How do you feel about other people? Do you have many close friends?
The way I see it, people generally speaking are very selfish. And I personally am no different. I tend to be mainly interested in myself, and what's going on in my life, and really don't care to much about what's going on in the lives of others.
On the other hand, people that I have grown to care for, and who I was willing to go to the ends of the Earth for, showed that in the end they didn't give a shit about me. That they really didn't want my company. And that's their loss!
When it comes to groups of people, it's like everyone has that sense of brotherhood going on between them, and I could never figure out how to get into it. I've always on the outside looking in, and it has been that way, regardless of whom I'm around.
And largely, when it comes to other people, and I have found this time and time again, people are simply looking out for themselves. When they see you, they start to measure you up, to see what they can take from you. In other words: "What does being in your company do for me?"
And after you are no longer of use to them, or they have just gotten tired of you; for whatever reason, they spit you out like used gum. That's the world we live in!
What the saddest part about people like that is they can never forge real deep genuine bonds. To them, nobody is a real friend, but rather an accomplice.And that's why the old saying is true: "Just look out for yourself, because nobody else will."
Personally, in order to cope, and since I have always been the the type of person who falls through the cracks, largely invisible, that's when I realized that if no one was going to take an interest in me, that I had to take an interest in myself.
I had to do what was right for me, and the only person's success and happiness that I am responsible for is myself. If other people don't want my company, that's their problem.
They say it's better to be alone then be surrounded by fake friends. However, every lone Wolf needs a pack, because lone wolves tend not to live very long. So if I am destined to live a short life, then I intend to make it a merry one.
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Meh... people are people. You got good people and you got bad people. The world keeps spinning.
I have many friends,but just 4-6 of them are nice.The rest of em smoke or drink and i don't wanna be one of them! So this are my friends!!
I'm running pretty short on friends lately. Not that i ever had a lot of them.
From real-life friends, i have none. I'm socially awkward.
From internet friends, i had a friend-girl from Slovenia i used to know for about 2 years, it was the furthest i ever got when it comes to friendship. We argued over some dumb shit, and from word to word, we don't talk anymore.
My other best friend from New Zealand has on-going drama with his gf for some time now. I told him he should break up with her, quite a few times, so not sure if he is pissed at me or simply don't want to or don't have time to talk.
I also used to talk with around 4-5 people in a chat group, but well, shit happens. We argued, decided to leave the group for a while, originally i was going to come back, but after thinking about it, i'm always letting everybody down. As in emotionally. Decided it's the best for them if i won't ruin everybody's mood every time i open my mouth.
So yeah. It was a phase of losing friends for me, for few months, then i didn't really talk with anybody for about a month, more or less, and then i decided to join this forum. Seems like i need some human contact after all, no matter how hard i try resist that.
I've only ever had two true friends that I was close too. One moved way when I was little and the other is too caught up in his job and girlfriend to spend time with me anymore. That's why I joined this forum years ago. Loneliness and depression got to me. I think everyone needs some friends and love. It's what makes us human.
I can closely relate to Data from Star Trek. It's true that the average person will screw you over if it puts them in a better position, whether it be social status or money. I have one close friend that I've known for eleven years and my fiancé. I do not trust many people and I've found most people in the world to be awful. It's one of the reasons that I left Facebook and one of the reasons that I tend to avoid a social life.
In a general sense, people are good. They do shitty things, but it's because of our shitty world. People join gangs, and people steal, and people do whatever it takes to climb that corporate ladder, but it's all because they were hurt, and are responding to their individual pains. Nobody is just evil.
And as for the second part of that question, I have a good few close friends, but I'm in a bit of a dry patch with people right now. I take a long time to grow on people, and I just moved to college, so only close friends I have right now are the people I went to high school with that went to the same college as me, but throughout my life, I've gotten close to people many times. If I were the only person I was supposed to care about, I'd just fucking kill myself, man. Instead, I spend my time trying to make others' lives better.
You want to know something funny? I've always preferred being a loner. I don't like going out or hanging out with people. That being said, I'm often told I'm very charismatic and I can easily get along with mostly everyone, too. In my experience having friends has proven to be painful in the long run more than anything so I gave up on friendship a while ago. I'm 20 and I can honestly tell you I haven't had a real friend since I was like 17.
My life is work-daughter-videogames. That's it really.
Hmm.....Trust me kid, hidding from the world altogether. Thats usually. a bad road. Even online friends can help ease your load. I've been guilty of this myself. People can be a tiring lot. Its OK to regather yourself. Just don't burn bridges. Because someday sooner than you may think you'll need that bridge. And it won't be there. Or vice versa. Nothing makes you feel worse than finding out a friend has died and the last words you shared were something like F-off. Not one of my greatest moments there. Not enaging is engaging. And your silence speaks for you. Even when you don't. Hardest thing in the world to learn for myself. People need people,but we don't have to like it!
