Do you lean more toward quiet/shy or outgoing/energetic people?
Just a (really) random question.
It can be rephrased as: "Are you more attracted to(...)" or "Do you prefer(...)".
I'll start, I guess, I'm kinda somewhere in the middle, but in the end I am more of a shy type butI prefer energetic, outgoing people, with its balance, at elast when it comes to me hanging out with them. I'm not saying any of these si better than the other one, because that is subjective.
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That's a great question.
Personally, I'm always more interested in people that are quiet, shy, introverted. I have been for a long time, as I've always found true the notion that: those who talk most, have the least to say.
Not that extroverted people can't be interesting - I know endless amounts that are - but there's a transparency there, which I find a turn-off, and a level of liveliness and sociability, that I just can't relate with. And what I look for in people, is relatability, congenial company, probably because it's something I've lacked my entire life.
I want to understand who you are; why you think the thing's you do, why you act the way you act, and I do that via emphasising with your state of being, and mind. And I can't empathise very well with people that are loud, attention seeking, and gregarious, because they're not things I've ever been, or wanted to be (for the most part).
The people who stick to the back of rooms, to the walls; people who hold their own opinions, and aren't easily swayed by other's. Those who would rather be by themselves, than in poor company. Those who roll their eyes, at the herd mentality of most people. Those who research mysteries, over attending parties. Those who scream internally, at the thought of small-talk. Those who have grown up, feeling alone. Those who go out of their way to enter through the back garden, so they don't have to converse with their neighbours (me).
These strange little creatures are the one's I've always leaned towards... and probably always will.
Uber beta here.
Nothing is more attractive than a women who is in charge and who speaks her mind. My major past crushes have all been on people who can talk with me about Schopenhauer, Camus, Sartre, or Marx or politics or who even have interest even if they don't have that much investment. As far as extrovert/introvert, granted most people who are into the above generally don't get out much. Though looking at my friends most of them are super-outgoing.
Granted this thread is for romantic relationships, so I figure I'll post this video which paradoxically makes me take self-esteem in my complete lack of it.
Haha, thanks.
As always, an interesting reply. I can kinda relate to the last part of your post. As a bonus (what am I doing), last few days, although it is more like months, I've been wanting to change myself, or rather express myself more to others. That's kind of a thing I don't always like about introversion (I can only hope this is an actual word) -- keeping most of the stuff to myself, my mind. And I want to share myself with others, in a figurative way of course, because I want people to see the whole picture.
Everything I say quickly turns into a rant. Oh, well.
I'm more like omega. But for real. It's tough.
I love that song, on a....bright interesting note(?).
Firstly, thank you. As for the rest, you are smart in doing what you are - trying to express yourself, because that's highly important in formulating relationships with other's, especially strong one's
Introversion (which is an actual word!) is hardly the perfect way to be, as many introverts - myself included - sometimes pretend to be true. On the internet, there's certainly a lot of introversion glorification that goes on, but generally the best way to live (I would think) is to blend both introversion and extroversion together... especially in a way that works for you, and your personality.
I have that same problem - though you're usually pretty chilled out and kind in your comments, and I like that.
I'm pretty shy - but once I know the person i'm more at 'ease' around them, suppose thats the word to use.
So I lean towards anyone that's like me tbh. I'm not sure there are many people like me though!
Someone that's not a 24/7 wanting to go out drinking person would be nice
Energetic I would say, or at least people who can talk. There's nothing more tiring than trying to keep a conversation going when the other one isn't saying anything, but I understand it if it's someone unknown to me and shy to begin with. I don't like people jabbing pointless nonsense all the time either though, an ideal would be someone who has things (at least somehow meaningful other than how's the weather) to say and can elaborate to almost any common topic instead of "mhm" "yeah".
I'm outgoing but I'm also an introvert, which means I can become friends with anyone but I'll usually spend more time with them communicating on my PC than anything else.
This thread wasn't exclusively romantic right?
Well said. For some reason, I've been working on myself recently and changing myself means changing the world, or at least my version of it. I dislike people assuming I won't do certain thing, activities, because how I appear to be to them. I guess everybody else will fill your own silence with their own words, so I'd rather do it on my own, haha. I am wannabe deep.
Well, rants aren't that bad themselves, since they express my sincere thoughts and feelings, so it's connecting me to people, whether they are about it or not, lol.
