Spoiler Alert - The person you wind up with in life is probably not going to be someone you met as a teenager.
You're just trying things… more out now. So is everyone else in your age group. Don't stress too hard, and you'll find what you really like.
Why are you talking about open relationships? It has nothing to do with bisexuality. Did I miss something here? Cause that wasn't what I was talking about.. But yeah I agree with you, I couldn't be in an open relationship either. I didn't say you should have asked about her sex life lol, I think you're purposefully misunderstanding me here. From your story it sounded like you didn't even know what being a bisexual means, since you froze and thought it was awkward. I don't understand one-night-stands personally so I have no opinion on those, but great things worked out fine in the end for you.
I am not prejudiced against open relationships and bisexuality. I just decided for myself that I couldn't be in a open relationship without … morebeing jealous. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, allowed or not, and I do expect that she wouldn't cheat on me. Thats a pretty basic part of, well, love.
How should I have asked questions? We were dating, you don't really talk about lesbian sex while sharing a drink and ordering fries. And besides, I already was 'open-minded', having a lesbian sister and two, well three now, non-hetero friends. I know enough about bisexuality to have a basic judgement about it. Now I talk to her about her other dates, if she wants to, and those conversations are pretty good.
Of course she dodged a bullet. But not because I am some sort of conservative 'old-fashioned' asshole who accepts homosexuality only for the lesbian porn, but simply because a relationship was a terrible idea, and a One-Night-Stand after a huge crush and months of friendship would instead be the most awkward thing in my life.
Well my english is limited to 'oh-so-fluent-english-spoken-by-germans' (se parking lott iss full), so I get misunderstood a lot of time.
The point is, I knew her for years. I knew her 7th and 8th grade boyfriends and her dance partner at the prom and I also know her political views, which were conservative to say the least and now are pretty left-wing. It simply wasn't what I was expecting from her and so I was surprised (what an understatement). It was awkward because it was one hell of a change and I reacted stupid. Also, she made very clear that her bisexuality and an open relationship were linked in her view.
I never said I would have a problem with a bisexual relationship. My problem here is that I can't stand my girlfriend cheating on me, with kinda kills the bisexual part of a bisexual relationship, doesn't it? I mean, we now talk about girls a lot (which must be so crazy for people listening to us), but that doesn't define bisexuality.
Can we please stop that now? I dont want to write my mind down in an internet forum.
Why are you talking about open relationships? It has nothing to do with bisexuality. Did I miss something here? Cause that wasn't what I was… more talking about.. But yeah I agree with you, I couldn't be in an open relationship either. I didn't say you should have asked about her sex life lol, I think you're purposefully misunderstanding me here. From your story it sounded like you didn't even know what being a bisexual means, since you froze and thought it was awkward. I don't understand one-night-stands personally so I have no opinion on those, but great things worked out fine in the end for you.
I'm sorry, I didn't even think about the language barrier. And english isn't my first language either. I really didn't mean you have to tell any more about this, I was just confused about the terms you were using. I have a problem with discrimination I've seen here on the forums.. but just to clear things up, as a monogamous bisexual let me tell you and anybody reading this that there isn't such thing as a bisexual relationship! There are only bisexuals in relationships, just for example I've been with the same straight man for years, I've chosen him so I'm not going after girls behind his back. Spreading this kind of false information about bisexuals need to stop. This wasn't exactly aimed at you but to anyone who's still confused about this.. yeah we can be done with this.
Well my english is limited to 'oh-so-fluent-english-spoken-by-germans' (se parking lott iss full), so I get misunderstood a lot of time.
Th… moree point is, I knew her for years. I knew her 7th and 8th grade boyfriends and her dance partner at the prom and I also know her political views, which were conservative to say the least and now are pretty left-wing. It simply wasn't what I was expecting from her and so I was surprised (what an understatement). It was awkward because it was one hell of a change and I reacted stupid. Also, she made very clear that her bisexuality and an open relationship were linked in her view.
