And it's a combination of some issues with family and also having horrible experiences in high school. Those two things made me develop a pretty bad habit of self hate and how I viewed my worth as a person.
Of course you could just gain back your self esteem by telling yourself, that you are the most unique, the most beautiful, the most important person in the world every day, which is true, and if you don't believe it no one will.
I don't think I'd ever call myself any of those things to such an extent. Unique, yes, beautiful, no, important, maybe? I understand your sentiment, but it's a bit of a stretch to say those things to oneself and actually believe them. But it's nice if people can say those things to themselves and it gives them the initiative to strive to be those things.
I guess I thought hating myself made me more aware of my short comings and want to change them.
All these threads... are just basically you bashing yourself for no reason.
A person can't have a price tag put on them, it's unethical, … morethat's why slavery is illegal.
If you meant worth as in accomplishments, then being bad at stuff doesn't make you worthless, just existing already proves that you're amazing, humans are very sophisticated life forms and you can already do what tons of people can't, which is live a semi normal life.
Self criticism is a good trait, but what you're doing is self loathing, that's a negative trait, you really have no reason to hate yourself this much. I'm just beggining to think that a lot of assholes called you useless as a child and fucked up your mentality. (Wrong!)
Of course you could just gain back your self esteem by telling yourself, that you are the most unique, the most beautiful, the most important person in the world every day, which is true, and if you don't believe it no one will.
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Life is depressing. Sometimes, I feel like making these things more open help us deal better with them and not feel alone. I know I already feel better knowing I'm not the only person whom has issues with understanding/accepting equality and also knowing I'm not alone in some self esteem issues.
And I know 23 is young to be worried about that sort of thing, but not having any experiences with relationships at all at this age worries me.
And you're right, but old habits die hard. Talking about this stuff openly makes me feel better.
why do you make all these depressing threads, its sad to read, but remember, you are only 23.. thats young as hell, you aren't obliged to ge… moret married that young since most do it when they hit 30's, you have so much time.
real talk, don't let a few bad years of your life spoil the many years to come of your future.
this kind of topic reminds me of the red dwarf episode "the inquisitor" basically the inquisitor is a time traveling robot who can erase people from existence and time, but how he chooses whether or not to do that is by having people judge themselves as to whether they are worthy of existence. even though it is a comedy show it actually can be quite deep, the concept of judging yourself seems fair, however there are complications.
the character Cat is incredibly shallow and justifies his existence simply because he has a great ass and therefore he justifies his existence, the character Rimmer who is generally pathetic and vindictive and basically a failure blames all his failings on his parents, so he judges that he could not have done any better with his life so that is how he justifies his existence, the character Lister on the other hand feels like he never reached his full potential so he isn't able to justify his existence and neither is the character kryten because he feels like he isn't worthy to make that kind of judgement.
basically the moral of the story is that judging yourself is not actually a great thing to do, even though you may seem like the best judge of yourself, you aren't.
Thanks bro and I'm not surprised at all your dad beat his critics to get such an awesome job he did a great job with you so I can tell his an awesome guy.
That is some inspirational shit, Mark! Congrats.
Your story reminds me a lot of my dad, who also had dyslexia and struggled in school. His high-school English teacher said he'd never amount to anything. Guess who's a Robotics Engineer now...
You are capable of so many great things man. And you will no doubt continue to inspire others as well as carve your own path in this world. I'm very proud of you. Thank you very much for your continued support to so many people on these forums.
I can relate, having high functioning Autism and having had been unable to make friends with people and proved annoying for several people in the past. I have managed to overcome my shortcomings through therapy and maturity. Hell, one of autisms defining characteristics is a slowing in language development and a low verbal intelligence quotient and I am trying to learn a language on top of my first one.
Disabilities have made it harder for you and I, and yet we have managed our way around them thus far. That just shows how special, talented and strong humanity, people with disabilities and more specifically you and I, are. You have proven yourself well and truly a beyond competent and strong human and I suspect that you shall continue so henceforth.
https://www.telltalegames.com/community/discussion/83811/bullying/p7
I think this will help users many people shared their stories
I’l… morel do a sequel a story I haven’t told yet
12 years old I get tested lots of puzzles, reading, writing, guessing what complex words mean I never heard of etc.
I wait in the car my OCD goes crazy I touch everything 10 times so nervous what the results are they say I’m a genius but I have severe dyslexia so I will struggle to ever realise that genius
My results are still shit in school but my self-esteem is a little better as now I have an excuse to do badly.
I fail most of my tests in school I never study I have dyslexia I’d only be wasting my time and I’m more interested in sport tbh school was a prison to me.
