Do you trust others?
In today's world, dishonesty and betrayal are the order of the day.
How do you keep yourself from being taken advantage of?
My motto is: "Never trust a stranger, and don't even fully trust people who claim to be your friends."
"Never assume people are going to have your back, and always question what others tell you, dont take anything at face-value."
"When in a conversation, take note of what the other person's main topic of conversation is, as it will tell you what is most important to them, and it let's you get an idea of what they truly are as a person.
For example, if someone mainly talk about themself; that tells you that they are predominately selfish, and that you are better off not to trust them.
The key to being able to do this, is learning to be a good listener, which is a skill in itself, and is essential to master."
Before agreeing to help someone, ask yourself: 'What is it going to cost me?', as everything cost something.
That's not to say you should never help someone, but the point is to learn about what you may be potentially getting into.
In other words: "Don't dive in, until you know how deep it is."
Before asking someone for their help, take into account what you know about them, and how well you know them.
Because many will help others, only in expectation of receiving a favor in return, and the cost of returning that favor could be very hefty.
And if you don't know a person real well, it may be better not to ask them for help, especially if what you need help with is of a personal nature.
In short, I try to always be cautious, when dealing with others.
Don't get me wrong, I enjoy helping people, but you still have to use your head.
What cautionary guidelines to you employ?
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Simple: Don't trust anyone farther than you can throw them.
In a way, it isn't really 'trusting' anyone; it's relying on the potential reprecussions of betrayal as a deterent.
I don't think I trust anyone, I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt but I'm always very cautious about what they say because I know a lot of terrible people, that being said I hate how people are selfish and never help anyone so I try to help everyone in whatever form I can no matter what it costs me, I've given every single cent I had at the time multile times and have had to starve because of it because I knew of people that needed it more (Neighbours with kids), but I hate taking credit for my actions for example when I give money to someone I leave it on their mailbox or slip it under their door so they don't feel lke they owe me, it's not like I get nothing out of it because doing stuff like this makes me feel better about myself but I don't really need other people to think I'm awesome, as long as I think I'm awesome it doesn't matter what everyone else thinks.
Anyway I guess my point is that not trusting people doesn't stop me from trying to help them, hell I've gone into a car that was on fire to stop the fire so the owner wouldn't lose all her stuff and I walked away without even acknowledging the woman's existence right after that, it's just my way I guess, since I think no one is trustworthy I must demostrate that such a world view is wrong by being the best person I can be, because by doing what I do I automatically prove that such a thing is wrong because well there's me and if I do that there must be other people capable of that kind of stuff, even I never meet them just knowing that they exist makes me feel better, and with that said all that bullshit people say about losing faith in humanity never happens to me, because I'm human and I'm amazing and I have faith in me so I can't lose faith in humanity as that would be admitting I'm worthless like most other people and that just simply isn't going to happen because my ego is bigger than the Sun.
I don't trust anyone, not even myself
I agree with Sarangholic, and also I just trust my instincts.
Trust But Verify.
Basically, you can usually trust other people to do what they say they'll do, but be prepared in case they don't.
That's what I say.... I can't trust myself after Larry....
Ah, Ronald Reagan, One of his best quotes
Be honest, be polite, and always have a plan to kill everyone in the room.
But seriously, I don't have trust problems, I probably have anti-trust problems. I trust people way to easily, but I'm never afraid to untrust them. And for whatever reason, it doesn't affect me when someone betrays me...
I don't. Since "Lost".
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I don't trust anyone but I put on a smile for everyone...Everyone has their own goals and they all want to reach them...Might as well be safe than sorry.
I'm kinda on the same boat as mr.quality; I find my problem being that I put too much trust into others. I'm not entirely sure why I'm like that, especially whenever someone does betray my trust. I think I'm too forgiving for my own good.
No. I don't even trust myself.
Yes and no,
I'll help someone if they're stranded trying to fix a tire. I've done that just a few weeks ago.
You can't really trust anyone these days. Fake is becoming the new trend.
A little something I found on the internet.
I probably trust people way too much.
Yeah...I do...I think that people who are kind or nice to me and I know them long enough can be trustable. I only got betrayed by a friend once but it still didn't stop me from trusting people.
So... You trust babies a lot?
I will say that helping others is a wonderful thing.
However, I would disagree with helping others to the point of going broke.
When a person goes broke to help others; especially on a regular basis, when they themselves are in need and they ask others for help, they can end up becoming a burden on other people, which after a while can cause others to resent them.
I've seen it happen.
That's why I said in my post, it's great helping others, but you also have to use common-sense.
I do believe in helping other people, but not to the point of going broke, as that doesn't make sense.
I NEVER ask anyone for help, I order some people to help me if I need help helping someone else or with work but when it comes to me, I can handle that, I've always been on my own so I can take care of myself even if I have nothing, it doesn't really matter what happens to me since I've probably had worse already and therefore I can handle it, probably, most people are weak and pathetic so someone has to be strong for them or they lose hope and that's something I can do, so I may as well since I don't really care.
I'm sorry If I offended you, that was not my intent.
I hope you realize that.
Eh, I wouldn't worry about it, I just wanted to clarify that the only person that pays for my actions is myself, at least that I'm aware of anyway.
I trust most people, actually.
I don't even trust myself, let alone people.
Got to love friend betrayals. I had a friend sleep with a girl i was dating.
Everytime I go outside I end up shooting some Mothafucka in the back.
Really though, I understand people and that makes me less afraid. If that makes any sense I like to read about Psychology so really I can bring myself to not trust someone.
I can't trust anyone but I sometimes need others because I can't do everything myself. As long as I don't ask for something very important and a necessity, I could live with putting trust into someone who may or may not come through.
Online yes. In real life no. Weird huh? XD
Well... babies can't exactly stab you in the back unless they're devil babies.
I can't really ever find a reason to truly trust people, considering you don't know who they truly are and even the closest of friend can be untrustworthy and strangest of strangers can be completely trustworthy to a person they barely know. I'm EXTREMELY cautious <.<
No. I don't even trust myself have the time and for good reason.
Ouch!
That sucks man!
I have trouble trusting people, including myself. Kids at my school tend to be dicks and a few of them try to force their way into my personal business and thought rather than letting me tell them already. I can't even tell my Dad that I want to be a Youtuber, because he hates gamiñ already and wouldn't be thrilled at the idea of making money from it.
It's not as bad as it used to be though. Only two years ago I never told people what was going through my head. I still usually don't, because I'm constantly getting shit for stupid things such as my fucking FACEBOOK picture.
I feel more safe around here because people on here don't tend to be dickheads.
I didn't care, she looked like a horse.
Barely saw this. That sucks...but if she look like a horse then I don't think you miss out on too much.
Never trust a hug, it's just a way to hide your face.
haha, i getting him back now, i'm trying to date his sister, and he doesn't think i'm good enough.
Guilty until proven innocent.
Not really, I always suspect if they're gonna for example reveal my secret or something else. So the wanswer is nah.
I trust some people, mainly people I've known my entire life.
I only trust people i've known for a long time or friends of friends of which I trust or internet peeps as long as they aren't too weird.