idk, people always say like don't date coworkers or don't date friends or like wait 3 dates for sex or whatever ect. it always seems like people who give relationship advice always break their own rules.
i have no idea how traditional or normal dating is like so i have no idea either
Main rule is, don't worry about everybody else's rules. Oh, sure, listen to their advice, but realize it's from their own experience, and it may not be the same for you. Just do what seems right, and you'll probably get hurt a few times, but you'll figure out what works for you, and who cares what everyone else thinks?
I guess I'm just being wary about warnings even if it feels right. I don't know if doing something right despite the odds or I'm just getting myself into trouble.
Seriously though, It's not a big issue if everyone is able to act like a mature adult if things don't work out. You don't need a simple breakup to lead to factions developing on the job. You have to look at things that way going into the relationship as hard as that sometimes is to see. Think to yourself, if things ended badly, how would either of us react at work?
Yes, I've done it. Things were fairly okay afterwords. Our work friends kind of split though. We didn't ask them to "pick sides" or anything. They just kind of did. We were both mature enough not to sink to the lows of trash talking or gossiping to others.
Clearly the Klingons know a thing or two about relationships. If you survive one of those, you'll definitely know where you stand!
Seriously, using the example of co-workers, it's generally a bad idea just because you still have to work with the person even if there's a nasty break-up, or quit your job, but on the other hand, I know couples who met working together, got married, and have stayed that way for years, so things can also go really right.
It's even riskier to date your boss, as the legal system frequently gets involved, but yeah, sometimes that works out, too. (My niece-in-law had a kid with hers.)
I think not dating coworkers largely depends on your job (the more disposable it is, the less you should care) and the coworker you're interested in (the more mature they are, the least it should affect your job is they reject you or there is a break-up). Also, how closely you work with them.
And to be honest, for a lot of people, work is really the only place you spend enough time with the same people to make meaningful connections that can lead to a relationship.
As for not dating friends, I haven't heard that one before. I don't see why anyone would want to date someone who isn't their friend. "Only date your friends" is way closer to being my rule then the other way around.
And to be honest, for a lot of people, work is really the only place you spend enough time with the same people to make meaningful connections that can lead to a relationship.
There are also various classics which you can obtain for cheap/free, but I haven't worked out which version of certain books might have the best formatting out of the box.
Also, there are tools I highly recommend:
Calibre (eBook Library Manager) K4MobiDeDRM Calibre plugin (to aid in conversion of eBooks from one format to another. Allows you to repair formatting problems with purchased eBooks) Sigil (word processor specifically made for eBooks)
Seriously though, It's not a big issue if everyone is able to act like a mature adult if things don't work out. You don't need a simple breakup to lead to factions developing on the job. You have to look at things that way going into the relationship as hard as that sometimes is to see. Think to yourself, if things ended badly, how would either of us react at work?
Yes, I've done it. Things were fairly okay afterwords. Our work friends kind of split though. We didn't ask them to "pick sides" or anything. They just kind of did. We were both mature enough not to sink to the lows of trash talking or gossiping to others.
Wasn't this the subject of discussion in an episode of "How I Met Your Mother"?
The only reason people say don't date coworkers is because when you break up yur job will be even more miserable than it was before.
I dated a coworker. Breaking up WOULD make things pretty awkward right now, mostly because we've both left the company and are living happily in sin together on the other side of the continent.
I'm half-way through The Blazing World, and I'm enjoying it a lot (it's one of the first science fiction books, about an alternate world which can be accessed through the Earth's North Pole, written by Margaret Cavendish, the Dutchess of Newcastle, in 1666). The book's alternate world contains talking animals and insects which walk upright and covers everything from the known science of the time, to philosophy, religion, and politics.
As I mentioned in the Books: A Literary discussion thread, I went through some trouble finding the book in ePub format, so I made my own. Here's my ePub of it so you don't have to go through the trouble yourself. And since you have a Kindle, here it is in mobi format (converted with Calibre).
What about lipids and other hydrophobic substances?