I never said I would have a problem with a bisexual relationship. My problem here is that I can't stand my girlfriend cheating on me, with kinda kills the bisexual part of a bisexual relationship, doesn't it? I mean, we now talk about girls a lot (which must be so crazy for people listening to us), but that doesn't define bisexuali… [view original content]
Last summer I went to Ireland to study in a language school there and practice my English. I stayed in a host family for a couple of weeks. Since I always came home pretty late, they would just leave the dinner for me at the table. One day it was pizza. I saw a fork and a knife lying next to it. Even though I eat pizza with my hands, I genuinely though that it's not how they do it here and used the utensils to cut the pizza into slices. My hostess came into the kitchen, looked at me bluntly and asked: "you eat a pizza with a knife?" I was so confused I just pulled and awkward smile and pretended that it's true. Needless to say, she looked at me as if I was a really weird person and slowly left the kitchen.
I just have one question - why the fuck she put the utensils there in the first place?!
I haven't had many except for one. Years ago, I was at a family gathering and I met some relatives I had never met before. There was this moment where we were all in circle talking and everyone got silent. My grandma suddenly introduced me to one of my cousins and all eyes were on me. And I looked and said, "Hi....", in a high pitched, slow manner. My cousin just waved without saying a word. Everyone eventually started talking again. No one probably cared, but I felt embarrassed afterwards. I still don't know why I spoke the way I did.
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I know, I know, I just want to have fun.
Why are you talking about open relationships? It has nothing to do with bisexuality. Did I miss something here? Cause that wasn't what I was talking about.. But yeah I agree with you, I couldn't be in an open relationship either. I didn't say you should have asked about her sex life lol, I think you're purposefully misunderstanding me here. From your story it sounded like you didn't even know what being a bisexual means, since you froze and thought it was awkward. I don't understand one-night-stands personally so I have no opinion on those, but great things worked out fine in the end for you.
Trying to make a joke in front of the whole class when I was 12, and then having nobody laugh
Well my english is limited to 'oh-so-fluent-english-spoken-by-germans' (se parking lott iss full), so I get misunderstood a lot of time.
The point is, I knew her for years. I knew her 7th and 8th grade boyfriends and her dance partner at the prom and I also know her political views, which were conservative to say the least and now are pretty left-wing. It simply wasn't what I was expecting from her and so I was surprised (what an understatement). It was awkward because it was one hell of a change and I reacted stupid. Also, she made very clear that her bisexuality and an open relationship were linked in her view.
I never said I would have a problem with a bisexual relationship. My problem here is that I can't stand my girlfriend cheating on me, with kinda kills the bisexual part of a bisexual relationship, doesn't it? I mean, we now talk about girls a lot (which must be so crazy for people listening to us), but that doesn't define bisexuality.
Can we please stop that now? I dont want to write my mind down in an internet forum.
pretty much everything in my life from age 9 to 15 is something awkward and embarassing that i'll never stop being ashamed of.
Any time I take more than 2 shots...
I'm sorry, I didn't even think about the language barrier. And english isn't my first language either. I really didn't mean you have to tell any more about this, I was just confused about the terms you were using. I have a problem with discrimination I've seen here on the forums.. but just to clear things up, as a monogamous bisexual let me tell you and anybody reading this that there isn't such thing as a bisexual relationship! There are only bisexuals in relationships, just for example I've been with the same straight man for years, I've chosen him so I'm not going after girls behind his back. Spreading this kind of false information about bisexuals need to stop. This wasn't exactly aimed at you but to anyone who's still confused about this.. yeah we can be done with this.
Last summer I went to Ireland to study in a language school there and practice my English. I stayed in a host family for a couple of weeks. Since I always came home pretty late, they would just leave the dinner for me at the table. One day it was pizza. I saw a fork and a knife lying next to it. Even though I eat pizza with my hands, I genuinely though that it's not how they do it here and used the utensils to cut the pizza into slices. My hostess came into the kitchen, looked at me bluntly and asked: "you eat a pizza with a knife?" I was so confused I just pulled and awkward smile and pretended that it's true. Needless to say, she looked at me as if I was a really weird person and slowly left the kitchen.
I just have one question - why the fuck she put the utensils there in the first place?!
I haven't had many except for one. Years ago, I was at a family gathering and I met some relatives I had never met before. There was this moment where we were all in circle talking and everyone got silent. My grandma suddenly introduced me to one of my cousins and all eyes were on me. And I looked and said, "Hi....", in a high pitched, slow manner. My cousin just waved without saying a word. Everyone eventually started talking again. No one probably cared, but I felt embarrassed afterwards. I still don't know why I spoke the way I did.