Advice needed on situation to do with me and my crush
So I've liked this girl for a couple years and were friends but we don't talk much. It was her birthday recently so I decided to get her something expensive and when I gave it to her she was really surprised and looked a bit overwhelmed so we hugged and she said thank you then she went to her friends showing them what I got her. After school she messaged me on snapchat saying thank you so much with two hearts next to it so I replied saying your welcome. After seeing the reaction I was thinking of making some sort of advance on top of what I had just done till I opened snapchat the next day only to see a photo of her with another guy with a caption that made it very clear they were together so not gonna say what it was. I'm now at a point where I've got no clear idea what to do whether that I should just talk to her about how I feel or just wait it out because at this point I feel like I can't make any sudden advances considering that she has a boyfriend and that will just be an instant no.
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Normally I would say tell her how you feel but you have no idea how her boyfriend or something would react because some people go crazy over that stuff. I would suggest waiting it out because it sounds as if you don’t know the boyfriend too well. So the short and simple answer would be to wait just to play it safe.
stop
Girls are overrated. You'll be better of buying the new Crash Bandicoot. Crash won't break your heart and laugh at you....
A concept: Your crush reads the thread and identifies you.
Fuck the other guy in the ass to display your dominance to the girl that you like
Lol, hahah.
Just let this be a lesson not to buy expensive stuff for girls you're not certain about. That's not a way into a girl's heart.
Just be a friend for now, unless you just can't take it, in which case you get to leave her alone and be confusing.
Well the fact that she already has a boyfriend certainly doesn't help your chances.
I'd say just wait it out and hope the relationship goes south. There's no telling what kind of drama might happen should you reveal your feelings and piss off her boyfriend. While she's in a relationship there's really nothing you can do unless you're certain she would dump him on the spot just to be with you.
Hope you get the girl someday!
Kill the boyfriend. Shoot him in the heartbeat and give him a lesson. Shoot him twice to make sure the lesson stuck.
Eventually they will or may break up and maybe she would be sad and needing someone shoulder to stood on....maybe patience is key but that depends on the girl if she will like u as a boyfriend or not in the future....so yeah my advice is stay a friend and see what happens and decide what to do when there's an opportunity infront of u
You might want to hold off if she already has a boyfriend.
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Get to know her better for starters?
Yandre simulator style....love it
1: Only buy gifts for your confirmed GF or you look needy, desperate and weak remember your the gift
2: Friendzone first kills all sexual tension a girl knows within five seconds if their atttacted to you always be direct and decisive from start
3: She already knows you like her girls are smart but enjoys the attention move on that's why the hearts were there. She wants you as beta guy friend to give her all attention and buy her gifts with nothing in return
4: the best way to catch her attention immediately stop chasing wait for her match tochase
Look up coach corey wayne on youtube he gives the best advice imo
I promise you follow this road only lead to pain all warning signs are there and you will be used find girl who thinks your as awesome as you think she is
Oh, really?
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"GAME... OVER!!! Hahahahahahaaaa!!"
Some woman have a history about getting expensive things using man or make him spend a lot of money without effort a little. Soo, yeah you're right.
Because she has a boyfriend, I'd say wait it out or try to move on. If that relationship doesn't work out and she ends up being single again, I'd give it a little time and then be open and honest with her. Then just be brave and see what she says.
Nooooo dude. don't buy expensive shit for your crush! love isn't bought, its earned. what if you find out she doesn't like you? you just wasted your time and money. assuming you're in highschool, i'm not trying to be an asshole but the chance of you and her staying in contact after you've graduated is low. just sayin
Nooooo dude. don't buy expensive shit for your crush! love isn't bought, its earned. what if you find out she doesn't like you? you just wasted your time and money. assuming you're in highschool, i'm not trying to be an asshole but the chance of you and her staying in contact after you've graduated is low. just sayin
Nooooo dude. don't buy expensive shit for your crush! love isn't bought, its earned. what if you find out she doesn't like you? you just wasted your time and money. assuming you're in highschool, i'm not trying to be an asshole but the chance of you and her staying in contact after you've graduated is low. just sayin
edit: lmao i triple-posted the comment accidentally. rip internet
Get back to r/incel. The guy hardley even knows the girl, doesnt talk to her much, doesnt even care enough about her life to know she has a boyfriend but still goes out and buys her creepily expensive gifts
Wtf is wrong with you, you know this is wierd as hell right like this is how to be a self entitled jerk 101
You are now probably the mayor of "friend zone" city.
Just hang in there .
