I have friends, but I've forgotten about them for over 5 years

edited March 2011 in General Chat
I can hardly believe it, I was in complete denial. I have friends...I haven't spoke to them, talked to them in over 5 years. When my psyche took its final blows I completely forgot about all my friends. I found one and he accepted my Facebook add...

There's a few more that are likely to be lost forever.

I'm such a horrible person, I forgot about all my friends and never made any new friends. What's wrong with me? I feel terrible...

I have friends...how could I treat them this way?

I don't know how to start over with them.

I had a almost normal life before the last heavy blows to my psyche. OMG, what have I done...

I said we should hang out some time, but all I'm getting is the cat and cradle, and the silver spoon...

We were good friends, since child hood, how the hell did I forget about him, alienate him? What the ****!?


These were real friends, I knew them since child hood, we spent time together, accepted our differences...what happened. What the hell happened!?

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  • edited February 2011
    You never listen to me Doodo, do you? Never.
  • edited February 2011
    Falanca wrote: »
    You never listen to me Doodo, do you? Never.

    I knew these people since my child hood, I repressed all of them some how. I don't understand. I'm so twisted...

    What have I done? I denied myself a life of friendships, happiness. Why? I'm my own worse enemy...

    Why, what do you say Falanca?:o

    This is a major realization, I'm struggling to take this all in. I'm remembering more than half of my life with friendships all the sudden and it's a war with in me. I'm so tired, confused of all of this...I don't know how to take this all in as the memories rush back in.
  • edited February 2011
    Well you see doodoo

    Friends are like potatoes
    If you eat them, they die.
  • edited February 2011
    Gman5852 wrote: »
    Well you see doodoo

    Friends are like potatoes
    If you eat them, they die.

    wait Iv been killing potatoes!?
  • edited February 2011
    Gman, I seriously forgot, I'm in some sort of shock. These were good friends, then they were gone, and now in my mind and heart, they are back...

    I'm so confused, all this thinking, all this weird web shit. And my friends accepted me for who I was, I was a regular person...I had friends. How did I get off the track so far?

    What the hell happened to me?
  • edited February 2011
    Gman5852 wrote: »
    Well you see doodoo

    Friends are like potatoes
    If you eat them, they die.

    I can not stand here and listen to the potato being slandered
  • edited February 2011
    Yeah, you guys are friends. But I was social, I was into sports, I hanged out. I did things...I was happily a individual, all these crazy shit I type is because I struggle to be that person.

    Can't you imagine the emotions, shock of this? I know it's not the worse thing to happen to some one but...

    These people were my friends, when no one else was there for us, we were there for each other. We were always good friends, we always cared, looked out for one another.

    Then BAM! BAM! BAM! BAM! I couldn't take it, i and eventually I started repressing my world around me and I forgot even about the people who cared about me the most, my good friends since I was in pre school.

    That doesn't feel good.
  • edited February 2011
    Gman5852 wrote: »
    Well you see doodoo

    Friends are like potatoes
    If you eat them, they die.

    You cannot believe how funny that is to me. XD

    And as for you doodoo, I think you think too much.

    I used to be a bit like you, (I was really bad! I always used to think about things like the nature of our existence (I still kinda think that we are just an echo of something that previously existed, which is why a lot of things still can't be explained), and the concept of a relationship), but then I realised that sometimes in life you just need to stop thinking about things, (as ultimately it was pretty pointless, especially since I usually would lose track of what I was thinking), and just do something.

    What did I do when I arrived at uni and I was really nervous?
    I just went out, and explored the area. Once I had a general idea of where everything important was, I felt a bit better, (and I had a bit of fun looking in all the shops I found too! :D).

    What do I do if I get depressed?
    Watch a comedy film/series. One that I'm familiar with tends to work better, (brings back good memories).
    If it really gets bad, I normally read my favourite book, which oddly enough is "The World of Karl Pilkington". It ALWAYS makes me laugh! XD

    If you still feel depressed over an extended period of time, talk to someone about it. Someone you love, or trust, like a family member, (or a teacher! XD).

    Maybe take up a hobby, (especially a skill based one that requires lots of practice), or try to learn new stuff, get more information. It might just help.

    EDIT: In fact, uni was so bad for me, I really did almost fall back into a slump.
    When I started I had no friends, annoying people living near me who irritated me and stole my food, and i was in such an unfamiliar place, and I missed my family. And when I say slump, I really mean it. Last time I was that bad, I slowly started to become desensitised to everything. It hurt my grade, and generally weirded people out. I avoided it this time, by almost literally throwing myself at everything (which is no easy task, since I am quite shy due to years of bullying). I talked to people, I explored, I went out and did stuff (not partying though, as I just hate the music, and I'm no fan of getting drunk constantly), and prepared, and I made a few friends, (though they are not quite compatible with me).
  • edited February 2011
    So, wait I'm confused...what exactly has set all this off? Like, why do you feel you might've started alienating your friends? I'm not really following... :S
  • edited February 2011
    alot of people I thought were my friends talked shit about me to others after I came out to NZ, and for what? We had left on good terms and I hadn't done anything wrong to them.

