How would you feel if your sister goes a wrong way?

N7.N7.
edited June 2013 in General Chat
Hi, maybe it's not a polite question to ask but I heard in some countries like USA and European countries they don't care much about their females

I mean it's a fu*king bad feel to see your sister have a boy friend (Not in purpose for marriage)

How would you feel if your sister find boyfriend but not in purpose for marriage?

I'm really really hate this kind of girls, really really hate

Comments

  • VainamoinenVainamoinen Moderator
    edited June 2013
    N... it really is a cultural thing. We mostly live in countries where our sisters just are meant to chose their own boyfriends, and we mostly live in countries where it's essentially unimportant whether they eventually will marry as long as they love each other and are good to each other. If your sister has chosen a boyfriend, and that boyfriend has chosen her, maybe your first instinct should be to respect her decision, and possibly find out that it has been a good one. I care a lot about my sister. I know that she will never marry, because that's absolutely not her way, and I still hope she finds a good man, one she chooses to have at her side.

    I know quite well that in the US or in Europe, brothers care just as much about their sisters as they do in Iran. The difference might be what we think is good for those sisters.
  • edited June 2013
    It's not a case of not caring about females its that a lot of people in the USA and EU have a more liberal to relationships and dating. It's a culture thing really.
  • edited June 2013
    Is the guy a good guy? Does he treat her with respect? People are waiting longer and longer to get married in this country so it doesn't bother me when people don't start a relationship with marriage in mind, as long as they respect each other, you know? If my sister was dating someone who was a real rude guy it would bother me.
  • edited June 2013
    If I had a sister, and she was dating some guy, then I wouldn't care too much, its her decision. (Her life. I got no right to interfere)

    (Unless the guy was an asshole, or abusive. Then I WOULD obviously care. Quite a bit I should imagine! XD)
  • edited June 2013
    The question in itself isn't impolite. It is however wrong that being fine with your sister having a boyfriend without the intent to marry implies that we don't care about our females. Personally I think you should tread carefully around moral questions after your previous shenanigans on these forums.
  • N7.N7.
    edited June 2013
    Then what about human morality? We are human and more than this
    For the record my sister never did such a shameful thing like that and I'm talking about your sisters :D no offence
  • edited June 2013
    I think the most important thing in a relationship is that the two people like each other, sister or not.

    The issue of whether two people in a relationship get married or not is utterly irrelevant at the start because you don't know if it's going to work out or not. If you go into a relationship specifically because you want to get married, then you're doing it for the wrong reason - you should be doing it because you like the other person and want to be with them.

    The idea that people don't care about their families simply because they live in one particular country is... flawed, shall we say. It's not down to which country you live in, it's down to the upbringing you have. I'd have thought though that as a rule pretty much everyone cared about their family in one way or another.
  • edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    Then what about human morality? We are human and more than this
    For the record my sister never did such a shameful thing like that and I'm talking about your sisters :D no offence

    For one thing you shouldn't rush into marriage with anyone you should take your time and date people so you know what type of person you want to be with.

    Also theres another thing you can't control women here. If you try telling a girl here who to date she will let you have it then carry on dating him.
  • N7.N7.
    edited June 2013
    I think the most important thing in a relationship is that the two people like each other, sister or not.

    Is that so? then I love every woman in the world! because of something that every man knows :D So am I free to become friend with someone like your sister just because I love to be with her! and no matter what will happens next?

    When a male and a female getting too close to each other then something bad goes to happen! I don't know about your country but in my country no one will marry with a girl that isn't virgin
  • edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    I don't know about your country but in my country no one will marry with a girl that isn't virgin

    Over here no one cares. At all. If a women's hymen is intact or not. At least the sensible people. There are some people that do but we generally laugh at them.
  • edited June 2013
    Marriage doesn't really matter that much...
    In England people generally don't look that far ahead when going into relationships...
    I don't have a sister but I wouldn't care who she is with as long as she would be happy...
  • edited June 2013
    Yea virginity isn't an issue over here when people date or marry a woman.
  • VainamoinenVainamoinen Moderator
    edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    When a male and a female getting too close to each other then something bad goes to happen! I don't know about your country but in my country no one will marry with a girl that isn't virgin

    When people marry in our countries, the male usually knows with absolute certainty that the girl isn't a virgin any more. Regardless whether he was the originally responsible party or not. :o
  • edited June 2013
    I'm not even sure what this thread is about apart from insulting women in US and EU.
  • N7.N7.
    edited June 2013
    der_ketzer wrote: »
    Over here no one cares. At all. If a women's hymen is intact or not. At least the sensible people. There are some people that do but we generally laugh at them.