Thanks for your kind words aka compliments, it makes me blush.
Omg, I haven't seen you in ages (Rhyiona thread heheyeah). A change of avatar makes one confused, that's for sure.
Oh, I know that from experience, sometimes you don't know a reason why person doesn't want to/can't talk to you, so the only thing that is left is guessing. Which is worse than real truth.
That's interesting, in a good way and not in a I'm a stalker and a mad scientist that investigates you way.
No, it wasn't. I just added it as a bonus question I guess.
Don't dissect me in your lab pls >_>
Haven't seen you in ages either, obviously. : D
Indeed, and in the end it's just frustrating. It's like wasting my precious energy lol (considering that talking to people is really fun, but tiring because of being an introvert). That's probably the most annoying thing, I'm not even shy or quiet or anything, but like when I was working at the art museum it's just that after 6 hours of customer service I barely have energy for anyone left and just want be at home wrapped in blanket hah.
I equally despise them both.
As person I'm both depending on my mood
I find loud girls or guys in my experience to be very arrogant and annoying.
Always want ur attention, always want talk about themselves they speak more then they think.
While I love smart girls who speak when have something cool or intelligent to contribute.
Not mindless rambling you can see they analysised the situation before they speak.
They don't need endless attention to feel important. They are chill in their skin
I find them more fascinating, intelligent and caring girls.
I like quality of words over energetic ramblings.
But I do enjoy both each has unique qualities I like person who can be both.
True. The both sides have to do their thing, not just one.
Oh, after 6 hours I can't imagine how I'd feel like, lol.
Okay, rabbit. (:
That's the spirit!
I think that's the whole point, with everything I guess. It's a bit tough achieving that kind of nirvana if you're always ignored.
If you value yourself on others opinions you never feel good about yourself and will always be ignored.
People like this are easily controlled and never respected leading to people avoiding them. People must feel they need to impress you too.
Keep your head high when enter a room, smile and always make strong eye contact. People sense confidence
Remember people are reflection of what we present believe ur awesome others will too. Answer not how they feel but you feel.
Ur smart you be fine
This is very useful. Thank you Mark.
Guess I'm an introvert. Never been a very social person, nor have I ever felt comfortable talking just for the sake of talking. If I have something to say, I'll say it, but if I don't, I'll keep my mouth shut and personally, I've always preferred people who do, those who know when to stop rambling for a second and decide instead to actually think.
I don't know that I'm necessarily drawn to one more than the other, as people are fairly complex beyond just being introverted or extroverted. I've had struggles with shyness/ social anxiety throughout my life, so at times I'm more relaxed around people that just sort of mind their own business. That being said, being an introvert, I appreciate how extroverts can take charge in a conversation and make you feel comfortable. I probably would have missed out on making some certain friends in life if they had not be extroverted and gone out of their way to get to know me a little. Honestly, most people that I do care about in life are extroverted. While I'll probably always be introverted to an extent, I really admire the way in which extroverts can interact with others with total ease and comfort.
Outgoing and energetic people for me. I like people that I can have a good conversation and muck around with.
There's nothing wrong with more reserved people, and I have many mates like that, but if you can make me laugh, you're INSTANTLY, in my good books.
Personality always is priority for me, it's an awesome feeling when someone introduces themselves to you,shows that they are interested in talking to you.
Well, I wouldn't consider myself quiet/shy enough to be an introvert at least in public, among my peers it's a different story. But I'd like to think I lean more towards people with a fair balance with maybe a slight leniency towards the quiet side but still be able to keep a conversation. This answer can also fit under "Are you more attracted to(...)" or "Do you prefer(...)".
For me, I'm both shy and outgoing. It just depends on the circumstance. But I do personally lean more towards outgoing people.
I grew up really introverted.
It's been a while, and I've learned to be extroverted when I want to be. But I don't have to be one way or the other. I feel good either keeping to myself or communicating with others.
Talking with extroverted people is easier than talking to introverted people, because you don't have to keep thinking of ways to engage the other person. Of course, the extroverted person could go on and on about something you don't care about or offends you, but that's another issue.
I married a super-extroverted woman who loves to talk about whatever's on her mind to anyone and everyone, whether she knows them or not. Fortunately, I've decided not to get embarrassed easily.