Do girls tend to love their Fathers more than their mothers and boys love their mother more?

MadManLee

And of course , vice versa . And so Fathers love their daughters more and mother love their sons more . Or if not love , feel more attached/closer too Do women ,love their fathers more during when their teenagers at least?

This is of course , assuming both parents are good parents and people .

AWESOMEO

I feel closer to my mother than my father, but that's probably because my father is a really strict person and really stressed out so he's no fun :P

RammsteinFürImmer

That tends to be a pattern with most mammals. You see, as a general rule, mammalian offspring develop a subconcious bond with their mothers (Usually, bonding with the father never happens since they are not there to care for the offspring in but a few species) This general rule includes all primates. I could go into detail, but we would be here all day. For further reference if you should wish to learn more and understand this better, look up the inhumane yet fascinating experiments on monkeys in relation to maternal separation and dependancy needs by Dr. Harry Harlow.

My point is that you are meant to develop a bond with your mother that is greater than that of you father as general rule amongst us and many other primates and the mammalian family beyond, regardless of gender. Developing a stronger bond with your father is not meant to happen, but it can and neither is it necessarily a bad thing should it happen.

G-Panda

(I'm female) and I'm closer to my mother. My brother is, too. Our father is very conservative and we just don't have that much in common. Of course I like my parents equally, but I feel closer to my mother.

Megami_Kizukanai

It depends on who you spent most of your time with since birth.

RammsteinFürImmer

And as a general thing, this is usually the mother.

Markd4547

I feel close to both my parents my dads a badass war veteran and my Mam's a former Nurse a really caring person I respect and admire them both I'm very lucky I have an incredible family with many gifted people including my brothers and sisters

SoMuchSass

I'm female and I'm closer to my mother, I've always been... My father's almost like a stranger to me even though we live in the same household.

FauDeef

Have you ever heard of the Oedipus complex?

MadManLee

No ,not at all. What is it?

Lingvort

An unnatural (read: sexual and/or obsessive) attraction of a child (usually son) to their mother, at times coupled with an irrational hatred towards their father.

FauDeef

@Lingvort said it quite well.

It's the unconscious attraction of a child towards the parent of the opposite sex and hatred towards the same sex parent. The attraction is a sexual desire.

JamesDalton1995

Well I have always been closer to my mother than my dad mostly because I have more in common with my mom, while I have very little in common with my dad. I love them both obviously

ScoobyDoobyDoo

I don't know, this all sounds a bit Freudian to me. And when things get Freudian, they get weird real fast. What's disturbing is I actually think Freud's Oepdipus and Electra complex sounds (although admittedly messed up) like it makes a lot of sense. I don't want to believe it but I do, so I guess yes...?

Sarangholic

It's Freud's major theory. Basically, I want to cut my father's penis off and use it to please my mother, but I can't handle having those urges so I project them onto my father, believing that he wants to castrate me. This leads to castration anxiety and a competition between my father and myself for the affection of my mother. It also leads to a subconscious fear of the vagina because I subconsciously believe it to be a castrated penis. It's also why women experience penis envy, seeing themselves as castrated males and subsequently lesser than males (less powerful).

Otherwise known as bullshit.

Jennifer

Yeah, most of Freud's theories have been disproven by modern psychiatry, which some times happens when science moves past previously held beliefs (but, they're still important stepping stones, as, for instance, we wouldn't be anywhere near where we are in chemistry if it wasn't for the work of the medieval alchemists).

Firewallcano

It's Freud's major theory. Basically, I want to cut my father's penis off and use it to please my mother, but I can't handle having those urges so I project them onto my father, believing that he wants to castrate me. This leads to castration anxiety and a competition between my father and myself for the affection of my mother. It also leads to a subconscious fear of the vagina because I subconsciously believe it to be a castrated penis. It's also why women experience penis envy, seeing themselves as castrated males and subsequently lesser than males (less powerful).It's Freud's major theory. Basically, I want to cut my father's penis off and use it to please my mother, but I can't handle having those urges so I project them onto my father, believing that he wants to castrate me. This leads to castration anxiety and a competition between my father and myself for the affection of my mother. It also leads to a subconscious fear of the vagina because I subconsciously believe it to be a castrated penis. It's also why women experience penis envy, seeing themselves as castrated males and subsequently lesser than males (less powerful).

Close but not quite

The boy grows overly attached to the mother and then subconciously thinks the father is going to castrate or remove him due to him vying for the mothers attention, but the kid in most cases cant hate his father so he projects the hate/fear onto something or someone else developing a phobia for little or no reason. Also I've never seen him bring women up ever except in the alternative for girls (the electra complex) where the girl feels the same thing for the father and fear of the mother (which they project onto something else)

The penis stuff is just that the kid (either gender) just becomes interested in why they have/dont have one and why certain adults have/dont have one. And "penis envy" is only ever purely to do with the childs same sex fear of the same parent. They see them as competition for their mothers/fathers affection.

That does mean its an odd theory that has plenty of holes and was generally gathered through case studies, interpretation and leading questions to name a few. Plus there is not doubt freud lead a lot of people into the theory. Freud is considered an oddball but most research starts to be come outdated within a few years or disproved

AWESOMEO

Read Oedipus the King