    You really don't care who was your wife before? isn't that really important for you to know your wife never had sex with a man before? WTF

    I'm really feel sorry for you and your kinds you don't know anything about life
  • edited June 2013
    coolsome wrote: »
    Yea virginity isn't an issue over here when people date or marry a woman.

    But to a lot of people it is when people date or marry a man! XD
  • edited June 2013
    But to a lot of people it is when people date or marry a man! XD

    I'd hope the man I marry has lots of sexual experiences before hand.:P
  • edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    I'm really feel sorry for you and your kind you don't know anything about life
    And I say the same to you.
  • edited June 2013
    coolsome wrote: »
    I'd hope the man I marry has lots of sexual experiences before hand.:P

    Exactly my point! XD
  • VainamoinenVainamoinen Moderator
    edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    You rally don't care who was your wife before? isn't that really important for you to know your wife never had sex with a man before? WTF

    I'm really feel sorry for you and your kind you don't know anything about life

    Knowing a person inside out, that's a goal which might be harder to achieve if said person actually HAD a life before. The western countries regard sex as just a part of life, an experience you make. More or less like eating good muffins or smelling the flowers. Same thing. Most of all, they have abandonned the idea that your virginity is something you 'give' like a precious possession. Relationships have nothing to do with possession any more, and they have nothing to do with 'being the first' in anything any more.

    I understand that these are belief systems which are very difficult for you to accept, but I urge you to at least make a try without insulting anyone. We're on page 2 now, and I think we had a rather OK start for this kind of absolute cultural clash.
  • edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    You really don't care who was your wife before? isn't that really important for you to know your wife never had sex with a man before? WTF

    I'm really feel sorry for you and your kind you don't know anything about life
    It matters more to us we find someone who we truly love and who truly loves us than we find someone who has never had another relationship or a chance to find someone they truly love...
  • edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    You really don't care who was your wife before? isn't that really important for you to know your wife never had sex with a man before? WTF

    I'm really feel sorry for you and your kinds you don't know anything about life

    Oh god get over your self! We don't make topics saying how you live sucks! Hell everyone here is being polite and saying its a different of culture trying to respect you beliefs while you don't give a damn about reciprocating it!
  • edited June 2013
    Dear N7. What is your opinion on FEMShep having sex in Mass Effect before getting married to whatever crew member she chooses. And what is your opinion on BROShep doing the same.
  • N7.N7.
    edited June 2013
    When people marry in our countries, the male usually knows with absolute certainty that the girl isn't a virgin any more. Regardless whether he was the originally responsible party or not. :o

    I'm really really happy that I'm not living in your country. In my country we have a lot of problems but at least we still have morality. 90% of our girls are clean and humanity is upper everything
  • edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    90% of our girls are clean

    Well pop the fucking champagne!
  • edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    I'm really really happy that I'm not living in your country. In my country we have a lot of problems but at least we still have morality. 90% of our girls are clean

    So is people being forced into a marriage that they don't really value 'Morality' ?
  • edited June 2013
    coolsome wrote: »
    Well pop the fucking champagne!

    Roll out the red Carpet!
  • edited June 2013
    This thread is turning ugly, so I'm locking it.

    Long story short - as long as our (possibly fictional) sister is happy, we don't really mind who she's dating, whether she's getting married to them or if she's a virgin.

    Actually, we REALLY don't want to know about that last one. Like, ever.

    That's generally how most civilized countries work. If your country has different values, then fine. But we don't patronise or insult you for it, so don't do the same to us.
  • VainamoinenVainamoinen Moderator
    edited June 2013
    N7. wrote: »
    I'm really really happy that I'm not living in your country. In my country we have a lot of problems but at least we still have morality. 90% of our girls are clean and humanity is upper everything

    Well, those vicious 10% will obviously have to find an unclean man first. I think their percentage might be a tad higher. :)

    edit: Darth, NOOOOO!!
  • puzzleboxpuzzlebox Telltale Alumni
    edited June 2013
    This thread is turning ugly, so I'm locking it.

    Thanks, beat me to it!
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