How do you choose to deal with things that bother you?
Personally, I drink. I have felt a lot of emotional pain in my life that I just want to shut it out, which means shutting myself off from everyone if that's what it takes.
I'm so afraid to feel anything that is uncomfortable - emotionally painful - that I just want to run from it. I just don't want to hurt anymore.
So I drink, and drink, and drink.
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That's not healthy.
Dear OP, learn to live with that pain or find a way to get rid of it. It's gonna be with you forever if you keep drinking. Please, think about it.
Personally, people irritate me. Their attitudes, way of being and behaving, etc. I'm considered to be the calm and sensible person, but I've got my demons like everybody else.
Things that bother me the most are:
Generally I don't give a flying fuck, but I must admire, sometimes it's hard.
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I'm going through a really bad case of depression right now and it's extremely hard to cope. Still, I'm trying. Drinking helps a bit for me but it shouldn't be all you rely on.
Try to keep busy. Work, clean, immerse yourself in video games, anything that will distract you for a while. A nice long bath or shower can be really relaxing. Exercising is also good because it boosts the endorphins in your brain. Focus on what makes you happy and just shut out everything else.
As much as you may want to be alone with your feelings, it will only make you feel worse in the long run, trust me. Surround yourself with people you love. Vent to them. Get out of the house and go do something fun together.
And, if you really need to, cry. Cry until you exhaust your tear ducts. I've been letting it out at least once a day and it makes me feel the tiniest bit better.
I guess this kinda doubles as a self-help post for myself, heh.
I stress-eat, preferably chocolate.
But that's only if it mostly affects me personally. If it hurts someone I care about, I pretty just keep trying to help as much as I can bring myself to.
I try to relax, confide in friends. Friends are definitely a big stress reliever.
By bashing my head against a really solid wall until I fall asleep.
There are three approaches to fixing something that bothers you:
They can all be valid approaches, depending on the situation.
Alcohol doesn't fix anything, though. The problem will still be there when the buzz wears off.
I mostly deal with things by going to fitness and exercise. And play or watch something to cheer me up. If those aren't an option, then all you can do is to endure the pain and face it.
And Friend, stop drinking. You can do better, I believe you.
I find that if you can find something that motivates you that always helps.
Weather it be hitting the gym, playing video games, going out in a social environment, hanging with friends etc.
Have fun dude, don't sit around and let things bother you, be happy and have fun (- :
A few years ago/when I could afford to, weed. I typically used that to relieve stress. Whenever something bothered me or stressed me out, I just went home and got high with friends. Now I don't use it nearly as much as I did because I realized it just doesn't work for long periods of time. As a matter of fact, it solves absolutely. Nothing.
What I'm getting at is this: things alcohol, weed, any kind of drug or substance are a temporary solution. Take it from somebody with hands on experience like yourself. Not everything is your fault, and you can't blame yourself for things that are out of your control.
Here if you need to talk, man.
I've been drinking a lot too. I did good for a while but the stress kept building and I used it as an excuse to numb the pain i was feeling. Honestly though I feel like alcohol makes things worse. It may numb the feelings temporarily but they come back later and are much stronger than before. Sometimes you have to relinquish control over things you can't control and focus on things that you can control about yourself.
Yes, also this. Alcohol is a depressant. One who is depressed that takes a depressant=a bad time.
I use a therapist
Talk with friends last time I talked about my depression it was a few hours ago on work because I just had to and I trust him not to say anything and I feel most time better saying it and it worked... Can't wait to get it back now SARCASM
Medicine
eating
Dirty private things
Taking a shower
Mastrubate- I mean training my muscles sports F*CK
Gaming
They... kinda help
Let's imagine a random stranger happily jogging through the woods and hearing some demonic screams.
Hey, I'm sure demons get kicked in the titties too!
I tattle tell. It's how I survived middle school.
Play video games until it goes away I guess
I guess I mostly either just ignore it or, if it's pressing, panic until I find some way to brute force it.
I don't. I just accept the fact that is kinda impossible to be satisfied and/or happy my whole life.
Realizing that everything is temporary, even the life itself, is a double-edged sword for me -- it either makes me depressed or really carefree in a good way.
Alcohol is a goddamn poison.
Blame myself for all of it really.
Agreed.
You know the "buzz" you feel is just your body fighting off the poison? That feeling is the receptors responding to the consumption of the booze. The fun feelings of being drunk are literally just your body repelling poison that's in the alcohol.
Its some wild shit...
Yeah, it's just bizarre how we consciously and freely take something that poisons and destroys our body, in order to have a moment of fun. Weirdly enough, it's been going on for ages and it's still an okay thing. Not like medical marijuana which is illegal in many countries.
I smoke
Depends. At the moment I'll do breathing exercises as I work through it, if its afterwards I'll talk to a really lovely girl I'm thankful to call mine, she helps me through it all a lot, but breathing still helps even if it's afterwards, more so since the factor of whatever it is, isn't there at the moment.
The way I deal with things is remind myself that life is short. At anytime I can be murdered, can get into a car accident, have a brain aneurysm, ect... why worry about small things in life that don't matter? Why kill yourself? Shrug it off and keep going, simple.
I don't. I just let them bother me because most the time I can't do anything to change it. So I just deal with it until it stops bothering me.
I'm sorry to hear about the emotional pain you've experienced. I think we all have experienced pain at one point or another. But you cannot drink your problems away. You're just submitting to the pain and making things worse for yourself. What you can do is learn from your experiences. Why did they happen and what could've been done to make it better? Once you figure out the answers, your pain will cease and you will become a wiser and stronger person. And always remember, the present is what really matters most and not the past.