Why do some people fail to know each other, even after they have spent considerable time together?
I can not figure it out why that happens. What do you think?
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I can not figure it out why that happens. What do you think?
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Because they either don't want to know the other or don't want to be known by the other person. Or both.
There appear to be a lot of different reasons. One could simply feel indifferent towards this acquaintance, or not want to open up for a multitude of reasons. Someone could pass baseless judgements on a person before even truly meeting them, and thus deem them "unfriendable." I feel like fear is a large factor for some people. Maybe these people have been friendly acquaintances for awhile, and they worry that getting closer could ruin what is already established. They are afraid to take the leap because of how vulnerable and bare it leaves them. They dread the idea of opening up if it's something they could never muster up the strength to do before, or are left terrified if they've put their heart in someone's hands only to have it be rejected or just generally mistreated. That last part got a little heavy, but it's not exactly unheard of. Even if it's rarely said, these intense anxieties that mainly result from a lack of confidence in oneself are crippling for anyone that wants to begin a relationship of any kind. But from my experience, plain not caring seems to be rather common too.
It is because they probably just don't match. There's this friend I've been with for quite some time, we never really got close. But there's another person in which I open myself up to in a few days.
Really... I think the main reason is you need to have confidence, and you usually have confidence if the other person is of a lower standard than you. (Not as popular, smart etc)