Life sucks some of the time...hard.
I am bi-sexual. I have been in a relationship with my partner for a couple of years. She is a lesbian. Her friends hate the fact that I am bi. So I have been having a most lovely time with the holidays. I am given to bouts of depression and this does not help.
But even worse is the fact for the longest time..I kept my sexuality from my parents. My father and I are not friends...he was abusive to my mother and when I was 15 I got in between a fight and he accidently broke my jaw. We lied about what happened. But I stayed civil for my mother. She found out about my lifestyle today. She told me she does not want to see me again.
Part of it..I kept it from her, because I was afraid of my father...and the other part..I was just so used to keeping it a secret. I guess the lesson here is just be honest even when you are afraid. I was her little girl, and I think she had a vision of my life...I guess all parents have assumptions about what their children will become and I am sure the idea of grandchildren plays a part.
I am a nurse...I have my own house and a woman I love. I should be happy...Hell I am here waiting for TWD to come out. But now things suck.
Sorry I am venting and am hurt...just did not expect to get gut punched this close to Christmas.
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Countless times I've seen stories of parents who really don't favor the sexuality of their children. Sorry that you feel things are going south with your mother for you!
I can't say that I know what it's like to be in your exact position, but I still think it would be best if you kept trying to reach out to your mother. I strongly believe that you should communicate to her about how you feel.
Maybe your mother really doesn't approve your sexual orientation. Maybe she's just hurt that you've kept so many details about your life from her.
Bi-phobia is certainly a tricky subject. It's a real shock especially when it's given out by homosexual individuals. Again, it's entirely plausible to say I wouldn't know what it's like, because I don't. In terms of relationships however, it's probably best you focus on being a good girlfriend for your partner. So long as you are interested in up-keeping the relationship with her, that is.
And, at the end of the day, focus on things that do make you happy. Your girlfriend, hobbies, your job, etc. This I can say I have more experience in, since there was a point in my life in which only a few things were keeping me going through the day.
And if it helps, I think you're A-okay!
Just my attempt to help you feel better. Reaching out when you feel down is always a smart move.
Is not too late to take revenge and actually do something you know...
Doble post, sorry.
I'm sorry. That must really hurt.
I suggest giving your mom a few weeks to cool down. Let Christmas go by. When you think you've waited long enough, write her a letter saying you love her, and you're sorry the family didn't turn out the way she dreamed so many years ago, and you hope that she will someday accept you for who you are.
It's not your partner's friends' business what your sexuality is, and your partner should be defending you. If she's not, then that's another issue.
I'm really sorry to hear that. These kinds of the things that happen really suck. I hope you're not feeling any doubt about who you are though, just because your mom didn't have a positive reaction to it doesn't mean that you should ever feel like you should change who you are.
And know that you're never alone. No matter what, there's always someone out there that cares. I'm sure your mother loves you with all her heart, and she'll eventually be able to look past what she thinks is so wrong about who you are. I've learned that life always tries to basically fuck us over...But it also always finds a way to fix things and end with a happy conclusion no matter what.
My Partner has been a trooper...I know it has to be very awkward for her...some of these friends of hers have been so since her high school days. It is just an aspect... I never thought about..hating on the Bi people.
As for my Mom..yeah I will give her time. She found out from one of her friends...Laura and I were out having a dinner and I did not even see her friend. This is definitely Karma getting me for hiding this.
Did you call CPS on your father?
No that was when I was 15...11 years ago...we hid it. He was sorry...yadda yadda. We were never close and...thankfully rarely talk.
Ah. I'm sorry about your parents not accepting you....
I can't say I know how it feels, but I've been discriminated by others for being intersex. Hopefully your mom and you come to terms with it.
I wish you the best. I'd say don't hate your mother and keep trying. I do not want any hate from this post and I don't know if it'll help or hurt anyone, I'm just being honest. I can see from your mother's point of view on this. I love kids and I look forward to being a father and then a grandfather one day. I'm a Conservative and this is how I was raised. I have no problem with same couple people, I just want my family to be how I envision it. Basically I'm just saying go easy on your parents. It's easy for you to say "they should accept it" and yet they have their own viewpoints and opinions. They probably will accept it in time. My great uncle had a same couple step daughter and loved her no different and her mom was the same way.
Wise words, I'm not a fan of conservationism or tradition but I am a fan of empathy, it's easy to forget that people are people and there are reasons why they act the way they do, and yes it can sometimes be shitty and you are more than allowed to be angry at them but if you want them to understand you and accept you, you should try to understand them to see if there is something that can be done to guide them towards what you think is right.
I'm kind off a self-righteous asshole though so it might not be best to listen to me and while doing that kind of thing is easy for me because I'm perceptive, patient and mostly indifferent towards people's perception of me I do understand that it's super hard for others.
And you know what the great thing about the Internet is?
If you are feeling down there's always someone willing to listen to you and lend you a shoulder to cry on, sure it sometimes comes with awful advice and other times with fantastic advice but it's pretty cool how people always try to cheer you on, some of the people that are most important to me are random strangers that I've never heard from again, but were willing to listen to me cry about my troubles, so don't worry about this rant, I'd say it's good to seek people to talk to when you are feeling like that and a stranger can sometimes have just the perspective you need to hear.
That's terribly cruel. I hope she comes around in time.