Fast forward to college I was skipping class most days still doing badly then the day happened
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Good luck with the language! Learning things contrary to your skills is difficult, but very worthwhile, since it requires you to develop coping mechanisms.
I can relate, having high functioning Autism and having had been unable to make friends with people and proved annoying for several people i… moren the past. I have managed to overcome my shortcomings through therapy and maturity. Hell, one of autisms defining characteristics is a slowing in language development and a low verbal intelligence quotient and I am trying to learn a language on top of my first one.
Disabilities have made it harder for you and I, and yet we have managed our way around them thus far. That just shows how special, talented and strong humanity, people with disabilities and more specifically you and I, are. You have proven yourself well and truly a beyond competent and strong human and I suspect that you shall continue so henceforth.
Autism exists not as one disorder, but across a spectrum. I happen to be fortunate enought to be on the good end (high functioning, which is more or less similar to Aspergers syndrome)
Thanks, The language in question is German. Not as difficult as Arabic, but the cases and articles are definitely annoying.
And that is not including the indefinite articles! (Seriously, though. They are not that bad, once you get over your anxiety in learning them).
You're autistic Ramm? I never would've guessed!
Good luck with the language! Learning things contrary to your skills is difficult, but very worthwhile, since it requires you to develop coping mechanisms.
Ugh case systems. Arabic technically has three cases (and 3 moods), but thankfully they're only used in the Quran and really stodgy written Arabic. The also don't change roots or articles.
Cases in German have one advantage though, they give you a lot more flexibility in word order. Still, I'm kinda glad Español and Bahasa Indonesia don't have em.
Autism exists not as one disorder, but across a spectrum. I happen to be fortunate enought to be on the good end (high functioning, which is… more more or less similar to Aspergers syndrome)
Thanks, The language in question is German. Not as difficult as Arabic, but the cases and articles are definitely annoying.
And that is not including the indefinite articles! (Seriously, though. They are not that bad, once you get over your anxiety in learning them).
I can relate, having high functioning Autism and having had been unable to make friends with people and proved annoying for several people i… moren the past. I have managed to overcome my shortcomings through therapy and maturity. Hell, one of autisms defining characteristics is a slowing in language development and a low verbal intelligence quotient and I am trying to learn a language on top of my first one.
Disabilities have made it harder for you and I, and yet we have managed our way around them thus far. That just shows how special, talented and strong humanity, people with disabilities and more specifically you and I, are. You have proven yourself well and truly a beyond competent and strong human and I suspect that you shall continue so henceforth.
I have this fear that since I've never had a boyfriend by this age, that the more years that pass the harder it will be to find one and the … morefurther cemented is the fact that I am not nor have I even been attractive or beautiful
I told you before, but I think that it isn't because of your appearance. Could it be that the reason you haven't had a boyfriend was because they find you somewhat intimidating? Males are human too. They could be too shy to approach you or perhaps you give others the impression that you don't want to be bothered in public. I know what it's like to think you're not beautiful (believe me, I definitely know...), but the fact is that there are 7 billion people in this world, you're bound to be someone's type. Maybe it's your turn to step out of your comfort zone and approach them. Who knows, they might even be relieved that you took initiative first.
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Your advice is a lie. You aren't treating people the way they would like to be treated. You are choosing the way. Only you. As i said before, not everyone is a gimp (sex slave from Pulp Fiction); beaten, humiliated. I guess you don't care.
We're at the same age. I have similar feelings and fears as yours. I'm not at peace with myself, most of the time I don't like myself.
I'm a born introvert and people always made me feel that I'm not normal (maybe it wasn't actually said but I felt the true meaning behind their words). Saying me that I'm "antisocial", or "weird"... for liking anime, rock music, being silent among strangers and for hating parties. Now I know that it's not weird and I'm not alone, but I grew up feeling that way. How can someone define what is normal or weird?... I used to be a funny person, but that's just gone... I never valued myself like I should have, I always underestimate myself.
I still want to change so badly but I just can't. Not for others, but for myself, to feel better.
Since the age of 14 I have a fear that I'll remain all alone. I never had a long lasting relationship, and I think I've only been in love once. And it fucking hurt. It took 2 years to recover from that disappointment. I'm longing for a long lasting relationship but i'm terrified to start one. I don't even give a chance for anyone these days.
I got my driver's licence this spring, I thought it'd boost my self-confidence (I succeeded at every exam first try) BUT it didn't.. it only made my anxiety much worse.
I felt physically ill in the past 2 years, but I finally realized that I "only" have some badass anxiety. But I think I know the solution now.
Oh shit I want you to feel better, but I'm doing it sooo wrong.
