Just got dymoed!
Okay, so I just got dumped call my girlfriend. After calling around them flirting with some guy, she called me up today and she told me that she couldn't be with someone who did not trust her.
This was the first time that I ever called her out on flirting with some other guy. And she used to say about me that I was just too cute. But then some time later the kid of her ex-boyfriend, was 15 years old, she said about him that he was just too cute.
So that makes me think that she possibly viewed me as she knew that kid, but the only exception was that she could get sex from me.
And then, I told her that I wanted to take you up to Mount Charleston sometime, which is located in Nevada, she told me that she could probably get up there on her own.
Now that's what I miss my guess, and I try not to read too much into things, but what that tells me is that she was politely saying: "I want to go and see those things, but not with you."
Also, she mention that she wanted to go see the entire west coast of California. And I mentioned that I might like to take her on a tour of that, and she said that while she would like to but she had her daughter and her daughter's friends and all that they might be coming with her.
She didn't however mention that she might like to go away for the weekend with me, but unfortunately due to my schedule and what not, but never happened.
We talk tonight, and she said that even though she could never be with someone did not trust her, she said that she was not going to leave my life. That she would look after me as a friend, and that she wanted me to succeed in life.
Shortly before we broke up, she frankly told me that I annoyed the shit out of her. That she felt like she was adult the adult in your relationship, and that every time she did some for me, she felt that she had to drag it out of me so that I would do something for her.
Was she simply using me for sex? Did she ever really truly care about me? What would you say?
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No one here can know whether she has cared about you or not. Unless you write us every single thing that had happened in your relationship, which I personally do not suggest.
You've written quite some posts about your girlfriend (I still believe you shouldn't have shared that much of information online, especially here) and I think she doesn't, obviously, trust you and it seems like she got tired/bored of you. Maybe you complained too much, or were too self conscious (that can be tiring).
After all your posts about the situation I completely understand her decision. You have clinical paranoia dude, you overanalyze every little thing she ever says. She probably got tired of it, I would have.
And what constitutes as flirting with some guy? I couldn't do it either its not fair making accusations like that and it stinks of guilt.
just leave her alone now dont phone her when your drunk or ever again.
I was drunk when I wrote most of those posts, including this one.
Weird how all your sentences are grammatically correct but you were drunk. But I've never been drunk so.....
Give the bottle some rest then.
If you drink because of those subjects, it means you're way too anxious about it. Try to relax and take it easier, and stop asking yourselves all these questions, it's not mentally healthy.
You're certainly lacking confidence in yourself and in others (certainly by your own experience), but you can learn to get it back. It's never too late for that.
A few times I was drunk while posting and I can tell you I would never have been able to write stuffs like that. Writing a correct sentence with a proper meaning would have been an achievement by itself.
So basically he is making that up lol?
Well, let's hope @Kenny/Lee gets better. Maybe he should as his ex why did she exactly broke it off.
I do it pretty frequently and am usually grammatically correct (unless I'm trying to be funny) I just have less of a filter.
I thought you were in recovery before. Are you ok? You might want to talk to somebody about it, before things spin out of control.
Seriously, for your health.
I think it's less that she "used you for sex" and more that you didn't make yourself emotionally available to her, so she got tired of trying to take the initiative. Use this as a learning experience next time around, and above all else, don't be so hard on yourself. With the emotional issues you've described in previous posts, it's going to take baby steps, but it's definitely a good thing that you made the effort in the first place.
If she had "used you for sex", I think she would have not been as upfront and curt about why she left you, and she would have instead given some flowery and patronizing euphemism or something. Instead, if she was saying things like "[you] annoyed the shit out of her. That she felt like she was adult the adult in [the] relationship, and that every time she did some for [you], she felt that she had to drag it out of [you] so that [you] would do something for her," then it was coming from a boiling point she had reached. People don't get that emotionally invested just from casual relationships like that.
If it was something casual, she would not have been as emotionally invested to give you a detailed explanation, and she would have probably dropped contact instead of sticking around and saying that she wanted to be your friend still.
You are smart after all.
Got me there.
Man. If that's the way you think, then you probably sunk this one yourself. Whether or not she was ready to go on a trip with you is largely irrelevant.
Would you agree with this, her assessment of you? If so, then that's what you need to be worrying about, not her motivations. And if not, then you need to think about why she felt that way about you.
Honestly, with respect, if you want to improve what's going on in your life, I feel like you'd be better off talking about all of this with a therapist of some sort, rather than just randomly drunk-posting about it on a gaming forum.