My sister is lesbian and she suffers from bi-phobia. Before she got married and met her wife she told me she would never date a bi-person. I didn't understand it either, until she said something like "she can't compete with a man" and she believe it's unfair especially in a cheating situation. I don't know, I kinda understand, but dont. It's weird.
I think that some view bi as wannabe...posers I guess. I guess because I do not view the male form any differently when it comes to desirability. I lean towards women in preference. I have had a couple of good relationships with men...and obviously women.
I think character counts more with me than whether a person has a vagina or a penis. Though I do prefer breasts.
My partner and I did have a good talk...and we talked about marriage as well. If anything...we are more united now.
What is different about a lesbian refusing to date a bisexual woman, from a straight person refusing to date somebody of the same sex, and a gay person refusing to date somebody of the opposite sex?
HAHA, you funny mang.
On a serious note, sorry about your situation.
There is no difference...the issue is that some of my partner's friends were making things difficult because they do not approve. My girlfriend knew I was bi...she accepted it...but it has put me in a situation that sucks because some of her best friends are disapproving. I give no fucks about anyone's sexual preferences...but I do mind when you try to cause trouble for me and mine.
I am so very sorry about your situation at least through it all it seems like you have been strong through it and you have yourself a partner you love and your own house! You seem like you had a wonderful lifestyle at this point you should be happy with where you are at right now you can appreciate your partner and your new way of life! and as long as you feel comfortable with being bi it does not matter what other people think and if she makes you happy then you should be happy
wtf is up with the threads in the telltale forum?
we've got guys with depression, and lots of real life problems.
i thought this forum was a happy place?
It's like this all the time.
I've seen a lot of dumb stories and complaints on this forum, but this is genuinely terrible and my heart goes out for you.
Sorry to hear that. Hope you get better.
hey I am really sorry to hear that. You need to reassure yourself that it's not your fault if your mother or your partner's friends can't accept something natural and normal. Also try to forget whatever happened with your father. I think for this holiday season you must try to spend more time with your partner in your own house. Try watching some new tv shows or playing some video games (or do whatever the fuck you love to do
). The point being try to distance yourself from people who don't accept you (just yet). And maybe later after the holidays try to reach out to your mom... if she accepts you and loves you then yay, everything's fine but if not you should just continue with your life. You are never alone and should just enjoy your life with your partner. Maybe the next twd will take your mind off all this negativity. I understand your life sucks at this moment, but look forward to the things you love. It's your life don't let the opinion of others ruin the holidays for you or your partner. And I hope things get better for you, and I know it will be hard but just try to have fun and take it easy 
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That sounds so terrible. But it's great that you're happy with your partner. I think for this Christmas, you should somehow contact your mother and yes, even your father. Wish them both a Merry Christmas and tell them that you hope they're doing well. This will show your mother that despite being a bisexual, you're still her daughter who loves her dearly. And it'll show your father that you have the strength to forgive. This could be a very empowering and healing thing for you to do. Best of luck to you.
Because straight people 100% won't be attracted to someone of the same sex, whereas lesbians are attracted to women, and bisexual women still count as female?
I mean obviously who they date is up to them, but it's not really a direct parallel
Straight people do not date those of the same sex because they're not attracted to them.
Some gay people do not date bisexuals because they're not attracted to them.
Do you believe one is acceptable and one is not?
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But they might be attracted to a bisexual before they know they're bisexual - they can't tell by look.
Anyway, again I think people should be free to choose not to date bisexual people if they want, but I don't think basing attraction on sexuality is the exact same thing as basing it on gender.
Lesbian women can easily be attracted to bisexual women when they look at them, but may choose not to date them because of qualms etc.
Straight men are never attracted to other men, by looks or upon finding out they're gay.
Choosing not to date bisexuals I think is more akin to choosing not to date someone who's arrogant or too jovial - a personality feature. Straight men not dating men isn't because of personality quirks, it's because they don't get erections by looking at naked men.
I'm sorry you haven't been having the best of times lately and I can't say I know how you feel but I know that life is filled with ups and downs, at least you have your own life and are with the special person you love!
Emotions are rather complicated, even when we have what we want we still crave more but not in a selfish sense. In the end I can only quote what a special person told me recently "The ones who judge you don't matter, the ones who don't do". In the end, your mother will have to accept you for you if she wants to see you again and I have faith that miracles like that happen! Especially during the season of believing! 
Honestly, I don't like people who judge others based on sexuality - why does it matter who someone else loves? It's their life and I find it even worse when people who struggled with fitting in due to their sexuality pick on others for having a different sexuality, they know the struggle yet they keep it going for others![:\](https://community.telltalegames.com/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
I still don't understand the mindset of judging someone based on something so personal as romantic/sexual interest in another individual.
The future is never certain but I personally have learned to strive to have a positive mindset for once and live the present!
I know words won't fix things so easily but having faith can go a long way! 
I wish you the best and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy Holiday! 
Thank you!
Don't worry about what other people think of you to much. No matter how good, decent, civil, well mannered, that you try to be, the fact is that there are just going to be some people out there who are just not going to like you.
That's why you shouldn't worry too much about the opinions of other people, because no matter how well you're behaved, people are still going to make judgments about you no matter what.
Always put your best foot forward, and be the very best person that you can be in all situations. And people like you for it, and that's great, and if I don't like you, well then don't worry about it.
If you mother doesn't accept you the way you are she doesn't deserve your love.