Hollay, I wish I knew what you looked like, because you push the concept that you're hideous so hard that I can only imagine something that's probably several orders of magnitude worse than you really are. You're an awesome writer, though.
Maybe draw a self-portrait.
Actually, drawing out in public is something that can attract people to you, as it gives them something to notice and talk about. Take a sketchbook and some pencils, and just draw something interesting. Not too controversial (this isn't the time to work on your masterpiece featuring Hitler stomping on hedgehogs) but enough going on in it that there's something to talk about (so not just a landscape).
I agree with this statement. Getting yourself out there helps. Sadly when you're ugly enough, no matter how much you smile and act positive, people want nothing to do with you.
Thank's Warp, I always appreciate you words and advice.
I'm probably around the area of, someone with bad red and dry skin, fat, harsh features. Imagine all that with crazy curly long blonde hair, and you have me. I assure you on a true scale of 1 to 10, I'd be a 2, maybe. And my idea that I'm hideous is because I've never had someone like me. I believe that for someone to like you romantically, you have to be attractive. And well, no one's ever liked me, I'm not attractive. Make-up doesn't help, and losing weight will attract people for all the wrong reasons.
Thank you, it's about my only redeeming quality along with drawing. LOL nope, I'm really not good at drawing real people. That's why I draw anime. But anime is seen as really taboo and weird, I don't like showing anything I draw to anyone. People already think I'm weird enough. But on the Laura Baeley Thread I did show one thing. It's not great though. :P
Hollay, I wish I knew what you looked like, because you push the concept that you're hideous so hard that I can only imagine something that'… mores probably several orders of magnitude worse than you really are. You're an awesome writer, though.
Maybe draw a self-portrait.
Actually, drawing out in public is something that can attract people to you, as it gives them something to notice and talk about. Take a sketchbook and some pencils, and just draw something interesting. Not too controversial (this isn't the time to work on your masterpiece featuring Hitler stomping on hedgehogs) but enough going on in it that there's something to talk about (so not just a landscape).
Woah ,I thought this thread was about me..
Anyway, I'm an 18yo suffering from social anxiety. It's getting better tho, since I started going to college this week and met two great girls the first day. Nothing will happen probably because they're very social, unlike me, but it's nice to hope, I guess...
First of all, you don't sound "ugly" to me. Your hair sounds really pretty from the way you describe it.
Second, others' perceptions of you have no effect on your physical appearance, the only one that does is yours. You won't be everyone's cup of tea, true, but that doesn't mean you're ugly or unworthy of love. Confidence is attractive. As long as you feel beautiful, you will be. It's not easy and I'm still working on it everyday but eventually you won't give a rat's ass about what other people think of you because you'll love yourself so much that their comments will be background noise.
It makes me so sad to see girls put themselves down for no reason at all. Love yourself even if it's hard, and if you can't, fake it till you make it.
Thank's Warp, I always appreciate you words and advice.
I'm probably around the area of, someone with bad red and dry skin, fat, harsh f… moreeatures. Imagine all that with crazy curly long blonde hair, and you have me. I assure you on a true scale of 1 to 10, I'd be a 2, maybe. And my idea that I'm hideous is because I've never had someone like me. I believe that for someone to like you romantically, you have to be attractive. And well, no one's ever liked me, I'm not attractive. Make-up doesn't help, and losing weight will attract people for all the wrong reasons.
Thank you, it's about my only redeeming quality along with drawing. LOL nope, I'm really not good at drawing real people. That's why I draw anime. But anime is seen as really taboo and weird, I don't like showing anything I draw to anyone. People already think I'm weird enough. But on the Laura Baeley Thread I did show one thing. It's not great though. :P
Woah ,I thought this thread was about me..
Anyway, I'm an 18yo suffering from social anxiety. It's getting better tho, since I started goin… moreg to college this week and met two great girls the first day. Nothing will happen probably because they're very social, unlike me, but it's nice to hope, I guess...