So don't worry about finding a partner, you don't need to rush things You're young, the world is yours. Just don't forget to live and appreciate the little things.
Every person is valuable, don't feel worthless. The only thing that needs to be earned is respect I think.
And it's a really good thing that you share your feelings, don't keep it in you because it can eat you up. I don't mind reading threads like this, it helps me too...to feel more "normal". You're not alone
Life is depressing. Sometimes, I feel like making these things more open help us deal better with them and not feel alone. I know I already … morefeel better knowing I'm not the only person whom has issues with understanding/accepting equality and also knowing I'm not alone in some self esteem issues.
And I know 23 is young to be worried about that sort of thing, but not having any experiences with relationships at all at this age worries me.
And you're right, but old habits die hard. Talking about this stuff openly makes me feel better.
No they don't. Nothing implies that.
Your advice is a lie. You aren't treating people the way they would like to be treated. You are choo… moresing the way. Only you. As i said before, not everyone is a gimp (sex slave from Pulp Fiction); beaten, humiliated. I guess you don't care.
A degree means you worked hard to accomplish something, you succeeded, and it will be with you the rest of your life, no matter what happens! So that's absolutely something to be proud of!
Try to savor every success, no matter how small. And the big ones are really worth celebrating!
That's a very good point.
And trust me, I've learned my lesson with people like that... often the prettiest people who know they're prett… morey/handsome become some of the ugliest people when you get to know them....
Another good point.
Thank you, I'm glad someone thinks they are. I like to encourage people to think a little more critically, or maybe even to discuss issues that might be considered taboo. And I do value your opinions, you always present things very rationally and empathetically. And thank you so much, it means so much to know someone enjoys my writing. I am working towards a minor in creative writings and that's honestly what I want to do with my life is write books to help others, inspire them, and lift them up to become something better for themselves. And thank you, that's very kind of you to think so. :,)
I don't know... I mean, what can I look at from the past that is noteworthy or considered something to feel acco… [view original content]
No, you are mean. I didn't say a word against you and you're calling me "shitposter". Or maybe you just don't understand. Ok, specially for you - man is the most dangerous animal, being a lion sucks when a rich, spoiled dentist from States can come to Africa, kill you, skin you, and take your head as a trophy. Never heard about Cecil?
No, you are mean. I didn't say a word against you and you're calling me "shitposter". Or maybe you just don't understand. Ok, specially for … moreyou - man is the most dangerous animal, being a lion sucks when a rich, spoiled dentist from States can come to Africa, kill you, skin you, and take your head as a trophy. Never heard about Cecil?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cecil_(lion)
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Thank you for all of this.
And it's a combination of some issues with family and also having horrible experiences in high school. Those two things made me develop a pretty bad habit of self hate and how I viewed my worth as a person.
I don't think I'd ever call myself any of those things to such an extent. Unique, yes, beautiful, no, important, maybe? I understand your sentiment, but it's a bit of a stretch to say those things to oneself and actually believe them. But it's nice if people can say those things to themselves and it gives them the initiative to strive to be those things.
I guess I thought hating myself made me more aware of my short comings and want to change them.
Life is depressing. Sometimes, I feel like making these things more open help us deal better with them and not feel alone. I know I already feel better knowing I'm not the only person whom has issues with understanding/accepting equality and also knowing I'm not alone in some self esteem issues.
And I know 23 is young to be worried about that sort of thing, but not having any experiences with relationships at all at this age worries me.
And you're right, but old habits die hard. Talking about this stuff openly makes me feel better.
this kind of topic reminds me of the red dwarf episode "the inquisitor" basically the inquisitor is a time traveling robot who can erase people from existence and time, but how he chooses whether or not to do that is by having people judge themselves as to whether they are worthy of existence. even though it is a comedy show it actually can be quite deep, the concept of judging yourself seems fair, however there are complications.
the character Cat is incredibly shallow and justifies his existence simply because he has a great ass and therefore he justifies his existence, the character Rimmer who is generally pathetic and vindictive and basically a failure blames all his failings on his parents, so he judges that he could not have done any better with his life so that is how he justifies his existence, the character Lister on the other hand feels like he never reached his full potential so he isn't able to justify his existence and neither is the character kryten because he feels like he isn't worthy to make that kind of judgement.
basically the moral of the story is that judging yourself is not actually a great thing to do, even though you may seem like the best judge of yourself, you aren't.
Thanks bro and I'm not surprised at all your dad beat his critics to get such an awesome job he did a great job with you so I can tell his an awesome guy.