    One mate I called he told me to never call again that blew my f****** mind.

    I had been messaging one close mate for a long time with no reply on facebook yet i see he was talking to other people on there regularly. Then out of the blue he calls me the other day from UK asking if i was ok due to the earthquake. WTF???

    To be honest Doodo, most 'friends' turn out to be assholes.

    I only have a few friends I would call 'real friends'.
  • edited February 2011
    My father passed away, a lot of my friends were there to help me mourn, and two of them..two of them were the ones that stayed over, and let me cry on their shoulders. Well it's hard to trust people, but I have very few friends that I can talk to. You just have to let the right ones in.
  • edited February 2011
    Friends, shmriends! Life is like that. Some friends you loose, some friends you keep. Plus, with age everyone becomes more picky. It's science.
  • edited February 2011
    So this guy actually is NOT a troll?
  • edited February 2011
    Thanks everyone. I'm remembering a lot all the sudden. I'm going to see if he's interested in spending some time together. I almost forget how to...but I think I'm starting to remember.

    Ruby, I don't think that's worth going into right now.
  • edited February 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    I knew these people since my child hood, I repressed all of them some how. I don't understand. I'm so twisted...

    What have I done? I denied myself a life of friendships, happiness. Why? I'm my own worse enemy...

    Why, what do you say Falanca?:o

    This is a major realization, I'm struggling to take this all in. I'm remembering more than half of my life with friendships all the sudden and it's a war with in me. I'm so tired, confused of all of this...I don't know how to take this all in as the memories rush back in.

    I won't be able to change your view in this post. I won't be able to make it different for you or anyone else. And I really like the way you're always questioning yourself. But there is something I don't like, I despise, I really really hate. It's just my opinion, I'm not against you or anything; you're an intelligent person, and I'm sure you'll understand it. At least know that I'm trying.

    You're a sad person. You're not satisfied, or just feel the absence of something. And that's the real problem; you don't know why you're sad. You always go back and forth with different questions and their different answers, you get stuck in coming up with a consistent reasoning and ask other people you vaguely know but trust anyway. When you partly resolve your current problem, you jump onto completely different questions and this goes and on, and on, and on. You investigate and observe, yes, but in the end, you don't have the thing you are seeking for. It is because, you constantly grasp a path and let it go, never choose a way to go. You end up with nothing. You're like constantly picking up starter Pokemons and placing them again over and over; never choosing one to advance in your journey.

    You don't know one thing; this technique of finding the right path of happiness is flawed. This is why things come bland to you; you have to choose a path. You want to be a healthy man? Go work on your muscles, starting from little and then slowly improving your workouts in a balanced schedule. You want new friends? Join clubs about your favorite things, go to meetings, be a social man. You want to be artsy? Start drawing stickmen. Just don't let things GO. Or else you'll be nothing, and you'll just think. Think and think unless you die, and let your intelligence go waste.

    No matter what you do, some will love you and some will hate you. Loving something wholeheartedly is the equavalent of hating something that antagonizes it. You may choose a path that I may end up hating you, but it's okay, our hatred towards each other will give both of us a reason, a meaning to live. Don't fear to be stricted by a lifestyle. You're born with the goal of having fun and nothing else, and when you die only that'll be your profit. Stop getting depressed on everything you let go, just choose only ONE of them, and then, forgetting everything else will be easier than said.

    Why am I saying all of these? You're always talking about something different, always confused about something else. There is this; don't know some things in life, it'll make what you know more valuable for you. What's important in your life? Your friends? What did your said FRIENDS do for you? Probably nothing important. You want it to be important? Go socialize with your friends. There. Now it's your first priority, having a fun time with your friends, and you live to achieve that. Or choose another thing, draw stuff, write stuff, let being creative be your first priority. Just choose something to improve yourself on already. It can be ANYTHING. Some people will still love you if you go become a porn star. I'll still respect you since you actually chose something to end your depression. Will I like or hate you? I'll hate you if you do that, but it's the rule of humanity, you gotta make people hate you as much as you make people love you.
  • edited February 2011
    this is what you do.... "hey (friend's name) You feel like going to see a movie?"

    go to movie reconnect with friend.
  • edited February 2011
    Irishmile wrote: »
    this is what you do.... "hey (friend's name) You feel like going to see a movie?"

    go to movie reconnect with friend.

