Nobody wants to go life alone, trust me. But you need to make sure you can make it on your own. Nothing is more attractive to me (and many other women), than a man whom can take care of himself.
Im told im wanted but I feel like I have some big purpose and its not to live and die.When im alone I turn to philosophy and biomedical writings. Im planning a head but I dont want to walk the road alone.
Get it over with ASAP is my advice. It's better than dwelling on it and warping it in your head as some big deal. I've done that a few times and became severely disappointed and unable to move on from said rejection. Seriously, I postponed telling a guy I liked him for 3 years. It took me another 3 to finally accept he was never going to like me back.
Nobody wants to go life alone, trust me. But you need to make sure you can make it on your own. Nothing is more attractive to me (and many other women), than a man whom can take care of himself.
Well the problem is (looks like I got in on this thread) I don't really have any "real friends." I mean I hang out with people, and stuff but they're not really my friends, I know that's hard to understand but I'm trying to explain it. So I have only... Let's say three close to real friends. And I hang out with them, and they hang out with their other friends, and it feels awkward for me because I only know the people from my elementary school so I cling to them whenever possible.
But they never actually hang out with me. Like I'm really shy, so I'm usually in my room all day. My friends are always going places, and doing things without bringing me along, or asking, so I assume they don't want me around. One "friend" told me to come over, and it just seemed really tense, because I think his parents told him to invite me over, because we haven't done anything with each other all summer...
I also have a huge problem when hanging around girls. Since I have a low self esteem, I think they're all better then me/pretty/too good to be around me so it just makes me uncomfortable. I sweat, hands in pockets, barely talking, quick nods, one word, that sort of thing. I just can't make eye contact, or proper conversation (What do I even talk about, I'm boring, and I don't know what girls talk about :P), so hanging out with girls for me is just a fail moment.
Son, sounds like you just want some friends to go hand out with and maybe a gal to share some kind of different experiences with. It's total… morely natural. I've never been on a date, kissed anyone, or had anyone ask me out. So, yeah, I understand that feeling of wanting to be out there and being the only girl in my group of friends who is like that. But when you time comes, it will come, and don't rush it.
Going strong as in, it doesn't bother me anymore, I don't cry about it every week like I used too.
No, I totally understand. I used to have tons of 'friends' all over my life. I would hang out with on a regular basis, and would enjoy a lot of unforgettable moments with. Lets say, in life, we make temporary friends. At the time we know them, we have so much fun and look forward to the moment we will share with them, but life happens, and we go on and we disconnect. It's natural. True friends, will stay in our lives and connect with us. One girl I know told me once, that she sees friends like this. It's a two-way street and both sides need to make efforts to connect.
I have my moments too where I don't go do things with my friends because I have really bad social anxiety. I spend all my Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights at home working on my books or art and not really caring if I get invited out. I find something I like and I do it, even if my best friends are out and don't invite me, I don't take it personally, they know I don't like big loud situations and they know I have anxiety problems.
I'm the same way around guys, it's so hard for me to interact with men my age, and men in general. I think they're judging me, only looking at me as if they're trying to calculate what value I can offer them, be it physical or in a lot of cases (helping them out with school and their problems). If you're 'boring' to some people, you'll definitely be interesting to others. We don't all have the same interests and things to talk about, but as you grow older you come to accept that but you also learn a lot more and find yourself able to talk to people (men and women) much easier.
You sound like a normal young adult to me, we all have these thoughts/doubts/issues we deal with. It's part of growing up and finding your place.
Well the problem is (looks like I got in on this thread) I don't really have any "real friends." I mean I hang out with people, and stuff bu… moret they're not really my friends, I know that's hard to understand but I'm trying to explain it. So I have only... Let's say three close to real friends. And I hang out with them, and they hang out with their other friends, and it feels awkward for me because I only know the people from my elementary school so I cling to them whenever possible.
But they never actually hang out with me. Like I'm really shy, so I'm usually in my room all day. My friends are always going places, and doing things without bringing me along, or asking, so I assume they don't want me around. One "friend" told me to come over, and it just seemed really tense, because I think his parents told him to invite me over, because we haven't done anything with each other all summer...