Dyslexia only defines you if you let it
aww thank you so much I can't wait till the day you find happiness your awesome
you cant get a halleluja but is a thumbs up ok?
i honestly dont have much self worth or value but i do feel better that ive now got a good paying job
I can relate, having high functioning Autism and having had been unable to make friends with people and proved annoying for several people in the past. I have managed to overcome my shortcomings through therapy and maturity. Hell, one of autisms defining characteristics is a slowing in language development and a low verbal intelligence quotient and I am trying to learn a language on top of my first one.
Disabilities have made it harder for you and I, and yet we have managed our way around them thus far. That just shows how special, talented and strong humanity, people with disabilities and more specifically you and I, are. You have proven yourself well and truly a beyond competent and strong human and I suspect that you shall continue so henceforth.
You're autistic Ramm? I never would've guessed!
Good luck with the language! Learning things contrary to your skills is difficult, but very worthwhile, since it requires you to develop coping mechanisms.
Autism exists not as one disorder, but across a spectrum. I happen to be fortunate enought to be on the good end (high functioning, which is more or less similar to Aspergers syndrome)
Thanks, The language in question is German. Not as difficult as Arabic, but the cases and articles are definitely annoying.
And that is not including the indefinite articles! (Seriously, though. They are not that bad, once you get over your anxiety in learning them).
Ugh case systems. Arabic technically has three cases (and 3 moods), but thankfully they're only used in the Quran and really stodgy written Arabic. The also don't change roots or articles.
Cases in German have one advantage though, they give you a lot more flexibility in word order. Still, I'm kinda glad Español and Bahasa Indonesia don't have em.
I never knew but congrats on beating the challenges that brought you gained so much respect off me knowing this
The harder the challenge the better and more rewarding the achievement.
Yes we are awesome and should never be underestimated exactly
This video should cheer you up.
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BE A FUCKING LION.
KEEP AWAY FROM AMERICAN DENTISTS.
Somebody has a shitposting problem.
Max, where's your "treat people the way they would like to be treated"? Why are you insulting?
You're replies imply that you wish to be treated like a shitposter.
No they don't. Nothing implies that.
Your advice is a lie. You aren't treating people the way they would like to be treated. You are choosing the way. Only you. As i said before, not everyone is a gimp (sex slave from Pulp Fiction); beaten, humiliated. I guess you don't care.
We're at the same age.
I have similar feelings and fears as yours. I'm not at peace with myself, most of the time I don't like myself.
I'm a born introvert and people always made me feel that I'm not normal (maybe it wasn't actually said but I felt the true meaning behind their words). Saying me that I'm "antisocial", or "weird"... for liking anime, rock music, being silent among strangers and for hating parties. Now I know that it's not weird and I'm not alone, but I grew up feeling that way. How can someone define what is normal or weird?... I used to be a funny person, but that's just gone... I never valued myself like I should have, I always underestimate myself.
I still want to change so badly but I just can't. Not for others, but for myself, to feel better.
Since the age of 14 I have a fear that I'll remain all alone. I never had a long lasting relationship, and I think I've only been in love once. And it fucking hurt. It took 2 years to recover from that disappointment. I'm longing for a long lasting relationship but i'm terrified to start one. I don't even give a chance for anyone these days.
I got my driver's licence this spring, I thought it'd boost my self-confidence (I succeeded at every exam first try) BUT it didn't.. it only made my anxiety much worse.
I felt physically ill in the past 2 years, but I finally realized that I "only" have some badass anxiety. But I think I know the solution now.
Oh shit I want you to feel better, but I'm doing it sooo wrong.
So don't worry about finding a partner, you don't need to rush things
You're young, the world is yours. Just don't forget to live and appreciate the little things.
Every person is valuable, don't feel worthless. The only thing that needs to be earned is respect I think.
And it's a really good thing that you share your feelings, don't keep it in you because it can eat you up. I don't mind reading threads like this, it helps me too...to feel more "normal". You're not alone
How exactly am I beating and humiliating you?! Your reference confuses me.
And yes, you do shitpost in most threads, I'm just pointing it out.
Open wide, bitch.
This is probably one of the best episodes of South Park.
A degree means you worked hard to accomplish something, you succeeded, and it will be with you the rest of your life, no matter what happens! So that's absolutely something to be proud of!
Try to savor every success, no matter how small. And the big ones are really worth celebrating!
No, you are mean. I didn't say a word against you and you're calling me "shitposter". Or maybe you just don't understand. Ok, specially for you - man is the most dangerous animal, being a lion sucks when a rich, spoiled dentist from States can come to Africa, kill you, skin you, and take your head as a trophy. Never heard about Cecil?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cecil_(lion)
Heard all about Cecil. Still don't see how he's relevant to the conversation of self-worth.