*Forever Alone*
Given recent threads I'm noticing some people were having issues with the opposite sex, so I figured I'd start a thread for everyone to commiserate about how nobody wants to oooh, touch their tralalala (why do I feel there are only about three people on this forum old enough to know that reference...)
Now whenever it's late and I turn on a youtube video, the same ad keeps coming on and it makes me depressed. Also, I'm surprised they're not being sued for license violation... I wish I had a girlfriend we could drag each other to stupid shit neither of us wants to but nonetheless feels obligated to do as a couple. WHY! WHY don't I have anybody in my life to make me utterly miserable...!
In other news, for some reason the woman disturbingly reminds me of Tim Curry as Dr. Frank-n-Furter... Probably the lipstick. (Yay, an even older reference...)
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I don't know what my issue is but I am single and things aren't looking too good for a good while.
Am I the only one who doesn't want a relationship yet? At least not until after I finish school. Although that might be due to the fact that I move every 3 years.
I'm single because girls have cooties.
Boys are icky.
I'm fine, I kinda enjoy being single actually. And people are complicated.
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Why must you sulk about your lives? There's been a lot of self pity lately. Look forward! Don't sit around and complain.
but if we look up to things it always results in disappointment, better to stay negative for most things than to go positive and get shot down even further
If you sit around sulking you're not going to achieve anything in life.
Does that make me old? >:/
There's nothing wrong with being single. I don't exactly know your case, but there are a lot more important things to attend to rather than relationships. Hell I'm single and I don't give a fuck. You don't need to obsess and worry over it too much.
My English Professor quoted Forrest Gump but played around with it
"Love is like a box of chocolates because you never know what you're gonna get. Or because your teeth rot and you die." - Eng. Prof.
Probably not helpful, but I thought it was a funny quote hehe.
That's straight up pessimism right there man.
Agreed. I would go as far as saying that it is important to learn to be single. Learn to be happy by yourself, with yourself; become someone that makes you happy before trying to be happy with someone else.
Also, do not sit around waiting for someone that fits your dream, like some sort of fairy tale. Everybody has a shit-ton of flaws, including yourself. Accept people's flaws, go to places, meet new people and eventually you will find someone that accepts or even likes your flaws too. Then you can work your relationship up from there.
Exactly. I find it kinda dumb that others rely on another person to stay happy. But hey who am I to judge.
I had a lot of issues coping with the fact that I'll be forever alone. Luckily I have school, art, and writing to keep me busy for the rest of my life, or until I can finally find someone whom is willing to settle for me. ;A;
Meh, coming to terms with the fact that you'll be forever alone is rough. I spent a lot of nights crying myself to sleep, crushes happen fewer and far between and generally end in some pretty bad heartbreak. But now that my life is at a point where I don't even have time for someone like a boyfriend to be in my life, I'm happy enough.
Though I despise the fact that I'm a 23 year old virgin who's never kissed anyone and has never had a boyfriend or gone out on a date. How can people say, "there's nothing wrong with you" when those facts listed above are 100% true? I even had a 'friend' say once, "I've seen girls uglier than you gets boyfriends and kiss people."
Can someone at least tell me why so many others are lucky enough to get boyfriends and girlfriends? I'll be happy if I ever get someone I like to like me back.
Alas, life is cruel, and unfair. Nothing should be expected. That way everything comes as a surprise. :P
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Also, just to clarify, I am happy alone. I can make my own plans, live my life more freely. I realized that relationships if for the wrong reasons and not between two mature people are the worst things to happen in life. I just am more upset knowing that I'm so ugly or that there's something so wrong with me no one will ever want me in their life as a girlfriend or wife. It knocks you down a few pegs of your whole identity when you realize no one will ever desire you for those very things.
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Seriously though, when you'd have enough let downs in life you learn to expect nothing but the worst. That way whenever anything happens, it's usually good or not as bad as you were expecting.
Life sucks and isn't fair. That's just realism IMO.
Well its real easy to confuse pessimism for realism.
I completely understand that when life delivers too many blows to you, you start slowing down and eventually give up. However, that small segment of your life is just a segment. It's up to YOU, to get back up on your feet and keep moving. Or you could just stay there and suffer. Remember, pain is guaranteed, but suffering is optional. Don't rely on what the others think, because that's just gonna make things worse. That means you can't think for YOURSELF.
And since this thread is about relationships, do not worry about not finding THE ONE just yet. You are still a young individual. At least I think a whole lot of us are. If you worry you're not gonna find that special someone by the time you're 30, open your eyes because that's when a lot of people start getting into relationships and falling in love. I would know because lots of family members who worry they ain't gonna find someone eventually do, and they're pretty old. Those people you see at college's, high school's, etc. chances are those relationships are going to end real fucking soon.
If you want to find that special someone, all I can say is: Apply yourself. Be interactive instead of just sulking there.
That isn't true, I've been let down plenty of times in my life believe me and I have no doubt there will be more but I get back up and move on every time. There are plenty bad things in life but there's plenty of good things to. You're not going to enjoy life if you sit around in self pity and sulk or as you like to call it 'realism'.
I'm of the opinion that if some people get everything they want, other people must get nothing they want.
I'd rather be a pessimist or a realist than a blind optimist.