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You're kinda contradicting yourself. You can make it alone, but you want someone to lean on when you are feeling down or weak. Needing and wanting someone are two completely different things.
A word conceived by society which applies to the social norm or quo. Normal is forced by powers to keep people in line and making the masses feel better. If people told others that wearing a horse mask everyday is normal would you do it? Jst think by being you...Youre stopping Nazism.
Also you do have friends, on here. After I finish my last class at school I get on here, people think its weird. I wear shirts made by the creatures, people think theyre dumb, im showing my love to people that actually makes me laugh. Youre not normal, uou may have some social ills, thats fine just stand by what you believe.
Alright im going to sleep, Ill post on this thread tomorrow,night.
Well the problem is (looks like I got in on this thread) I don't really have any "real friends." I mean I hang out with people, and stuff bu… moret they're not really my friends, I know that's hard to understand but I'm trying to explain it. So I have only... Let's say three close to real friends. And I hang out with them, and they hang out with their other friends, and it feels awkward for me because I only know the people from my elementary school so I cling to them whenever possible.
But they never actually hang out with me. Like I'm really shy, so I'm usually in my room all day. My friends are always going places, and doing things without bringing me along, or asking, so I assume they don't want me around. One "friend" told me to come over, and it just seemed really tense, because I think his parents told him to invite me over, because we haven't done anything with each other all summer...
I also have a huge problem when hanging around gi… [view original content]
You're kinda contradicting yourself. You can make it alone, but you want someone to lean on when you are feeling down or weak. Needing and wanting someone are two completely different things.
You guys are both young adults/teenagers, and it's incredibly hard to shake these feelings of not being good enough. I know everything I say will be shot down with something negative, but I'm just letting y'all know, it gets better. You find out who you really are and what you want instead of what you think you need.
You also find out that those people who hurt you are not worth the time to even acknowledge.
What is normal?
A word conceived by society which applies to the social norm or quo. Normal is forced by powers to keep people in line an… mored making the masses feel better. If people told others that wearing a horse mask everyday is normal would you do it? Jst think by being you...Youre stopping Nazism.
Also you do have friends, on here. After I finish my last class at school I get on here, people think its weird. I wear shirts made by the creatures, people think theyre dumb, im showing my love to people that actually makes me laugh. Youre not normal, uou may have some social ills, thats fine just stand by what you believe.
Alright im going to sleep, Ill post on this thread tomorrow,night.
Kill her pet, then she'll be sad and you can take care of her.
No but seriously if she sits alone at lunch she'll probably be really happy when you sit yourself next to her. If you don't want your crush to be obvious you can ask her something bout that computer lessons you got together. Idk i never had such a problem cause i'm pretty self-confident. I think the first times you two talk will be kinda awkward but that'll change quick. Well that's what my experience tells me at least.
Hope i could help a little.
Keep me informed!
Firstly, it's better to live a life of regret from failing than live a life of regret from not trying at all. Secondly, if you think this girl is going to reject you purely based on looks she's not worth your time (no really, she's not). Lastly, my biggest concern here is your admitted low self-esteem, I think you stated that you feel unattractive and are worried about bullying.
Dating/relationships can be very rewarding and wonderful but at the same time they can be tempered with alot of pain. If you don't think you are emotionally prepared to take the good with the bad my advice to you would be to work on yourself first and take a look at what you think is holding you back before asking this girl out. Having a girlfriend should be viewed as an add-on to an already content life (think of it as a DLC), it's not a self esteem booster (well maybe temporarily, but the same old self doubt issues will raise their head again eventually).
Anyway, you seem very sweet to me so I wish you luck =D
I have a crush on this girl, shes single, I want to ask her out. Simple huh, well I personally think im ugly and have no chance at a girlfriend, so the main factors are low self-esteem and fear of rejection/embarrasement, what should I do?
Either ask her out or don't. You don't have that many options here
I was rejected a couple of times as well. It gets easier over time.
