Is there anyone on the forums, who has a history of an abusive parent and/or guardian?
I know I do.
My father was...a drinker and a lazy shit. He hit my mother with a belt whenever she didn't take care of me "good enough". One day, he locked my mom out of the house. It was just me and my dad, and I was a baby back then. A few hours later, one of her friends came and offered her a cigarette. She accepted it. So basically, my dad is the reason my mom ever started smoking.
And one year later, Mommy had another kid; a boy. His name was Josh. Two weeks later, he died from some kind of illness. And then, one day later, Daddy left me and
mom.
I find it hard to say this, but if Josh never died, me and my mom would probably be dead.
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I honestly don't know what to say about this. But it's ridiculous how this happens to so many families.
I'd think if people had abusive parents they'd want to bury those memories and not post them on a public forum to boast or something.
I'm so sorry this happened to you but he's right ^
I did. From my parents and a psycho babysitter. Mostly spankings and getting hit over my head with a hard brush.
They'd get really angry at me for being too loud, breaking things, or crying when I was upset. But now that I'm older and can defend myself, they don't hurt me anymore.
It's complicated but kinda sorta yes, I mean yes they did hit me until I bled, they did insult me and laugh at me so I guess it technically counts even if I'm not really sure.
Denial. Another quite common thing with abusive relationships and often causes the target to cover their abuser(s).
My parents are great to me.
Honestly, as much as I get shit from my dad, I still love him and I don't know what I would do if he ever dies.
(Since most people suggest not sharing personal information, I am therefore going to remove it.)
Pain can be eased by sharing it with others.
The OP did post his memory.
Good for you. (no sarcasm, IS2G)
God bless your aunt and uncle.
Are you Saudi? Because things like these are really common there. Anyway, I'm really sorry for you and your family (minus your father), hope life gets better for you.
Thanks.
Amen.
I'm not sure if you count mental abuse and heteronormative/homophobic behaviors as abusive, but I will put this here and leave it at that (for now, at least).
Yes and no, I guess it's more that they stopped at some point and became decent people so it's more that I don't want to categorize them like that because I do have a mostly positive opinion of them now.
Besides while technically true I attribute it more to a societal thing than to them, considering that it wasn't just them, I was a very stoic, quiet, small and thin boy and I looked like a girl, so it was hard to think of them in particular as that when my brothers also insulted me all the time on the basis that it didn't matter because I had no feelings, my classmates would also insult me and hit me for various reasons like being weird, too small (When I was 16 most people confused me with a 10 year old) or too girly, and even had some teachers that would hit me, and I'm skipping some people that did worse things, so it's hard to think of anyone in particular in that light when my youth was so filled with that kind of behaviour that it was practically impossible to not be nihilist, though to be fair since I grew up in that kind of environment it would be unfair of me to pretend like I was not part of that, I also did plenty of bad things, I didn't really care from my perspective all people were awful so it didn't matter if I did something bad to them, the thing is growing up around people like that kinda allows you to comprehend that behaviour and to see them more as flawed humans than outright horrible people.
I don't feel like sharing details, but my sister and I both left home at age seventeen. I currently live with my wonderful aunt and uncle. This is because my sister and I were cursed with having parents that are about the equivalent of scum of the Earth. It's actually really common in New Jersey, too, which is where I'm from. I've found many people throughout the years that I relate to.
It's scary.
We all have scars from our childhood, it doesnt mtater who you are, or what kind of people your parents. Even the most well intentioned parents make mistakes with their children, and do things that hurt their children, sometimes very badly.
And unfortunately there is very little we can do about them, because it's in the past. But what we can do, is to not let them Define us as people. We can rise above whatever was done to us.
Life is all about choices. As matter fact, even the worst situations, that is the one thing that cannot be taken away from you, the element of choice - as to what type of person you choose to be, and how you choose to react to situations.
And just as a friendly word of advice, I would be very careful as to what I post on the internet. If I were you, I would not post anything overly personal in nature, as this post here tends to be. Because unfortunately you never know who's reading it, and what kind of intentions they might have.
Something that might seem harmless now, can turn around and come back to bite you in the ass later on in life, sometimes severely. I wouldn't wish that on anyone, that's why I am telling you this.
Good luck in your life, and may God bless you.
I do. It sucks man, it really does. But you always come out the other side better, my friend Hannah and I both had awful abusive experiences, and it was fucking terrible on both of us. But we came out the other side as better and stronger people, and we're pretty successful in our lives because of that, she runs an extremely popular website with her best friends and I do a lot of creative shit that I get plenty of love for. It's a shitty experience, but it gets better man, best of luck to you, and if you ever need to talk send me a PM.
God bless you and your friend. And thanks.
Damn.
God bless you. I wanted to say this too. xD