Are there really any genuine people out there anymore?
Cause I haven't found any. People are mainly only interested in being buddies with you, if there is something in it for them.
This is how I would interpret someone who is genuine. They really care for you. If they do something for you, they don't expect anything in return, even going so far as to bend over backwards to help you.
I have yet to find anyone like that.
Because people I have associated with, the next time I saw them, I got a kinda cold vibe from them. Kinds like - "Oh its this guy."
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Why should someone "bend over backwards" for you to prove that they're genuine? Thats a bit of a ask isnt it, I wouldn't even expect my own family to go out of they're way for me and then to put the cherry on top and to expect to do nothing in return is just plain rude.
I think so. I mean, I haven't met any personally - but then again, I never go outside.
You're the only genuine person I've ever met, well pretty much the only person period.
Ohh stahp it, you little sweetheart you
Why should anyone do anything for you without expecting something in return? I buy you dinner that means you're buying next time, I drive you to the other side of town for free then you owe me a favor.
Nothing comes for free, equivalent exchange. Unless it's your birthday or something you don't deserve special treatment from anyone.
I don't expect people to do things for me for no reason, that seems a bit entitled to me. To me, people are genuine if they talk to you every once in a while and seem moderately encouraged to hang out with you.
Your standards seem to be too high when it comes to friends. Why would I do something that helps you and not expect something in return? The average person wouldn't do what you're saying because they have no reason to. They have no reason to help you with no reward. It's not them not being genuine, it's just them looking out for themselves. They have problems too.
your threads are strange
There's 'something for others' in any relationships, even when the person just wants to be buddies with you - having you as a friend is something they get in return for their actions.
I'm not sure there's such thing as an 'absolutely selfless act' at all, even good deeds make someone who performs them feel good about it, feel like they repaid a debt to society or whatever, so they get something in return anyway. But that just might be on the border of nit-picking, since usually by talking about selfish/unselfish acts we mean whether or not the person is expecting to get physical goods, help and etc in the future.
If you haven't happen to meet anyone who would do something without expecting you to repay, it doesn't mean there're no genuine people at all. Being genuine is something more in the field of feeling emotions towards someone and expressing them in their full potential, at least in my opinion. Frankly we can't expect people to feel the way we want them about us, how others treat you depends on many factors including their background, your own actions, thoughts, purposes in life and how they correspond to purposes of others. Guess what I'm trying to say here is that people can be genuine towards some people and act differently towards others, it's all relative.
You are so depressing.
"Hey! Help me redo my Roof please, shingles need replaced." (me)
"Sure, but you will have to help me remodel my kitchen after." (Roger)
That being said relationships are not free. Never have been, never will be. Want your friends to come over help with home repairs? Better offer them a bucket or two of cold beer and Pizza Hut at the very least. =D
Who's Roger?
Of course there are. And it also has to do with your definition of genuine. Let people be themselves, and you be yourself whether you are alone, with 1 person or with 1459 people around you. If they have cold vibe or whatsoever -- it's their vibe, not yours, just don't put everyone you meet in boxes.
The internet is generally a poor way to judge how the society is outside of it. Just saying.
There are genuinely good people who form friendships based on the good intentions etc.
I don't see why expecting something in return between friends should be demonized as long it's not abusive (like threatening your friend if they don't give you something.)
Life is strange.
You make me sad.
Who isn't Roger?
Now that's what I call sharp.
...but true.
No. I'm just an empty shell controlled by darkness, using people like puppets for the most diabolical purposes. Now I am become Death, the destroyer of worlds.
There are still genuine people in the world. They maybe hard to spot out, but they're there.
Perhaps you're right. I just know that my kindness has been abused over the years, and it hurts.
I HATE people who do that. I have zero tolerance for people who just simply use others for what they can get.
Oh it's this guy.
Jk. In all seriousness, I believe that there are actual genuine people and just because they sometimes expect something in return it doesn't mean they aren't good people. Judging by many of your past threads, it just seems like you're just a little too cynical and take things too seriously.
I just know that whenever I have tried to make friends, that I have been outcasted.
And one of my best qualities, is helping other people. In fact I get a lot of enjoyment out of doing that. Unfortunate part is is that often times I get taken advantage of.
Because when I call in a favor and return, they never come through, even though they said they would.
Can you name any examples?
Then it may just be the people you end up meeting
He's clearly the sexy plumber.
Don't ever stop being helpful. It's a good and more or less a rare thing, trait. Helpfulness isn't weakness but a courage. Most of people will think that you help others because you think they are good, amazing, friends, people. But no one knows your true motivations but your own self. It's tough but that's life. We can only see your actions, not your thoughts.
It's a shame so many people you've met are that unfriendly. I guess they see you as a "fool who helps everyone". It feels like they don't take you for granted, doesn't it? As if they hold no respect for you.
Bad shit is just more up you're face.
One time me and my friends were at the ice cream palor and I didn't have money. So one of my friends paid for my ice cream and told her I would pay her back tomorrow. She told me to not worry about it. And when one of us is sad, we try yo help and see if they are okay and try to help. They are there, trust me. You just have to find them.
There's many Stranger Things.
FTFY
There's this South Park episode that made a good point even though the character who made it, tried to fool a kid into the van.
A lot of good things happen everyday, but those hardly get news attention due reporting the negative news is how the news agencies etc roll.
Good deeds and more go under the radar in the global scale even if the entire village is aware of them.
I get where you're coming from, but expecting people to bend over backwards for you and giving you special treatment without anything in return seems a bit self entitled.
I know so, I'm surrounded by genuine people even though I never really noticed before, it's an odd feeling when someone unexpectedly stands up for you when someone is annoying you or offers to help you out when you secretly want it but don't seek it. I personally strive to be genuine, I don't really want anything out of helping others, I just want to help people, make a difference even in small ways but I guess in a way I do it because it fulfills a sense of purpose and makes me feel happier and prouder of myself.
Even if someone doesn't seem genuine, I'm fairly sure they have their genuine moments. Sometimes people don't do/say things genuinely because of the possibly negative effect it could have and in terms of helping people without expecting something in return - I personally like to give them my sincerest thanks for helping me and if someone helps me significantly, I'm going to try and do something just as significant for them. I think genuine acts of kindness are a two-way streak, you do something genuinely nice for someone else and they might just do the same for you when you need it most
Why are your posts ALWAYS overly depressing?