I want to help people when I'm able to, I don't want anything out of, I just want to be able to make their lives a little happier, even if it's through a small act of kindness. The way I see it, my life would be pointless if everything I ever did only benefited myself, if I can make a change in the lives of others, I'm improving more lives than my own, I'm making more than just myself happy, I'm showing people that I'm someone who cares about them even if they don't care about me.
There are times where I've felt I could've helped people though and I definitely felt super guilty when I couldn't get myself to help them. It wasn't because I didn't want to help them but more so because I was and you could say still am quite a shy and introverted person, I find it difficult just to say hi to someone without thinking that they might hate me(I know it's strange xd). But when I do manage to get myself to help people, I always feel like everything is worth it.
Even if people don't always help me, I try to make it a goal to try and help them in any way that I can, even if that means being the person who gets ridiculed to put a smile on someone else's face and make them feel happier, even if that means giving up valuable possessions in order to help someone else - in this case, it would be difficult for me but I know that in the end, other people will likely benefit more from most of my belongings than I can at this point. I try to help when I can, I try to make others laugh, feel cared about and feel acknowledged because that's something I care about, in fact, it's one of my dreams to make a change in the world for the better, even if it's only a small change, I'd at least know that I've done something that has made other people happier
I agree that we aren't slaves to our biological impulses and environment. For instance, my dad has three siblings, all of whom are alcoholics, while he's been careful about him consumption and has stayed clean. However to claim that genetics and environment don't play a role in addiction and recovery is simply, factually wrong.
not really, one tends to come after another.
Did any one shove alcohol down their throats? Make them eat themselves to death? It's c… morehoice nothing more
Did I say that every one of them was, no? But people with trauma are over represented among drug addicts, as are people with poor upbringings, the undereducated and the poor. Environment.
People also have their brains don't they? They can see that let's say taking a drug that makes you a wreck after a year can be kind of bad...
Fucking. prove. it. Find me serious scientific studies that say "people get addicted cause they're just wimps!" You won't. This claim is pure nonsense that has no basis in reality.
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" In my 20s, I liked to drink. I liked the feeling it gave me and I liked being a girl who could drink with the boys. So far, that was my choice."
How many more stories start like that?
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I just help as much as I can. I just do it instinctively. Since I went through so much emotional pain since I was young, I just wanted to help others by lessening theirs by helping them through their troubles. Of course, there are times where I feel a certain person doesn't deserve it for the things they've done that I hated. But most of the time I try to help, while also trying to keep my sanity in check.
Well maybe I was little to harsh about those issues as they have influence but like you said we aren't slaves of our genes or environment. The example you gave is what I was gunning for. What differs your fahter from his siblings? They share genes and most likely the upbring, but your father make a CHOICE to restrain himself while his siblings didn't, he had a WILLPOWER to do it while they didn't. That's my point and saying that will power has nothing to do with addiction is foolish, extremlly so
I agree that we aren't slaves to our biological impulses and environment. For instance, my dad has three siblings, all of whom are alcoholi… morecs, while he's been careful about him consumption and has stayed clean. However to claim that genetics and environment don't play a role in addiction and recovery is simply, factually wrong.
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I want to help people when I'm able to, I don't want anything out of, I just want to be able to make their lives a little happier, even if it's through a small act of kindness. The way I see it, my life would be pointless if everything I ever did only benefited myself, if I can make a change in the lives of others, I'm improving more lives than my own, I'm making more than just myself happy, I'm showing people that I'm someone who cares about them even if they don't care about me.
There are times where I've felt I could've helped people though and I definitely felt super guilty when I couldn't get myself to help them. It wasn't because I didn't want to help them but more so because I was and you could say still am quite a shy and introverted person, I find it difficult just to say hi to someone without thinking that they might hate me(I know it's strange xd). But when I do manage to get myself to help people, I always feel like everything is worth it.
Even if people don't always help me, I try to make it a goal to try and help them in any way that I can, even if that means being the person who gets ridiculed to put a smile on someone else's face and make them feel happier, even if that means giving up valuable possessions in order to help someone else - in this case, it would be difficult for me but I know that in the end, other people will likely benefit more from most of my belongings than I can at this point. I try to help when I can, I try to make others laugh, feel cared about and feel acknowledged because that's something I care about, in fact, it's one of my dreams to make a change in the world for the better, even if it's only a small change, I'd at least know that I've done something that has made other people happier
I agree that we aren't slaves to our biological impulses and environment. For instance, my dad has three siblings, all of whom are alcoholics, while he's been careful about him consumption and has stayed clean. However to claim that genetics and environment don't play a role in addiction and recovery is simply, factually wrong.
I just help as much as I can. I just do it instinctively. Since I went through so much emotional pain since I was young, I just wanted to help others by lessening theirs by helping them through their troubles. Of course, there are times where I feel a certain person doesn't deserve it for the things they've done that I hated. But most of the time I try to help, while also trying to keep my sanity in check.
It depends on how simple it is.
If someone asks me to take out their trash, help with their homework, etc. I can do it.
But if someone asks me to do something like, kill someone or rob a bank, I can't do it.
Well maybe I was little to harsh about those issues as they have influence but like you said we aren't slaves of our genes or environment. The example you gave is what I was gunning for. What differs your fahter from his siblings? They share genes and most likely the upbring, but your father make a CHOICE to restrain himself while his siblings didn't, he had a WILLPOWER to do it while they didn't. That's my point and saying that will power has nothing to do with addiction is foolish, extremlly so