    I deeply apologize for doing this but, couldn't prevent myself...

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  • edited February 2011
    Oh Mr.Sandler, the times we've had...:)

    ....OH Huh?

    I...seem...to have uh... posted... in the wrong...thread?
  • edited February 2011
    My mates did try to contact me, years ago, I blew them off. Don't know if they're interested anymore.

    Anyways...
  • edited February 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    My mates did try to contact me, years ago, I blew them off. Don't know if they're interested anymore.

    Anyways...

    If you remember my saying, happiness will come.

    Another advice, while doing a charity job for cancer, dont bring the best of the 80s soundtrack, no one wants to hear "another one bites the dust":D
  • edited February 2011
    Gman5852 wrote: »
    Another advice, while doing a charity job for cancer, dont bring the best of the 80s soundtrack, no one wants to hear "another one bites the dust":D

    Cancer my ass, if they don't have the least bit of a sense of humor I don't feel bad for what's coming for them.


    Okay, don't boo me.
  • edited February 2011
    This isn't that big of a deal, I guess I just hit a emo spot again. Thanks again, everyone, and moving on...
  • edited February 2011
    Falanca wrote: »
    Cancer my ass, if they don't have the least bit of a sense of humor I don't feel bad for what's coming for them.


    Okay, don't boo me.

    Like the one hiker who had to cut off his hand in the grand canyon.
    His autobiography is called "a rock and a hard place":D
    I love my humor.
  • edited February 2011
    The internet is my friend
  • edited February 2011
    Well I haven't joined his chat yet,but it looks like my old friend might be a nerd. His face book has been on chat like all day...
  • edited February 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    Well I haven't joined his chat yet,but it looks like my old friend might be a nerd. His face book has been on chat like all day...

    These days, who isn't a nerd? Especially the ones who wear the fake glasses and a shirt that says " I LOVE GEEKS " or something

    GOD I HATE THEM
  • edited February 2011
    What are fake glasses? I use mine for my eyes...
  • edited February 2011
    There's a big difference between a nerd and a geek.

    I am and I suspect everyone else on this forum is a geek. Which is to say that I am really into gaming, movies and music and enjoy discussing such things with like minded people. A nerd on the other hand is when you become obsessive about one thing in particular and block out all other aspects of life. You don't have to be into computers or trains etc. to be a geek or a nerd, it could be building cars, gambling or anything really.

    Basically:

    If you're a geek, be proud.
    If you're a nerd, get help.

    So can we stop using the word nerd in association with people on this forum now please? I have friends and a social life, I have many interests outside of gaming. I am a geek about a great many things and bloody proud of it but when you call me a nerd it's an insult.
  • edited February 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    My mates did try to contact me, years ago, I blew them off.

    Language difference hilarity.
  • edited February 2011
    jp-30 wrote: »
    Language difference hilarity.
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  • edited February 2011
    I like to drink beer and chuck on some Tom Waits or Bladerunner and escape and forget about all the bullshit in my life. We all worry too much. Its not healthy.
  • edited February 2011
    I agree with you, Lonnie, we all worry to much.
  • edited March 2011
    Ya know, you know when you have a good friend. I'm never going to tell my kids to be jerks or rude to their friends, judge them. It's always good to have a friend. He was a good person.

    One of the few I could find again. Today, he talked to me, so, who knows maybe we'll pick up where we left off and I'll become social again. He was my best child hood friend.
  • edited March 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    I'm never going to tell my kids to be jerks or rude to their friends.

    I should hope so :P
  • edited March 2011
    My parents put down a lot of my friends, because they were different, weird. But they tried some times to be mature. So, I judged my friends a little and yet those people were always on my side.

    We have a lot in common, actually :D
  • edited March 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    My parents put down a lot of my friends, because they were different, weird. But they tried some times to be mature. So, I judged my friends a little and yet those people were always on my side.

    We have a lot in common, actually :D

    That's a shame, my parents were always pretty good with my friends - and they really are WEIRD :P I'm sure your parents didn't mean you any wrong by it though :)
  • edited March 2011
    That's a shame, my parents were always pretty good with my friends - and they really are WEIRD :P I'm sure your parents didn't mean you any wrong by it though :)

    Yeah, with my father my friends were never good enough. But damn they were, are. As of late I'm talking again with a few of them. I'm glad they are accepting of me once again. I hope we can have a relationship one day again.
  • edited March 2011
    Now that my social life is starting to get moving a little again, does any one want to join me on Facebook to help me move in the right direction?
  • edited March 2011
    Dude, he said, every one splits after HS, it's the ones that stick around or come back that matter. We talked for like 2 hours. I think we're going to be friends again. Which is cool.

    I'm heading towards a normal social life again.
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