I know how you feel, girls can be terrifying sometimes XD Just don't do what I do. I try to act all cool and uninterested which obviously gets me nowhere.
No, I totally understand. I used to have tons of 'friends' all over my life. I would hang out with on a regular basis, and would enjoy a lot… more of unforgettable moments with. Lets say, in life, we make temporary friends. At the time we know them, we have so much fun and look forward to the moment we will share with them, but life happens, and we go on and we disconnect. It's natural. True friends, will stay in our lives and connect with us. One girl I know told me once, that she sees friends like this. It's a two-way street and both sides need to make efforts to connect.
I have my moments too where I don't go do things with my friends because I have really bad social anxiety. I spend all my Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights at home working on my books or art and not really caring if I get invited out. I find something I like and I do it, even if my best friends are out and don't invite me, I don't take it personally, they know I don't like … [view original content]
Kill her pet, then she'll be sad and you can take care of her.
No but seriously if she sits alone at lunch she'll probably be really happy … morewhen you sit yourself next to her. If you don't want your crush to be obvious you can ask her something bout that computer lessons you got together. Idk i never had such a problem cause i'm pretty self-confident. I think the first times you two talk will be kinda awkward but that'll change quick. Well that's what my experience tells me at least.
Hope i could help a little.
Keep me informed!
I just wanna give you a hug!
Firstly, it's better to live a life of regret from failing than live a life of regret from not trying at all… more. Secondly, if you think this girl is going to reject you purely based on looks she's not worth your time (no really, she's not). Lastly, my biggest concern here is your admitted low self-esteem, I think you stated that you feel unattractive and are worried about bullying.
Dating/relationships can be very rewarding and wonderful but at the same time they can be tempered with alot of pain. If you don't think you are emotionally prepared to take the good with the bad my advice to you would be to work on yourself first and take a look at what you think is holding you back before asking this girl out. Having a girlfriend should be viewed as an add-on to an already content life (think of it as a DLC), it's not a self esteem booster (well maybe temporarily, but the same old self doubt issues will raise their head again eventually).
Anyway, you seem very sweet to me so I wish you luck =D
I know how you feel, girls can be terrifying sometimes XD Just don't do what I do. I try to act all cool and uninterested which obviously gets me nowhere.
Be yourself and be a gentleman to her and help her out... Eventually she'll see you as being efficient and a great guy. Also if she is playing hard to get do not under any circumstances, flirt with her openly let's just say I've been rejected by quite a few gals like that. But when I was myself being like a good man and kind towards this one girl who I knew at my fencing club... We became very close. Also try to incorporate some humor in a relationship, it doesn't always work but it a good poke in that. The one girl who I was kind and funny to actually asked for my phone number due to me saying I had an unusual dream about her in my minecraft world and she asked if she was good and I said she was A+ she cracked up and then asked me for my phone number which is quite uncommon since generally boys asks the girls. I guess she saw me as a warm hearted loving individual and wanted to know me, I've known her for 7 months.
Be yourself and be a gentleman to her and help her out... Eventually she'll see you as being efficient and a great guy. Also if she is playi… moreng hard to get do not under any circumstances, flirt with her openly let's just say I've been rejected by quite a few gals like that. But when I was myself being like a good man and kind towards this one girl who I knew at my fencing club... We became very close. Also try to incorporate some humor in a relationship, it doesn't always work but it a good poke in that. The one girl who I was kind and funny to actually asked for my phone number due to me saying I had an unusual dream about her in my minecraft world and she asked if she was good and I said she was A+ she cracked up and then asked me for my phone number which is quite uncommon since generally boys asks the girls. I guess she saw me as a warm hearted loving individual and wanted to know me, I've known her for 7 months.
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1.No I think ill go into school sagging with gold chains XD
2.I am indeed a gentleman good sir!
3.I am very humerus as you can tell...… moreAlthough sarcasms more my thing :P
4.Im also compassionate, maybe too compassionate...At least ive learned not use Italian in the first...Month.