Just being salty cause know I'm right. If this guy pursues this girl who already has a bf when he clealy has romantic feeling only lead to trouble I stand by what I said. Life is short go after available girls where there is mutual interest chasing girl like this is pointless.
nononono NO DON'T DO IT!!
If you do it after you give her the present, she will think it was because you want to fuck her. Or some shit like that. First find out if she's with this dude. Maybe they're relatives or close friends or it was a bet or a friend took their phone something. If they are together, you be nice to her. Just nice. A friend if you want. Don't maniputale her, just be her friend. Be selfless. It will make it easier to get close if they break up. Wait until the next excuse to give her a present (don't do it out of the blue, it's creepy... wait for chrismas or her next birthday. Spend the time until that getting close to her and become close friends) and give her something handmade this time. It never fails. Even if you're not good at it, give her something she loves. Does she like drawing and baby animals? Make her a drawing or something about baby animals (DONT GIVE HER AN ACTUAL ANIMAL). Does she like clasic music? learn Violin or Piano. Or try. Just try to have things in common with her, to get interested in things she likes, do things for her. But don't say "It's for you", let her realize it alone. Listen to the music she likes, the photographs she takes, the drawings she makes, try to UNDERSTAND her. Ask her "Hey, so does this character in this TV show you like dies at the end?" "Hey so do you know if this band you like is going to give a concert anytime soon?" "Hey, what kind of paint do you think is better for X material?" "Hey so how is this sport you play doing?" "Hey, can you help me with homework?" "Hey, do you need help with homework?" or some shit like that. Be careful with this, don't ask too many questions, it feels forced, and try to make it in context. Unless it's related to homework, don't ask questions out of the blue. And convince yourself that it's to get to know what she likes, but not because she likes it. Try to like it on your own.
Another thing you can do is not buy her anything. Do it yourself, put your heart and soul and hands on it to make it an actual feeling. Draw something, write her a song (use with precaution. Instrumental songs are better for this kind of situations unless you're in a commited relationship), take her to somewhere awsome, to do something she loves. That is worth way more than any expensive gift will be.
And be careful.
FALSE.
Faaaaaaaaalse.
Nope.
Break into her house and steal back whatever u gave to her, then go to her boyfriend's house and give him some knock out gas. Then you can either put him in a box and send him over to Detroit or you can shove his head into a fish tank and drown him. Anything to get your way.
I'm fuken joking, calm down, mods.
give up and stop chasing after a girl that's already happy and in a relationship.
or you could buy a gift for a friend like normal human beings do and not have an ulterior motive. because, you know, people do that.
this is so objectively incorrect and offensive towards women that i find it god damn hilarious.
S T O P . PUT AWAY YOUR GOD DAMN KEYBOARD AND STOP
jesus fucking christ does everyone here give bad/sociopathic advice?
No im "salty" because this guy is clearly romantically inept and you giving him terrible advice you're also generalising that every girl is a narcissistic user.
I dont think you actually know many females irl
Soooo....Just saying lots of insults makes me wrong and you right this not kindergarden lol please be more mature the fact my post triggered you so much with all insults proves my points.
I'm not saying all girls are the same or narcs your twisting my words to fit the insult worthy narrative ur making
In situation presented most likely will be taken advantage of pursuing a girl with bf and he will be friendzoned and ignored just hurt him.
But no ok ur right buy.more expensive gifts wasting, money, sit in that friendzone for years as she has fun with her bf while his alone instead of going after a girl he has a chance who is single and will.appreciate his qualities no brainer
The guy not idiot he deserves better I stand by what I said
Get her a puppy. Bitches love puppies.
No but seriously, as someone who has been in similar situations I would say just wait it out. You'll either stop liking her eventually or she'll break up with him and then you can swoop in.
So you're saying she would've thought better of him had he shown up to her birthday empty handed?
Being friends with a girl does not automatically doom you to the friendzone. Yes it's possible but absolutely not guaranteed
How about we be a bit less cynical and not jump to the conclusion that she's using him for gifts. Yes that's a possibility but we really don't know this girl. Maybe hearts are just her way of showing gratitude. Or maybe she does understand that he likes her but doesn't know how to turn him down without hurting his feelings.
You say girls are smart but then you are certain they will fall for this blatant manipulation.
Calm ur tits it's all a joke
Wait till they break up and hop on those DMs like she'll be hopping on your dick later
In all seriousness, find you someone who is willing to give you 50% if you give 50% Sounds like you gave 100% and that oberwhelmed her. You gotta find a balance.
I actually dont think he should have bought any expensive gifts but since I disagreed with you that must mean im some sort of sjw snowflake so why would you even bother reading my triggerina reply
jokes are usually funny though.
Yeah, we all nuts bruh thats why