Sometimes it just seems like conversations I'm in has this awkward silence, and socialization just seems incredibly difficult at times. Even when I go into a shop to buy something, I feel like an idiot standing there waiting.
I haven't been officially diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder, but my behavior matches everything I've read about it. And unfortunately because of it, I've had great difficulty finding and holding work, especially work that involves interacting with people.
I've also had continuous problems with clinical depression, which has been officially diagnosed and for which I've taken anti-depressants for years. The whole thing is rather an enormous pain in the ass.
Sometimes it just seems like conversations I'm in has this awkward silence, and socialization just seems incredibly difficult at times. Even when I go into a shop to buy something, I feel like an idiot standing there waiting.
Yeah. I have a friend who isn't self-conscious at all, but he doesn't think about how his actions will affect others. He says what he wants, and usually says it very loudly. I tell him to stop but he just says "Sorry", and thinks that that justifies it the next time. He says that nobody shows him respect so he won't sow anyone respect, but that's untrue. I've head people talk to hi politely and he still has that tone of irritation in his voice when he talks to others. I can't help but feel it will affect me at school as well.
You know, it is said that you should force yourself to make eye contact with someone long enough to notice their eye color, before you look away, the more you do that, the easier it becomes.
I tend to look in one direction and one direction only, nearly all the time when I am in public, to avoid making awkward eye-contact. Or I j… moreust screw around on the internet on my iPod if I were to wait for something. And when I DO make eye-contact, there's a 50/50 chance I might feel comfortable looking at the person, or I look away, it really depends on the person. Oh, and I stutter too if a stranger, friend, or family member talks to me, luckily for me I don't do it as often as I used to, unfortunately it's still there though.
Nice tip! But I think I've been getting better at looking at people recently, for the past couple of months or so at the very least. I'll definitely keep the tip in mind though. Thanks!
You know, it is said that you should force yourself to make eye contact with someone long enough to notice their eye color, before you look away, the more you do that, the easier it becomes.
Has it always been that way for you? I used to be extremely outgoing, which resulted in a few bad experiences. Now I barely ever talk, like you said, I respond when spoken too, but I never start conversations with anyone but my family.
I guess I have some bad social issues. I barely talk at all. When spoken to I respond, but with a short answer(usually one-five words) like … more"Yes, No, Maybe, Okay," and stuff like that. Biggest thing though is when I talk to girls, or adults things go bad. I want to make eye contact, so I do. But when I do my eyes start watering and it feels/looks like I'm crying.Then I start getting really hot especially in my forehead. My palms are usually sweating in my pockets, and if I have the chance, I back away slowly. I don't make conversation, and if someone starts one with me it lasts around a minute, and if I'm lucky then around 5 minutes. I usually just loner out and whenever around a bunch of people and try to isolate myself.
Inside I really want to just break out, and talk to people and stuff. But I'm afraid I'll screw up as always. I never know what to say, and I basically feel like I'm just taking up space. Half of me says to get out th… [view original content]
I've never been diagnosed, but I have issues with socializing, too. I get very anxious, short-breathed, and even panicky when I have to comm… moreunicate with strangers, (especially through phone calls) and I find it extremely difficult to make eye contact or initiate conversations. I also get very intimidated by large crowds or personal confrontations. Recently, in the past 5 months, I've begun to stutter and clam up a lot while speaking. I usually end up feeling awful after talking to strangers or being at parties, and I often isolate myself afterwards to 'recover'. It takes a long while of being alone to shake off that feeling.
The awkwardness of it all only makes my anxiety worse. I try really hard to hide this and make the impression that I don't have any problems with socializing, but sometimes I feel my behavior comes off as heavily forced. I'm not good with small talk, it doesn't interest me. When I drop the facade and just act 'myself… [view original content]
It can be extremely difficult to talk to people, or just be in a room with lots of people, I cannot take a large amount of noise, and I have really bad social anxiety. sayakamiki described it best: "I get very anxious, short-breathed, and even panicky when I have to communicate with strangers, (especially through phone calls) and I find it extremely difficult to make eye contact or initiate conversations." You are lucky you do not have to deal with anxiety when it comes to socializing, you should go out and get laid or something.
I used to be incredibly close with my brother we were the best of friends.
Well now he's gone
I'm really comfortable around family… more and friends but around strangers especially huge groups I usually feel awkward and always do something to embaress myself.
Me and my brother had alot in common We loved the hell out of Telltale's games and Breaking Bad but now that he's gone I feel like no one else gets me.