I honestly hope if you ever ask her out she accepts it. Or well if she is one of those girls who care only about if youre cool, popular or pretty then dont, if not catch her before another guy does it, whenever a guy asks me out i accept cause i dont really care how he is. Good luck
I honestly hope if you ever ask her out she accepts it. Or well if she is one of those girls who care only about if youre cool, popular or p… moreretty then dont, if not catch her before another guy does it, whenever a guy asks me out i accept cause i dont really care how he is. Good luck
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You'll be fine kiddo.
Nobody wants to go life alone, trust me. But you need to make sure you can make it on your own. Nothing is more attractive to me (and many other women), than a man whom can take care of himself.
Guess ill find out Monday...Or the day I will postpone it to.
Get it over with ASAP is my advice. It's better than dwelling on it and warping it in your head as some big deal. I've done that a few times and became severely disappointed and unable to move on from said rejection. Seriously, I postponed telling a guy I liked him for 3 years. It took me another 3 to finally accept he was never going to like me back.
I can go in alone but I need someone to lean on.
Well the problem is (looks like I got in on this thread) I don't really have any "real friends." I mean I hang out with people, and stuff but they're not really my friends, I know that's hard to understand but I'm trying to explain it. So I have only... Let's say three close to real friends. And I hang out with them, and they hang out with their other friends, and it feels awkward for me because I only know the people from my elementary school so I cling to them whenever possible.
But they never actually hang out with me. Like I'm really shy, so I'm usually in my room all day. My friends are always going places, and doing things without bringing me along, or asking, so I assume they don't want me around. One "friend" told me to come over, and it just seemed really tense, because I think his parents told him to invite me over, because we haven't done anything with each other all summer...
I also have a huge problem when hanging around girls. Since I have a low self esteem, I think they're all better then me/pretty/too good to be around me so it just makes me uncomfortable. I sweat, hands in pockets, barely talking, quick nods, one word, that sort of thing. I just can't make eye contact, or proper conversation (What do I even talk about, I'm boring, and I don't know what girls talk about :P), so hanging out with girls for me is just a fail moment.
So yeah... I guess I'm not a normal person? lol
No, I totally understand. I used to have tons of 'friends' all over my life. I would hang out with on a regular basis, and would enjoy a lot of unforgettable moments with. Lets say, in life, we make temporary friends. At the time we know them, we have so much fun and look forward to the moment we will share with them, but life happens, and we go on and we disconnect. It's natural. True friends, will stay in our lives and connect with us. One girl I know told me once, that she sees friends like this. It's a two-way street and both sides need to make efforts to connect.
I have my moments too where I don't go do things with my friends because I have really bad social anxiety. I spend all my Friday, Saturday, and Sunday nights at home working on my books or art and not really caring if I get invited out. I find something I like and I do it, even if my best friends are out and don't invite me, I don't take it personally, they know I don't like big loud situations and they know I have anxiety problems.
I'm the same way around guys, it's so hard for me to interact with men my age, and men in general. I think they're judging me, only looking at me as if they're trying to calculate what value I can offer them, be it physical or in a lot of cases (helping them out with school and their problems). If you're 'boring' to some people, you'll definitely be interesting to others. We don't all have the same interests and things to talk about, but as you grow older you come to accept that but you also learn a lot more and find yourself able to talk to people (men and women) much easier.
You sound like a normal young adult to me, we all have these thoughts/doubts/issues we deal with. It's part of growing up and finding your place.
You're kinda contradicting yourself. You can make it alone, but you want someone to lean on when you are feeling down or weak. Needing and wanting someone are two completely different things.
What is normal?
A word conceived by society which applies to the social norm or quo. Normal is forced by powers to keep people in line and making the masses feel better. If people told others that wearing a horse mask everyday is normal would you do it? Jst think by being you...Youre stopping Nazism.
Also you do have friends, on here. After I finish my last class at school I get on here, people think its weird. I wear shirts made by the creatures, people think theyre dumb, im showing my love to people that actually makes me laugh. Youre not normal, uou may have some social ills, thats fine just stand by what you believe.
Alright im going to sleep, Ill post on this thread tomorrow,night.