That's in fact a good point. Although hydrophobic substances seem not to be soluble in water (resulting in a two-phase system), small amounts of their molecules always migrate into the hydrophilic phase. So Rather Dashing's statement is true, but you really need loaaaaads of water to completely solve even a small amount of those substances.
There are also various classics which you can obtain for cheap/free, but I haven't worked out which version of certain books might have the best formatting out of the box.
Also, there are tools I highly recommend:
Calibre (eBook Library Manager) K4MobiDeDRM Calibre plugin (to aid in conversion of eBooks from one format to another. Allows you to repair formatting problems with purchased eBooks) Sigil (word processor specifically made for eBooks)
Let me be a bit more specific- Obscure stuff. I have the audiobooks of all those things.
Let me be a bit more specific- Obscure stuff. I have the audiobooks of all those things.
So... like Jude the Obscure? Haven't read it myself, but I've enjoyed most of the things Hardy writes.
More seriously, if you like dark fantasy detective-y/romance type things, Wicked Gentlemen by Ginn Hale is a pretty fun read. I enjoyed it because it was a different type of story from most of the fantasy I've been exposed to and was also short enough so that I could read it and still do actual work.
Now that replacement hand grafting is a thing I am going to chop off my hand graft some jerks hand to mine and then hypnotize my self into believing I am Liquid Snake.
I dated a coworker. Breaking up WOULD make things pretty awkward right now, mostly because we've both left the company and are living happily in sin together on the other side of the continent.
Well, I started dating someone at work (who I wasn't friends with prior) and everything is going really well. My only concern, I guess, is that things are going so well to the point that things seem to be moving kinda fast, but it feels right. So I don't know what to do? I don't want to get into a bad situation. How do I know if I'm making the right decision?
As someone who's never been in a relationship, I can give you the advice of what I would do if I felt a relationship was moving too fast. First, I'd turn off my cellphone. Then, I'd move away with no forwarding address to Tahiti and only come back several years later after I stopped panicking.
As for not dating friends, I haven't heard that one before. I don't see why anyone would want to date someone who isn't their friend. "Only date your friends" is way closer to being my rule then the other way around.
Can't believe I remember you posting this two years ago in this thread:
- The "friend zone" isn't that inescapable thing you're thrown in a can't get out of. It's an excuse for not dating you because the person isn't interested, no more, no less. The actual cases of "I would, but I don't want to ruin our friendship" are super rare. More often than not, it's "I wouldn't, but I don't want to ruin our friendship so I won't say it so bluntly".
- As I said, the friend zone isn't inescapable. I was friends with Seamus before we became a couple. For that matter he showed his interest pretty much right away, and I turned him down at the time. Then a few months later, after confiding in him pretty much every day, becoming close friends, etc, I'm the one who went after him. If he had tried to avoid the "friend zone", I never would have fallen in love with him. Actually, as far as I'm concerned, the friend zone is pretty much a requirement if you want to reach the boyfriend zone. I'm not saying everyone is the same, but I can't be the only one who is like that.
Yes, it's that "friend zone" crap. The point about not trying to date friends is that if you're wrong, it gets all awkward, and you might lose the friend. Obviously, this is not something you personally have a problem with, but a lot of people do.
Well, I started dating someone at work (who I wasn't friends with prior) and everything is going really well. My only concern, I guess, is that things are going so well to the point that things seem to be moving kinda fast, but it feels right. So I don't know what to do? I don't want to get into a bad situation. How do I know if I'm making the right decision?
You've already gone too far for the co-worker requirement, so it's now the same as any other boyfriend.
Don't get pregnant.
Don't get any horrible diseases.
Make sure he's someone you can trust. Like he's not stealing your stuff and selling it on eBay.
If you've got that covered, then go as fast as you want to.
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Such as? Honestly, I'm curious. I'm not really good at the traditional idea of relationship.
i have no idea how traditional or normal dating is like so i have no idea either
Seriously though, It's not a big issue if everyone is able to act like a mature adult if things don't work out. You don't need a simple breakup to lead to factions developing on the job. You have to look at things that way going into the relationship as hard as that sometimes is to see. Think to yourself, if things ended badly, how would either of us react at work?