And if someone here has social anxiety check out: https://www.youtube.com/user/ScottThought/videos
And there's a good youtube channel about picking up and talking to girls: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFns-k9UgOhVRnKHdynzU2A
The way I first read that is as if you typed, "I guess I could be considered as single, as of two hours ago." As if you'd just dumped a guy. Anyway, hope you find what you're looking for!
It really only looks pretty if it's straight, but thank you nonetheless.
And I'm a lost cause at this point as far as I'm concerned. I don't believe everyone is pretty, and I know that I'm one of the ugly ones. I can't fix or change that, I just have to accept the lot I was given in life and use my personality or my skills to attract someone. IDK why I should love myself tbh, I feel like a failure most of the time, and the few times I feel proud of myself I instantly realize it's nothing noteworthy or really something that warrants praise.
I just am beyond the point of being convinced otherwise. I appreciate your kind words, but it's all stuff I've heard before. I still can't find a reason to love myself even after all my years of life and I don't think I will love myself until I do something great that deserves praise. Even then a lifetime of self loathing will probably convince me to keep feeling the way I do.
First of all, you don't sound "ugly" to me. Your hair sounds really pretty from the way you describe it.
Second, others' perceptions of y… moreou have no effect on your physical appearance, the only one that does is yours. You won't be everyone's cup of tea, true, but that doesn't mean you're ugly or unworthy of love. Confidence is attractive. As long as you feel beautiful, you will be. It's not easy and I'm still working on it everyday but eventually you won't give a rat's ass about what other people think of you because you'll love yourself so much that their comments will be background noise.
It makes me so sad to see girls put themselves down for no reason at all. Love yourself even if it's hard, and if you can't, fake it till you make it.
I still don't think you're ugly, and I hope you change your mind about that in the future because I don't believe there is a reason to feel the way you do about yourself. You should love yourself because, at the end of the day, you're really the only one who will stay 100% true to you. Sometimes friendships fade and romance withers, but when you're comfortable in your own skin you at least have something to depend on.
I still can't find a reason to love myself even after all my years of life and I don't think I will love myself until I do something great that deserves praise
Find something that makes you happy and proud of yourself. As long as you depend on others to make you feel good, you will never truly be happy. Trust me on that.
It really only looks pretty if it's straight, but thank you nonetheless.
And I'm a lost cause at this point as far as I'm concerned. I d… moreon't believe everyone is pretty, and I know that I'm one of the ugly ones. I can't fix or change that, I just have to accept the lot I was given in life and use my personality or my skills to attract someone. IDK why I should love myself tbh, I feel like a failure most of the time, and the few times I feel proud of myself I instantly realize it's nothing noteworthy or really something that warrants praise.
I just am beyond the point of being convinced otherwise. I appreciate your kind words, but it's all stuff I've heard before. I still can't find a reason to love myself even after all my years of life and I don't think I will love myself until I do something great that deserves praise. Even then a lifetime of self loathing will probably convince me to keep feeling the way I do.
Well I had my first and last girlfriend when I was 14 and last time I saw her was a year ago, technically speaking we haven't really been a couple since 2007 which is around when I was 16 but we still kind off have a thing for each other and to be honest I haven't really been interested in anyone else, it's not like she's perfect or anything but we get along and I feel very comfortable around her which is important but we can't really be together because we don't live in the same city and I have a really bad habit of skipping town and not contacting people again, still for whatever reason we keep being at the same place at the same time every now and then and we meet, it's OK I guess.
But anyway I'm alone because I honestly just don't mind it, it's just how I grew up and I don't mind, I hate depending on other people anyway but mainly because I don't have any interest in dating anyone that isn't her, well at least I haven't met anyone that I'm interested in that way, so mostly by lack of interest, to be honest I don't really have strong sexual desires and generally care very little for sex, it's been around eleven years since I last had sex and I don't really mind, to be honest it may be precisely because of that why I have a very low sex drive, but you know whatever.