Im tired cut me some slack, I meant to put want, ill talk here tomorrow,night XD
You guys are both young adults/teenagers, and it's incredibly hard to shake these feelings of not being good enough. I know everything I say will be shot down with something negative, but I'm just letting y'all know, it gets better. You find out who you really are and what you want instead of what you think you need.
You also find out that those people who hurt you are not worth the time to even acknowledge.
Kill her pet, then she'll be sad and you can take care of her.
No but seriously if she sits alone at lunch she'll probably be really happy when you sit yourself next to her. If you don't want your crush to be obvious you can ask her something bout that computer lessons you got together. Idk i never had such a problem cause i'm pretty self-confident. I think the first times you two talk will be kinda awkward but that'll change quick. Well that's what my experience tells me at least.
Hope i could help a little.
Keep me informed!
I just wanna give you a hug!
Firstly, it's better to live a life of regret from failing than live a life of regret from not trying at all. Secondly, if you think this girl is going to reject you purely based on looks she's not worth your time (no really, she's not). Lastly, my biggest concern here is your admitted low self-esteem, I think you stated that you feel unattractive and are worried about bullying.
Dating/relationships can be very rewarding and wonderful but at the same time they can be tempered with alot of pain. If you don't think you are emotionally prepared to take the good with the bad my advice to you would be to work on yourself first and take a look at what you think is holding you back before asking this girl out. Having a girlfriend should be viewed as an add-on to an already content life (think of it as a DLC), it's not a self esteem booster (well maybe temporarily, but the same old self doubt issues will raise their head again eventually).
Anyway, you seem very sweet to me so I wish you luck =D
I'm in the same situation. I like two girls. The first one probably doesn't like me but the second does I think.
Either ask her out or don't. You don't have that many options here
I was rejected a couple of times as well. It gets easier over time.
I know how you feel, girls can be terrifying sometimes XD Just don't do what I do. I try to act all cool and uninterested which obviously gets me nowhere.
Okay, well that reassures me a bit. Thanks
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aks her out or don't, there is no try
XD the first line sounded like advice my friend would give.
"Kdnap her and show her how comfortable being trapped with you is"
Thank you and hopefully not the 400 days DLC :P
XD story of my life with advice.
Everyones always told me "Dont do what I do"
Be yourself and be a gentleman to her and help her out... Eventually she'll see you as being efficient and a great guy. Also if she is playing hard to get do not under any circumstances, flirt with her openly let's just say I've been rejected by quite a few gals like that. But when I was myself being like a good man and kind towards this one girl who I knew at my fencing club... We became very close. Also try to incorporate some humor in a relationship, it doesn't always work but it a good poke in that. The one girl who I was kind and funny to actually asked for my phone number due to me saying I had an unusual dream about her in my minecraft world and she asked if she was good and I said she was A+ she cracked up and then asked me for my phone number which is quite uncommon since generally boys asks the girls. I guess she saw me as a warm hearted loving individual and wanted to know me, I've known her for 7 months.
So to break it down in perspective...
Be yourself
Be a gentleman
3.Use some humor (doesn't always work)
1.No I think ill go into school sagging with gold chains XD
2.I am indeed a gentleman good sir!
3.I am very humerus as you can tell...Although sarcasms more my thing :P
4.Im also compassionate, maybe too compassionate...At least ive learned not use Italian in the first...Month.
3.Wear Kenny's beard afterwards
OKAY!
Yeah well if everything fails you can still try that:D
well, don't do anything that @telltalemaster said if you still want a chance.
if you know what i mean
what are you talking about, its the only thing to do, what other options does he have left?
Well noted
@Green613 be like
If you look like a younger Luke then you shouldn't have a problem (wink).
I honestly hope if you ever ask her out she accepts it. Or well if she is one of those girls who care only about if youre cool, popular or pretty then dont, if not catch her before another guy does it, whenever a guy asks me out i accept cause i dont really care how he is. Good luck
Thanks XD
Well ill try tomorrow and update everyone...My anxiety is kicking in already.
I hope it will be okay