How to give people a good impression first day in high school?
My cousin turns 13 next year and he asked me. I dont give people good imoressions so i cant help.
Any suggestions?
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My cousin turns 13 next year and he asked me. I dont give people good imoressions so i cant help.
Any suggestions?
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Tell him to be himself and know that he will find friends in due time. Ask him what his interests are and to try to find friends with the same interests. In school you will encounter many different types of people. Never try to act like someone you're not. Tell him not to be nervous people will come and go, yet in time, he will find a good select group of friends that will accompany him for many years.
In order to give a goose impression at school, you'll need to know how to act and sound like one:
But in all seriousness, being yourself is indeed the best way to go but of course, that doesn't mean you can't be extra nice towards these strangers whom you might one day call accomplices and it helps to find topics of discussion.
Be himself! As cliche as it is it's true.
I remember when I told my teacher that I don't feel comfortable with my class she told me that 'You may feel like your opposite of them, but don't stop yourself from expressing your intrestes' It depends if your cousin is a extrovert or introvert but if he's nervous that's okay. It's normal to feel nervous at school.
Hope this helps (or I'm just saying random nonsense because that's what people say about me)
Don't try to hard and try not to worry too much about what other people think. Not everybody will like you in life but you can at least be genuine to yourself and it will attract similar people.
Just don't care about what others think of you too much. Confident ones always attract people.
Beat up the tough guy.
Not directed literally at you but just generally speaking -- every single social topic online comes down to introvert/extrovert and the whole "Omg introverts need to recharge, that's the reason they don't talk lol not everyone's an extrovert!!!" thing.
I guess I might be wrong and not taking that whole thing seriously (someone tell me though if I should, I wanna know) but I hate it when people use being an introvert or...whatever..as an excuse to many things, e.g. not talking, ignoring everyone...
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"Enjoy it because college is going to be worse."
I don't agree that you should not care what others think. That's not how things work later in life, either. It's true that you shouldn't change who you are and what you're like, but at the same time you shouldn't go through highschool without friends because you're too stubborn to make some small compromises with other's ideas, mindsets etc. You should try to fit in as good as you can, or you might be deemed a weirdo and outsider fast, and getting rid of that labelling is hard. You don't have to lose your individuality because of this, just don't be that weird kid.
Beat him up? I think you mean fucking kill him.
EDIT - Disclaimer: I am JOOOOOOOOOKING
Be yourself and don't talk about school shooting memes. You could get in trouble for that.
Be confident.
Prepare for awkwardness. Try to keep in mind that everyone is probably worried about their first impressions, too. It’s all part of the adjustment process.
The 'be yourself' advice makes me think of this video (watch if you don't mind some colorful/NSFW phrasing):
'Make yours a good self' won't just serve you in school, but well beyond it.
(yep, same guy who did True Facts)
Recommend them to read this webpage.
And please do not tell your cousin that all of these advices were yours and only yours—let them know that you learned them on a website you trust. Otherwise you could become entangled in a confusion that will leave them helpless.
This second webpage might help as well. Anything by The Book of Life, really.
I linked him to this thread.
Anyway, people make you a friend because it makes them look good.
So be smart and popular, you will have lots friends.
Now about me, I am smart but not popular, so no advice on being that :P
Make the most of it because they will probably be the best years of your life.
In terms of impression, just be yourself, listen to your teachers, don't be a little shit etc
Why the best years? :P
Mine wasnt that perfect.
I'm counting the days I can get out of this hellhole. June 2018, why so far away?!
I hate high school. I don't know what the hell I was thinking to take APs.....I'm not even going to college! (I already make a decent amount of money off of selling jewelry)
Not cool man, I thought you were being serious.
Find something there that you enjoy and definitely go for it.
While I did manage to find something there I greatly enjoyed, I still made the mistake of not enjoying high school to the fullest when I should have.
Don't get me wrong, high school is a cold, unforgiving cesspool of social hierarchy and constant needs to feel liked, accepted, etc. But here is the thing:
Adult life gives off similar feelings. Maybe not to high school's level, but its there.
It doesn't end there. At least in high school, the consequences aren't nearly as extreme. They're the last 4 years before you go into the real world. I chose to be a miserable little shit my first two years, so I highly recommend you don't take that same path.
Lastly, in the end, the shit you do socially won't matter. Its mainly for your happiness and your time there. That's why its worth it to go out there and make friends. But the thing about that is, we all meet the same end: Graduation. Other than the lifetime friends you get out of high school, what you say/do around your peers, your actions and so on, (unless they're completely terrible) will. Not. Matter. I swear on Lee Everett's nonexistent grave you will stop talking to roughly 90% of the people you knew in high school. You were only friends with them because the two of you were forced to get up at the ass-crack of dawn, (before every fucking thing on the planet wakes up), shoved into a tight little classroom to learn bullshit information you won't need, causing you two to bond over the experience. Aside from that, after you put on that cap and gown, walk down that aisle, accept your diploma, then leave the ceremony, every bad thing that happened to you in that building prior to that moment will become meaningless. (Okay, I'm totally out of gas on where I'm going with this.)
If you want the less dark and nihilistic version of my bitch-fest/attempt at giving advice, go out there and have fun, man. Fuck what people might think. There will always be stressful situations in high school and in life, but you also gotta kick back and enjoy the good times.
If he's LGBT in any way, he should be advised to be extremely careful who he decides to out himself to.
You are one of my favourite people online. ☆
Then again, I don't think anyone voluntarily wants to have troubles with talking to people. :P Not everyone is able to overcome these things easily.
First of all, don't worry so much about what you look like. It's good to look nice, but don't obsess over it to the point of insanity. No one is going to take extra notice in you on the first day of school just because you look extremely amazing. Everyone else is probably in the same exact boat as you are. Also, don't worry too much about being "Popular". The "Popular" groups usually just consist of eye candy girls with bitchy personalities and guys that are masters at the art of bullshitting.
Aww, you
But thanks! That does mean a lot. You're definitely the kindest person on here, and one of my favourites online overall, as well. ☆
People will respect you if you look good
That's what I said
Why would you think that "beating someone up or killing them" is a serious suggestion?
I mean the joke's in poor taste, of course, but you assumed this was not being made facetiously?
Same way you make a good first impression anywhere. Find people who share your interests, and put yourself out there with them, get involved. Be trustworthy and empathetic.
Show your teachers/those in authority that you can be depended upon. If you're planning on attending college after high school, remember the high school years are what colleges consider. So get out there and make yourself well rounded. Don't just devote yourself to one thing. Hard work is important, very much so, but equally important is spreading your efforts around to more than a few narrow pursuits. And don't just keep it within HS...get out there in the community where you live and make it a better place. Church groups are my most familiar outlet for this, so I'll use them as an example.
And above all, don't stress so much about it. If you let your character shine, then the right people will notice and respect you for it. The ones that don't, they aren't worth your time anyway.
But it's not just about respect, it's about respect from the right people, is what I think Walker is saying.
I knew it was a joke actually
I know, but then that's a problem and not something you're supposed to celebrate, if that's the right word.
Those probably aren't very good friends though. Good friends are loyal, and stick around because they like/care about you.
Just be nice, and don't let an opputunity pass.
If you have some spare cash, then maybe invite one or two out to do something fun.
It may not happen instantly, and you may not become super popular, but a few close friends are worth dozens of acquaintances.
uh idk nearly everyone wanted to beat me up when i first joined.
just be himself, find a nice group of friends and if he doesn't want to get in too much trouble stay out of the spotlight and listen to the teacher.