Online dating can kiss my @$$!!!

edited April 2011 in General Chat
I was encouraged to try it out, paid for a months subscription, and....yeh. Waste of bloody time.

this one chick told me she didnt reply to me the first time because I just said "hi how are you?" I replied "well, what do you expect, a novel?" Because most of the time no one ever replies, or if they do, its just, 'fine' 'good' or 'not bad'. No hint of a conversation anywhere.

I'm tired of reading all the expectations on people's profiles.

Then theres the idiots on there who are just looking for freinds. Then piss off of the website then as its a DATING website.

So bollocks to online dating, its a joke. I'd rather meet someone in person or try my luck in the real world.

Oh and in the past I did meet up with about 3 women on different occasions. Not one of them looked like they did in their photos and 2 of them were complete weirdo's.

I'm basing my experience on the lack of human contact on that website, and the others I've tried. "Hey lets make an account and reply with 2 word sentences!!! YEEH!!!"

Rant over I guess.
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  • edited March 2011
    I've never had luck on dating websites but had several wonderful girlfriends I met through message boards.
  • edited March 2011
    My theory is look for some one flawed that you accept who they are as a person, without seeing their flaws. Of course people can make mistakes. I mean this compatibility shit, the I don't have enough chemistry and all that jazz...I'm not saying that two people with nothing in common can be together, but I'm sure that it's possible for two very different people to fall in love. If they accept one another and still are attracted to one another, and respect one another and "love" one another.(I wish I knew what it truly meant to love a woman :D)

    That's the topic I wanted to ask earlier but never did, I think...

    The topic, about compatibility versus chemistry.
  • edited March 2011
    Its easy. I will help.. Some great places to meet women are bookstores....

    Step one.
    spot girl

    Step two.
    talk to girl

    Step three.
    if it seem she is someone you could like ask her out for dinner, do not go to a movie because you will not be able to talk during one... take her bowling or mini golf something like that.... Second date take her to a movie or live theater.

    Step four..
    if the date didn't go very well... start over at step one.

    This is important... learn to have a thick skin and not take rejection personally... realize that despite all your good qualities you'll just not be what people are looking for... Remember when that happens to you, you'll have done it to someone else.. Its just human nature.

    Do not get discouraged.. unless you're super attractive you WILL get turned down.. girls get hit on a lot more than guys so they have the benefit of being picky.

    DO NOT use stupid pickup lines... they're lazy and girls do not find them as clever as we do.
  • edited March 2011
    All boils down to personality to be honest. To me the main problem isn't the environment being virtual, the main problem is that the site's main purpose is to match people. When being matched is the only thing a person's expecting to happen, they always resort to cheap tactics and act like someone who they are not. This also happens in IRL parties, everyone tries to act cool and buys the most expensive drink and shit like that. The only reason why people don't flame that like they flame online dating is that if they play their cards right they can score with the chick in the very same day. Having a sex body count is corny and meaningless so I find this as stupid as online dating sites.

    Back to the point I was trying to make; like Samuel L Jackson says, personality goes a long way. Make people know who you are, what you like and how you react to your surroundings. Don't try to be carbon copies of douchebags. In this way you can even find a significant other while playing an MMORPG. Sure, yes, that kind of games are full of Guys-In-Real-Life, but I know more than just one couple, living happily as we talk, whose first meeting was in a machine forest surrounded by high quality sparkly sword sellers and tree monsters.
  • edited March 2011
    Just walk up to a girl and ask "Would you mind eating a free meal with me?" If she says no, then it was not meant to be, if she says yes move on to question 2 "How about seeing a free movie?"
  • edited March 2011
    "excuse me, does this cloth smell like chloroform to you?"
  • edited March 2011
    "excuse me, does this cloth smell like chloroform to you?"

    hahahahahahahaaha.
  • edited March 2011
    DAISHI wrote: »
    I've never had luck on dating websites but had several wonderful girlfriends I met through message boards.

    Internet gf's or gf's you met in person too?
  • edited March 2011
    Irishmile wrote: »
    Its easy. I will help.. Some great places to meet women are bookstores....

    Step one.
    spot girl

    Step two.
    talk to girl

    Step three.
    if it seem she is someone you could like ask her out for dinner, do not go to a movie because you will not be able to talk during one... take her bowling or mini golf something like that.... Second date take her to a movie or live theater.

    Step four..
    if the date didn't go very well... start over at step one.

    This is important... learn to have a thick skin and not take rejection personally... realize that despite all your good qualities you'll just not be what people are looking for... Remember when that happens to you, you'll have done it to someone else.. Its just human nature.

    Do not get discouraged.. unless you're super attractive you WILL get turned down.. girls get hit on a lot more than guys so they have the benefit of being picky.

    DO NOT use stupid pickup lines... they're lazy and girls do not find them as clever as we do.