Yes, I've done it. Things were fairly okay afterwords. Our work friends kind of split though. We didn't ask them to "pick sides" or anything. They just kind of did. We were both mature enough not to sink to the lows of trash talking or gossiping to others.
A Wizard of Earthsea.
ka'plah!
Except my love for you. It's an indilutable substance.
Also, probably dangerous in high concentration.
Actually, it's " Qapla' ", thank you very much.
That's just common anglicization. Both spellings are legit.
Struglend Tales *shamelessplugforfellowttgforummember*
Seriously, using the example of co-workers, it's generally a bad idea just because you still have to work with the person even if there's a nasty break-up, or quit your job, but on the other hand, I know couples who met working together, got married, and have stayed that way for years, so things can also go really right.
It's even riskier to date your boss, as the legal system frequently gets involved, but yeah, sometimes that works out, too. (My niece-in-law had a kid with hers.)
No one should ever follow your life strategies. Worst advice ever and I will literally stab you in your 05_06 face.
And to be honest, for a lot of people, work is really the only place you spend enough time with the same people to make meaningful connections that can lead to a relationship.
As for not dating friends, I haven't heard that one before. I don't see why anyone would want to date someone who isn't their friend. "Only date your friends" is way closer to being my rule then the other way around.
And legs cannot hurt when they are amputated ... or so some peole claim.
Someone will make this his or her signature. I feel it. Just like I felt it when coolsome announced that he could go to Geisha school for Telltale.
I hear you. Yup, that is pretty true.
Lord of the Rings
Harry Potter
Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
The Hunger Games
The Color of Magic (Discworld)
There are also various classics which you can obtain for cheap/free, but I haven't worked out which version of certain books might have the best formatting out of the box.
Also, there are tools I highly recommend:
Calibre (eBook Library Manager)
K4MobiDeDRM Calibre plugin (to aid in conversion of eBooks from one format to another. Allows you to repair formatting problems with purchased eBooks)
Sigil (word processor specifically made for eBooks)
Wasn't this the subject of discussion in an episode of "How I Met Your Mother"?
I dated a coworker. Breaking up WOULD make things pretty awkward right now, mostly because we've both left the company and are living happily in sin together on the other side of the continent.
What about lipids and other hydrophobic substances?
As I mentioned in the Books: A Literary discussion thread, I went through some trouble finding the book in ePub format, so I made my own. Here's my ePub of it so you don't have to go through the trouble yourself. And since you have a Kindle, here it is in mobi format (converted with Calibre).
That's in fact a good point. Although hydrophobic substances seem not to be soluble in water (resulting in a two-phase system), small amounts of their molecules always migrate into the hydrophilic phase. So Rather Dashing's statement is true, but you really need loaaaaads of water to completely solve even a small amount of those substances.
Let me be a bit more specific- Obscure stuff. I have the audiobooks of all those things.
I did a Project Gutenberg run already too.
I will have it by the end of today! Now that I have a reader that let me blow stuff up huge.
So... like Jude the Obscure? Haven't read it myself, but I've enjoyed most of the things Hardy writes.
More seriously, if you like dark fantasy detective-y/romance type things, Wicked Gentlemen by Ginn Hale is a pretty fun read. I enjoyed it because it was a different type of story from most of the fantasy I've been exposed to and was also short enough so that I could read it and still do actual work.
Well, I started dating someone at work (who I wasn't friends with prior) and everything is going really well. My only concern, I guess, is that things are going so well to the point that things seem to be moving kinda fast, but it feels right. So I don't know what to do? I don't want to get into a bad situation. How do I know if I'm making the right decision?
In short, I haven't got a clue what to do.
Can't believe I remember you posting this two years ago in this thread:
Yes, it's that "friend zone" crap. The point about not trying to date friends is that if you're wrong, it gets all awkward, and you might lose the friend. Obviously, this is not something you personally have a problem with, but a lot of people do.
You've already gone too far for the co-worker requirement, so it's now the same as any other boyfriend.
If you've got that covered, then go as fast as you want to.