You think I don't know about getting up, moving forward and not sulking? Feeling sorry for myself? Dude. I haven't had the chance for the past two years. I'm dealing with school, work, starting a business, keeping my family afloat, mentally. Helping deal with two family members who have clinical depression and a mother whom is usually convinced that every day might be the last of her marriage. I don't, I repeat, don't have time to sulk like you seem to be insinuating. If I did, I'd be a puddle of worthlessness.
Everyone's situation is different, it's easy to say one thing and try and 'inspire', but you make a lot of assumptions about me sulking in pity.
And apply myself? I don't anymore, y'know why? Because I am not someone people want. I'm not pretty, I'm not someone people want in their lives as a girlfriend or wife. How do I change that society values looks above all else? How does someone whom is ugly, proactively change their appearance? Makeup and weight loss don't do the trick. My only other option left is to realize that ugly people like me DON'T have a chance.
But I'm not gonna let that stop me from starting and art business, from writing books, and from taking care of my family and my education.
Why is everyone assuming I'm sitting around pitying myself? I did enough of that years ago. I wasted my time thinking that maybe if I sulk things will get better. But they never did. Can you explain that? Explain that some of us don't get that sort of lot in life? I was in a major fucking depression a year ago that nearly crippled me, and I got up and started working towards a better tomorrow.
I don't think unless you've been through what I've been through, and live in the environment that I live in, can understand the sort of mentality I have to use to make it by every day.
I am going to continue to expect the worst and be surprised by whatever comes. I've have plenty of great outcomes that way.
I wasn't specifically targeting you. I was trying to be more broad in that comment, but it was a reply and I emphasized a lot on the YOU part so I see why you'd think that. I'm sorry if you thought that I was targeting or picking on you because that wasn't my intention at all.
It's true everyone's situation is different, and others aren't as lucky. But the thing is they have to stay strong. And from what you're telling me, you did that.
Like I've said in another comment, there are more important matters to attend to rather than just relationships, and I'm real sorry to hear about your other troubles.
But I am happy for your ambitions.
Eh, yeah. I've had people say that to me too. Also not a very reassuring feeling when your 13 year old cousin has kissed more boys than you have.
I meant people on the forums in general, a lot of people have been making discussions similar to this one lately, I never claimed to understand your situation. It makes me sad how a lot of people on the forums think about themselves and when I say "there are good things in life, look forward bla bla bla" they always reply with 'realism'. I'm sorry if I've offended it wasn't my intention. You seem convinced you'll be 'forever alone' because of the way you look and that's unlikely to change with that sort of attitude, and I honestly believe their are people out there who look for more of a person than just their looks, I just wanted to ask you not to give up. I'm sorry to hear about your situation, I just wish more people would have some hope.
I get the reference...anyone remember this?
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I'm single and totally fine with that.
Romance isn't actually something I think much about these days, I might've when I was younger, but not anymore. I would consider it as a bonus part in my life if I end up in a romantic relationship. People can freak out that I never had a girlfriend, or I never kissed one on the lips, but it's really no big deal for me. It's just something that happens on its own, you can't force it to happen, otherwise say when you're in marriage you'd be arguing a lot with your significant other. I think that's where many marriages don't work out, because they force themselves into it. I believe true love happens on its own when both ends of the relationship shares the same emotions towards another and no one's trying to force their advances on the other. May have gotten a little off topic, but yeah.
Personally I'm so busy right now with college, sport and exams and loving life the girl would have to be my true love for me to ever consider changing my lifestyle to accommodate her
Woman are beautiful and the awesome but the wrong one can ruin your life
Last year I went after a crush she turned out to be a she-devil the minute I said I like you she saw a full moon and turned into a wolf XD
It's very important if you risk your heart to make sure it's love not a day dream crush you don't really know.
I've already seen my older brother have an unhappy marriage and is trapped in a job he hates all day everyday to pay child support they left all their dreams and ambitions behind in pursuit of love if you chose wrong your life can be over
I'm very happy with my life perusing my dreams and goals right now I don't want baggage or to be trapped in a relationship I like my freedom to do what I want when I want but if it was my true love I would you never know
Most of those threads for self pity was made by the same guy.
I wish I could dispense boyfriends and girlfriends to all who want them on here. Alas, I am not the boyfriend/girlfriend fairy.
All I can say is, if you go out and have fun, smile at people, and project a generally positive attitude, your time will come. Eventually.
So many virgins, well, what kind of answer was i expecting from people in a gaming forum lol.
I do not recommend this line of thinking. The older you get, the harder it is to get into a relationship for the first time. Plus, relationships are supposed to be fun. If it doesn't last, so what?
Time to feel, yo.
girls dont go out with me because of my interests i like gaming tech and anime and like hatsune miku music i did have a girlfriend not too long ago but she left me by text for no reason
I haven't had sex in three months, shit is killing me.
I'm going back to college this winter though, so hallelujah for that!
says the one with cooties
I'll use the allegory of, I'd rather have a clean tooth brush than one what's been in 18 whores or pigs.
Besides, games are a lot more fun to deal with than sex. With sex you risk stupid relationships and the worst of all... Babies... shivers
I agree with this statement. Getting yourself out there helps. Sadly when you're ugly enough, no matter how much you smile and act positive, people want nothing to do with you.
I am no sir, sir.