I'm not so sure about that. I didn't even talk to anyone there today. Half of them are in a relatuonship and the other half is in the proccess of making it. And I'm just sitting there annoyed that those girls I met are talking with some other dude and not even noticing me...
You seem like a kind, adorable and intelligent girl any guy would want that and you sound like you wouldn't be one of them girls who always cheats and you can depend on
You be a gift to a guy one day I know you feel this way and perception is realty meaning no mater how you truly are you believe this so you think it's true when it's not
Your an incredible girl and looks to me or most guys are just a bonus on their personality but I still bet your beautiful most girls have these doubts I don't know many people happy with their looks even when their stunningly beautiful
Your going to be fine your just a bit down at the moment you must believe in yourself and get back on track a guys wish to have more girls like you
Not the pretty girls with empty brains fueled by vodka
Your a unique and awesome person I hope one day you believe in yourself because people like you deserve to have a happy life and feel good about themselves
I agree with this statement. Getting yourself out there helps. Sadly when you're ugly enough, no matter how much you smile and act positive, people want nothing to do with you.
First of all, you don't sound "ugly" to me. Your hair sounds really pretty from the way you describe it.
Second, others' perceptions of y… moreou have no effect on your physical appearance, the only one that does is yours. You won't be everyone's cup of tea, true, but that doesn't mean you're ugly or unworthy of love. Confidence is attractive. As long as you feel beautiful, you will be. It's not easy and I'm still working on it everyday but eventually you won't give a rat's ass about what other people think of you because you'll love yourself so much that their comments will be background noise.
It makes me so sad to see girls put themselves down for no reason at all. Love yourself even if it's hard, and if you can't, fake it till you make it.
I'm not so sure about that. I didn't even talk to anyone there today. Half of them are in a relatuonship and the other half is in the procce… moress of making it. And I'm just sitting there annoyed that those girls I met are talking with some other dude and not even noticing me...
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Step 1: Lay down
Step 2: Cry
I know, I was afraid you'd say that
, but I couldn't find one with madam instead.
Sorry.
Hollay, I wish I knew what you looked like, because you push the concept that you're hideous so hard that I can only imagine something that's probably several orders of magnitude worse than you really are. You're an awesome writer, though.
Maybe draw a self-portrait.
Actually, drawing out in public is something that can attract people to you, as it gives them something to notice and talk about. Take a sketchbook and some pencils, and just draw something interesting. Not too controversial (this isn't the time to work on your masterpiece featuring Hitler stomping on hedgehogs) but enough going on in it that there's something to talk about (so not just a landscape).
Thank's Warp, I always appreciate you words and advice.
I'm probably around the area of, someone with bad red and dry skin, fat, harsh features. Imagine all that with crazy curly long blonde hair, and you have me. I assure you on a true scale of 1 to 10, I'd be a 2, maybe. And my idea that I'm hideous is because I've never had someone like me. I believe that for someone to like you romantically, you have to be attractive. And well, no one's ever liked me, I'm not attractive. Make-up doesn't help, and losing weight will attract people for all the wrong reasons.
Thank you, it's about my only redeeming quality along with drawing. LOL nope, I'm really not good at drawing real people. That's why I draw anime. But anime is seen as really taboo and weird, I don't like showing anything I draw to anyone. People already think I'm weird enough. But on the Laura Baeley Thread I did show one thing. It's not great though. :P
Woah ,I thought this thread was about me..
Anyway, I'm an 18yo suffering from social anxiety. It's getting better tho, since I started going to college this week and met two great girls the first day. Nothing will happen probably because they're very social, unlike me, but it's nice to hope, I guess...
And if someone here has social anxiety check out: https://www.youtube.com/user/ScottThought/videos
And there's a good youtube channel about picking up and talking to girls: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFns-k9UgOhVRnKHdynzU2A
First of all, you don't sound "ugly" to me. Your hair sounds really pretty from the way you describe it.
