Do you think there is ever an excuse for marital infidelity?
I realize that this is a controversial topic and the reason why I bring it up is because that some people seem to feel that under certain circumstances marital infidelity is indeed acceptable.
Personally, I don't believe that marital infidelity is excusable, under any circumstances. Marriage is a sacred thing, and to betray a person's trust like that is just wrong. And I honestly believe that anyone who does that is a scumbag.
What are your thoughts?
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I don't know...I have not been married. I have seen it though...I think it depends on the marriage. You call it a sacred trust...yet divorce rates would say otherwise. I can see both sides of the issue. So maybe?
Well,if a person really don't like his/her wife/husband anymore (or now love someone else) he/she should divorce
If a person won't divorce because of all the bureaucratic stuff well,they should have think twice before marry.
Obviously this is only my own opinion
So, say a woman is married to a man who doesn't cheat, but beats her up every day for whatever reason comes to his mind, she shouldn't leave him for someone else because that would mean breaking his trust?
I think the better answer for your question is: it depends on the situation.
What if their partner is violently abusive, and they're fearful that they could lose their life if they tried to divorce their partner, but still want to find love/satisfaction in other people?
As someone who has cheated and also been cheated on, there isn't a good enough reason. Cheaters always have sone way to rationalize it but in the end you are betraying someone who is supposed to be your partner for life. Get therapy or get a divorce but don't ruin someone's faith in you over something so selfish and unimportant.
This reminds me of a story when my cousin was screwing around with his girlfriend's mother and her son found out and told his dad/her husband. Her husband went all around town saying he was looking for him and was going to teach him a lesson. He showed up at the house we were all at and we sent our friend out to meet with him. They started arguing and eventually it got physical and our friend was getting roughed up. My cousin jumped on him and starting punching him in the back of the head until he drew blood then I got involved and started kicking him in the head and back as she screamed from the doorway half naked. I mean we fucked him up so badly he couldn't stand up properly. A month later their son and four of his friends tried jumping my cousin in a failed Attempt. It caused a whole lot of good old dysfunction, the father got beat up, their son got beat up, one of their daughters completely disowned the mother. It's not pretty and almost always ends in turmoil in my experience. I regret those things I did
If a marriage isn't working out, then you should just get a divorce..cheating will just make you a piece of shit
I think in some circumstances it's a demonstration of weak character to cheat, either physically or emotionally. It’s not so much the act, but the dishonesty behind it. If you promise someone fidelity, without any intention nor effort toward follow through, then yeah, that's fairly fucked up.
And I'm talking about real, bona fide cheating, not harmless passing thoughts such as when you browse Hottest Men threads.
But broken record as I am, relationships are complicated because people are complicated. Not everyone is aware, at least not consciously, of what they need from a relationship to feel happy and fulfilled. Needs can also change because you and your partner have changed over time. Not everyone knows how to communicate their needs effectively, and not everyone knows how to freaking LISTEN. Related, people can have unrealistic expectations for their partners, or no expectations at all. Still others think that once the ring is on the finger, they don't need to work on the relationship anymore. And as others have mentioned, sometimes your discover your partner is abusive. I think it's the latter people who are, as you say, scumbags.
I'm not saying this to justify infidelity in anyway, but rather to point out that the decision to cheat is not always made up of the same combination of factors for every relationship. That's why I find it difficult to condemn every circumstance as unforgivable.
They should seek help immediately and reach out to a support network first and foremost if they feel like their life is in danger. I would say love/satisfaction is a secondary priority compared to one's immediate safety. I recognize this can be a LOT more difficult said than done, but I personally think that's more important because getting caught cheating on the abusive partner will not only potentially jeopardize the person's safety further, it could give a divorce court adequate reason for the abusive partner to claim kids, larger share of possessions, etc.
There are as many excuses as there are grains of sand in the sea, but none of them are valid unless both parties have each other's permission to see other people, i.e. a polyamorist relationship.
I think it depends on perspective and situation, it's not easy to generalize - marriage is a commitment to another person and I personally think that cheating is wrong under most circumstances but I can't say my own perspective is better than anyone else's.