give it a seal of asshole
Straight and to the point could of not said it better.
Okay. I just sent the message. I feel guilty but I have to remember that I did this for a reason.
If you're dating someone like Dahlia Hawhthorne then... Yeah.
Drop the act and use brutal honesty.
Say this to them, "Ween is overrated"
How did it go?
Haven't heard from her. Hopefully it'll stay that way.
Not sure. I usually just be myself and most of my friends leave.
I am late to the game, so to speak. I think that is thoughtful and a kind way to do it. If she still isn't getting the hint after that. I hate to say it, but you need to go full dick mode. I mean anger and harsh words, it may suck, but it's the only thing left to do at that point.