Generally I prefer the majority of the time to be alone and talk with people on this website. When I'm not doing that I like to drink with my best friend of 11 years. I've known him since he was in 6th grade and I was in 8th. Now he's 21 and I'm 23. My fiance and I are very compatible, I enjoy cuddling with her. You are correct OP, many people are not very nice and if you try to be everyone's friend, you are bound to run into people that will try to take advantage of you. Find a good friend or two and be happy with that.
Your threads about how all humanity is dead and human beings are backstabbing cunts honestly depress the shit out of me. I'm not even gonna bother arguing how inaccurate and/or HORRIBLY subjective most of what you said is because now I'm bummed out. What the fuck, can you like once post a thread about your favorite breed of kittens and we can all talk about how adorable cats are? Lighten up man, jesus.
Well, I've help my friend a lot in school, I gave him our notes, I let him burrow my rubber. Not sure about should I call him a friend, but he hasn't done anything good... except that he gave me our notes for like once...
Well the post is kinda meant to be subjective. It's asking for opinions my man.
I personally think Facebook is just a way to feed narcissistic tendencies. People might give you a like on stuff you post, but in reality they hate it, because it's not about them.
I'm a bit older than you, and I can tell you that you'll be lucky in this life if you have only one true friend.
I've never had that. So of you had that, and that person isn't related by blood, God bless you!
I have a few IRL friends that I've known for a long time and can call my pack, there's four of them. But all in all, it's kinda hard for me to make friends, haha.
On the internet, though, it's different. People don't see my face so maybe that's a huge factor :P. I have more close friends, also this guy I know for 4 years now, we talk about random crap and play games a lot.
I guess I'm a "badass online, pussy offline", hahaha.
As I child, I never really got close to anyone because I genuinely though that I don't need any friedns. Now I'm a teen and I realise that I was so stupid.
The problem is that I'm not sure how to make friends and it takes a long time for me to get close to someone. I rarely open up to anyone and there's a strange paradox - I'd rather show my feelings to someone I don't know and probably will never meet again rather than someone I trust. It's just really hard. I need a person to tell him my problems and fears, but it when comes to it, I just can't speak a word.
Though now it's getting better. I'm pretty close to my four classmates, we often hang out together and tell each other secrets, which makes me feel really happy, like they are some damn gods and I was blessed by them. Each summer I go to a camp in the other country to study English and I usually manage to find some buddies in 2-3 weeks. There are people with whom I chat in the Internet and even though it's not serious, it still feels important to me.
Nonetheless, no matter how communicative I will become, I'll never have many friends. It's just not the way I am.
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Having friends, especially good ones, is important. You can't go through life happily without them, in my opinion. Simply being a loner will make you even more miserable. Try to find good friends, ones that are truthful to you.
People to me, it doesn't mean much. I do have about half a dozen or so close friends; so close that, with our personalities combined, we are like the Goonies.
I honestly prefer to keep to myself. Hell, i rarely leave my apartment. Only person i talk to is my wife.
God, I love spending time with people in thought but when I'm actually doing it I can hate it sometimes. But usually it's pretty enjoyable if it's just me and my close friends.
I like people and I personally try my best not to judge them even if they are being rude or mean to me - I don't know them personally and they don't know me, I don't know what's going on their lives and I've learned to just brush off negativity.
I feel that I've amassed quite allot of friends but I've only got a few close friends but I am all of my close friends' second picks I would say, I don't really have a Best Friend just a group of great ones
and I don't really mind it, we all have lots of fun and laughs hehe
It's the quote "look out for yourself, because no one else will" that has encouraged to be more appreciative, supportive and caring for others, my own philosophy of life is that 'if I can't change the world for the better, at least for the people around me, then what's the point in living?'. So I do my best to show those around me that they can rely on someone and I've come to rely on a few people too.
As I come to meet more people, interact with them and form bonds, I come to care more and more about the people around me. Do they all care for me? Nope, I highly doubt it but that's not going to stop me from caring about them because other peoples' happiness is more important than my own and I find a way to enjoy anything I'm doing lol
Well, i generally don't like hanging out with people and prefer keeping to myself. I only have one close friend and my relation with other people is simply acquaintances, at best. I generally feel indifferent towards other people
There's good people in the world as well as the bad ones. I've encountered only a few people who were willing to be open around me with their feelings on things. As of now, I don't have any friends.
I'm terrible when it comes to keeping friends due to my extreme introverted personality. This is mostly my fault since I hardly make an effort to engage with people. I believe that connections with others is important to have in order to keep oneself mentally healthy.
I'm on a journey of battling myself to find at least one good friend that I can be my true self around.