I try to talk to people IRL and I either feel like I'm talking to morons or brick walls. So the last couple of months I've been kinda depressed and now I'm on the forums. I like it here alot finally I have awesome people to talk to about awesome things!
The thing that sucks though is whenever I'm not on the forums I start to slip back into depression. I don't like being around people much I think it was after I was sorely disappointed...
So one of my close friends I always had a crush on her. I felt that we were g… [view original content]
Has it always been that way for you? I used to be extremely outgoing, which resulted in a few bad experiences. Now I barely ever talk, like you said, I respond when spoken too, but I never start conversations with anyone but my family.
The fact that you recognise these things about him shows you're pretty good at socialising, in the sense that you can see that his actions might affect others and so know how they might feel about it. How do you think it will affect you at school?
Yeah. I have a friend who isn't self-conscious at all, but he doesn't think about how his actions will affect others. He says what he wants,… more and usually says it very loudly. I tell him to stop but he just says "Sorry", and thinks that that justifies it the next time. He says that nobody shows him respect so he won't sow anyone respect, but that's untrue. I've head people talk to hi politely and he still has that tone of irritation in his voice when he talks to others. I can't help but feel it will affect me at school as well.
I walk for miles in another direction that doesn't encounter people, even if it's way shorter with the people. I don't like going out, calling people and especially people touching me, like the handshake you have to give when you meet someone new. That's even a step too far. Not in the way that I don't like people, I like people, just one at a time please. It's really hard when someone says you just have to get over it.
Because you can't.
I walk for miles in another direction that doesn't encounter people, even if it's way shorter with the people. I don't like going out, calli… moreng people and especially people touching me, like the handshake you have to give when you meet someone new. That's even a step too far. Not in the way that I don't like people, I like people, just one at a time please. It's really hard when someone says you just have to get over it.
Because you can't.
Yeah it bothers me when people are just like "DAFUQ JUST GET OVER IT GOOOOOSH!" because it's never that easy
I can't just change who I am in a matter of moments...
People who suffer from depression also have to deal with this kind of reaction far too often. People who associate 'depression' with just feeling a bit down in the dumps too often just can't seem to grasp a depression so deep and pervasive that it seems there's no way out, that taints every thought and seems to cripple every attempt to escape from it.
Getting out of it isn't just a matter of 'cheering up' or 'looking on the bright side.'
Yeah it bothers me when people are just like "DAFUQ JUST GET OVER IT GOOOOOSH!" because it's never that easy
I can't just change who I am in a matter of moments...
Everytime indeed. I found a post by someone a long tine ago that describes it. I didn't write this.
You asked me how depression felt, and this is all I could come up with.
It feels like
I'm walking upstream
through a current strong enough
to pull me under four times over.
There are others with me
but they are walking along the banks
telling me to "just get out of the water."
But instead of extending a hand in help,
they just move on and leave me behind.
Every once in a while I find a rock
that is strong enough for me to lean on,
And I can rest for a bit.
But the rocks always get tired of holding me up,
and when they let go, I'm left drowning,
thrown 50 feet back again.
And nothing is harder
then standing up in that current
when everything in you
is telling you how much easier things would be
if you just let yourself get dragged under.
People who suffer from depression also have to deal with this kind of reaction far too often. People who associate 'depression' with just fe… moreeling a bit down in the dumps too often just can't seem to grasp a depression so deep and pervasive that it seems there's no way out, that taints every thought and seems to cripple every attempt to escape from it.
Getting out of it isn't just a matter of 'cheering up' or 'looking on the bright side.'
People think he's retarded or something and I can't get rid of the feeling that I'm just like him. He just acts so inappropriately in public that I get the feeling that everyone is gonna think I'm weird. I know I shouldn't care, but last year I was the laughing stock of the school and now that I'm on friendly terms with everyone, I don't want that to change.
The fact that you recognise these things about him shows you're pretty good at socialising, in the sense that you can see that his actions might affect others and so know how they might feel about it. How do you think it will affect you at school?
It doesn't sound as if you're just like him - he doesn't seem like the sort of person who would be considering the things that you are now. If he's a good enough friend to you then it might be worthwhile deciding what you'd prefer in terms of friendships, however I might suggest discussing it with someone who knows you and your friend and whom you can trust.
People think he's retarded or something and I can't get rid of the feeling that I'm just like him. He just acts so inappropriately in public… more that I get the feeling that everyone is gonna think I'm weird. I know I shouldn't care, but last year I was the laughing stock of the school and now that I'm on friendly terms with everyone, I don't want that to change.
Everytime indeed. I found a post by someone a long tine ago that describes it. I didn't write this.