Second, others' perceptions of you have no effect on your physical appearance, the only one that does is yours. You won't be everyone's cup of tea, true, but that doesn't mean you're ugly or unworthy of love. Confidence is attractive. As long as you feel beautiful, you will be. It's not easy and I'm still working on it everyday but eventually you won't give a rat's ass about what other people think of you because you'll love yourself so much that their comments will be background noise.
It makes me so sad to see girls put themselves down for no reason at all. Love yourself even if it's hard, and if you can't, fake it till you make it.
College is gonna be awesome! You'll see.
The way I first read that is as if you typed, "I guess I could be considered as single, as of two hours ago." As if you'd just dumped a guy.
Anyway, hope you find what you're looking for!
It really only looks pretty if it's straight, but thank you nonetheless.
And I'm a lost cause at this point as far as I'm concerned. I don't believe everyone is pretty, and I know that I'm one of the ugly ones. I can't fix or change that, I just have to accept the lot I was given in life and use my personality or my skills to attract someone. IDK why I should love myself tbh, I feel like a failure most of the time, and the few times I feel proud of myself I instantly realize it's nothing noteworthy or really something that warrants praise.
I just am beyond the point of being convinced otherwise. I appreciate your kind words, but it's all stuff I've heard before. I still can't find a reason to love myself even after all my years of life and I don't think I will love myself until I do something great that deserves praise. Even then a lifetime of self loathing will probably convince me to keep feeling the way I do.
I still don't think you're ugly, and I hope you change your mind about that in the future because I don't believe there is a reason to feel the way you do about yourself. You should love yourself because, at the end of the day, you're really the only one who will stay 100% true to you. Sometimes friendships fade and romance withers, but when you're comfortable in your own skin you at least have something to depend on.
Find something that makes you happy and proud of yourself. As long as you depend on others to make you feel good, you will never truly be happy. Trust me on that.
Well I had my first and last girlfriend when I was 14 and last time I saw her was a year ago, technically speaking we haven't really been a couple since 2007 which is around when I was 16 but we still kind off have a thing for each other and to be honest I haven't really been interested in anyone else, it's not like she's perfect or anything but we get along and I feel very comfortable around her which is important but we can't really be together because we don't live in the same city and I have a really bad habit of skipping town and not contacting people again, still for whatever reason we keep being at the same place at the same time every now and then and we meet, it's OK I guess.
But anyway I'm alone because I honestly just don't mind it, it's just how I grew up and I don't mind, I hate depending on other people anyway but mainly because I don't have any interest in dating anyone that isn't her, well at least I haven't met anyone that I'm interested in that way, so mostly by lack of interest, to be honest I don't really have strong sexual desires and generally care very little for sex, it's been around eleven years since I last had sex and I don't really mind, to be honest it may be precisely because of that why I have a very low sex drive, but you know whatever.
I'm not so sure about that. I didn't even talk to anyone there today. Half of them are in a relatuonship and the other half is in the proccess of making it. And I'm just sitting there annoyed that those girls I met are talking with some other dude and not even noticing me...
aww Megami has an eye on that special someone you can doet
You seem like a kind, adorable and intelligent girl any guy would want that and you sound like you wouldn't be one of them girls who always cheats and you can depend on
You be a gift to a guy one day I know you feel this way and perception is realty meaning no mater how you truly are you believe this so you think it's true when it's not
Your an incredible girl and looks to me or most guys are just a bonus on their personality but I still bet your beautiful most girls have these doubts I don't know many people happy with their looks even when their stunningly beautiful
Your going to be fine your just a bit down at the moment you must believe in yourself and get back on track a guys wish to have more girls like you
Not the pretty girls with empty brains fueled by vodka
Your a unique and awesome person I hope one day you believe in yourself because people like you deserve to have a happy life and feel good about themselves
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Just keep talking and try to get involved.
This is for all the lonely people
Thinking that life has passed them by
Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
And ride that highway in the sky
This is for all the single people
Thinking that love has left them dry
Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
You never know until you try