You asked me how depression felt, a… morend this is all I could come up with.
It feels like
I'm walking upstream
through a current strong enough
to pull me under four times over.
There are others with me
but they are walking along the banks
telling me to "just get out of the water."
But instead of extending a hand in help,
they just move on and leave me behind.
Every once in a while I find a rock
that is strong enough for me to lean on,
And I can rest for a bit.
But the rocks always get tired of holding me up,
and when they let go, I'm left drowning,
thrown 50 feet back again.
And nothing is harder
then standing up in that current
when everything in you
is telling you how much easier things would be
if you just let yourself get dragged under.
To someone with social anxiety, interacting with people can feel as scary as jumping off a 20 story building. Imagine someone walking up to you and saying "how hard is it to just jump off a 20 story building?". I mean, obviously talking to people usually doesn't have as grave consequences as such a high drop, but I mean, social anxiety is an illness. There's nothing "rational" about it.
To someone with social anxiety, interacting with people can feel as scary as jumping off a 20 story building. Imagine someone walking up to … moreyou and saying "how hard is it to just jump off a 20 story building?". I mean, obviously talking to people usually doesn't have as grave consequences as such a high drop, but I mean, social anxiety is an illness. There's nothing "rational" about it.
So ummm.... I don't really know if this is an appropriate place to talk to people, but yeah, it helps me feel better when I don't want to talk to friends or family. I have really bad anxiety problems and its a common thing for me. It helps me to know that there are other people out there. So yeah. Anyone else have the same problems.
I think I have it. I'm like Jane a lone wolf who keeps to themselves. I talk to people I know, but when I go out in public that's when things get difficult for me. Coming to this forum makes me feel less depressed, and happy.
I get anxious as fak when I talk to girls I like. My face turns red and I sweat and stutter like crazy. Also presenting in front of the class makes me very nervous. How do I deal with it? By avoiding girls and avoiding presenting in front of the class.
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I've also had continuous problems with clinical depression, which has been officially diagnosed and for which I've taken anti-depressants for years. The whole thing is rather an enormous pain in the ass.
But I can talk to my family pretty fine, but I still don't make conversation.
I've been confronted by my teacher, some classmates, and family about why I am this way and I can't explain it. It sucks but you know...
"You gotta play with the hand your dealt."
"Yeah well some folks have to play with shitty cards..."
Because you can't.
I can't just change who I am in a matter of moments...
Getting out of it isn't just a matter of 'cheering up' or 'looking on the bright side.'
You asked me how depression felt, and this is all I could come up with.
It feels like
I'm walking upstream
through a current strong enough
to pull me under four times over.
There are others with me
but they are walking along the banks
telling me to "just get out of the water."
But instead of extending a hand in help,
they just move on and leave me behind.
Every once in a while I find a rock
that is strong enough for me to lean on,
And I can rest for a bit.
But the rocks always get tired of holding me up,
and when they let go, I'm left drowning,
thrown 50 feet back again.
And nothing is harder
then standing up in that current
when everything in you
is telling you how much easier things would be
if you just let yourself get dragged under.
'Ooh, I think I will spend today scared to talk to people and avoid leaving home just for the sheer heck of it'.
Thread: Anxiety
So ummm.... I don't really know if this is an appropriate place to talk to people, but yeah, it helps me feel better when I don't want to talk to friends or family. I have really bad anxiety problems and its a common thing for me. It helps me to know that there are other people out there. So yeah. Anyone else have the same problems.
http://www.telltalegames.com/community/discussion/68192/anybody-else-here-have-acute-social-anxiety-or-any-anxiety-in-general
Lots.
I got Anxiety too!
Panic Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder and I think I may even have a Generalized Anxiety Disorder
I have anxiety too. I just worry and am nervous about pretty much everything. And on top of that I am pretty shy. Lol
. So man, you're not alone 
I'm pretty shy too, but online I kinda feel less shy and around close friends.... they don't think I'm shy xd
Anybody ever just freeze up in moment and felt extremely scared for some reason?
Pretty sure I have moderate anxiety. I've done quite a few online tests that came back positive, and I have a lot of the symptoms.
I think I have it. I'm like Jane a lone wolf who keeps to themselves. I talk to people I know, but when I go out in public that's when things get difficult for me. Coming to this forum makes me feel less depressed, and happy.
I get anxious as fak when I talk to girls I like. My face turns red and I sweat and stutter like crazy. Also presenting in front of the class makes me very nervous. How do I deal with it? By avoiding girls and avoiding presenting in front of the class.
I don't think I have anxiety, I'm just a generally shy person. But I think I might be bipolar.