    Thanks. Are you female by any chance?

    I don't get offended or upset if i'm turned down, It actually relieves me then I don't have to think about that woman anymore and move onto the next target...I mean prey...I mean woman.

    I gave this chick I like my number to her freind to give her as I had no chance to see or give it to her at work today. Usually we have the same break times but I've moved position and now we don't. Apparently she was asking about me today hehehe but watever I bet she doesn't txt meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!! LOL.
  • edited March 2011
    Falanca wrote: »
    All boils down to personality to be honest. To me the main problem isn't the environment being virtual, the main problem is that the site's main purpose is to match people. When being matched is the only thing a person's expecting to happen, they always resort to cheap tactics and act like someone who they are not. This also happens in IRL parties, everyone tries to act cool and buys the most expensive drink and shit like that. The only reason why people don't flame that like they flame online dating is that if they play their cards right they can score with the chick in the very same day. Having a sex body count is corny and meaningless so I find this as stupid as online dating sites.

    Back to the point I was trying to make; like Samuel L Jackson says, personality goes a long way. Make people know who you are, what you like and how you react to your surroundings. Don't try to be carbon copies of douchebags. In this way you can even find a significant other while playing an MMORPG. Sure, yes, that kind of games are full of Guys-In-Real-Life, but I know more than just one couple, living happily as we talk, whose first meeting was in a machine forest surrounded by high quality sparkly sword sellers and tree monsters.

    Maybe thats the problem, I am ME. But hey if they are not interested in knowing me then vice versa.
  • edited March 2011
    Lonnie wrote: »
    Internet gf's or gf's you met in person too?

    We met in person and began dating.
  • edited March 2011
    I'm doing a subject this semester called 'Rethinking Jane Austen.' The gender ratio is four guys (including myself) to over forty girls :D

    However that had no influence on my decision to take the class >_> <_< >_>
  • edited March 2011
    Lonnie:
    Dating is tough, man. But you can meet someone awesome anywhere you go. Like irishmile says- don't ever be afraid to go up and talk to somebody, and don't get discouraged when you're turned down. Unless they have a ing on their (right ring) finger, you have no idea if they're in a relationship, or what they're like. Rejection is a part of the game, and it will happen, believe me.

    On a different note, and don't take it personally- please do the boards a courtousey and use the edit button and add in what you want to say if no-one's replied yet. Multiple pots clog up the boards and can create zombie treads. Zombies may be cool, but zombie threads aren't.
  • VainamoinenVainamoinen Moderator
    edited March 2011
    Lonnie wrote: »
    Thanks. Are you female by any chance?

    Irishmile is a manly, married man with two... oh wait, THREE kids, twin girls and one boy? Am I right?

    BTW, Lonnie, you can multiquote people by using the "+" button on the lower right of posts. No need to post four times. ;)
  • edited March 2011
    My friend says chicks are stupid. You have to say the right thing at the right time.

    My other friend says chicks are stupid,
    can't understand normal thinking...

    My third guy friend says chicks are...

    *sighs*

    It's true, so many women just can't CHILL OUT. You go to talk to them and it's so INSANE. It's like are you trying to pick me up ARE YOU ARE YOU!!! :D

    Or it's like you never made a move *BEEP YOU!*

    Seriously, why can't chicks just calm down, relax, hang loose? It's always some sort of big deal to them. Guys can hang out, calm down, Chillax...

    Every damn woman I talk to makes it difficult to talk to her because she's either playing some game, being moody. bossy, or something...

    There's the honest, dark hearted truth from your friend, man...

    Irishmile is a good man, I won't have any one say anything less about him.
  • edited March 2011
    Don't sweat it, Lonnie.
    When you're dating you're wishing you had a girlfriend. When you've got a girlfriend you miss the thrill of dating.
    Enjoy it while you can. :D
  • edited March 2011
    DAISHI wrote: »
    I've never had luck on dating websites but had several wonderful girlfriends I met through message boards.

    Seconded. One forum I went to a few years back might as well have been a dating site, the way we were all pairing off. I ended up meeting no less than three women there. (that sounds player-ish, but it just kind of happened naturally for the first and third, and we are still good friends. The second was the only one I actively sought after, and the breakup was so devastating that I still haven't shaken it off completely. All three were fantastic while it lasted, though.)
  • edited March 2011
    Bah! Relationships are for the WEAAAKKKK!!! XD

    But seriously, I don't see what the big deal is about all these dating things.

    Why are some people really that desperate to go actively seeking physical and emotional parter to maintain some kind of personal stability?

    I guess if one has never been in a relationship before, then one can't really know how the experience feels.

    Not that I wouldn't want to give dating and relationships a go, I'm just afraid I wouldn't gel with anyone (as I am a very strange individual, plus I have odd tastes. Most of the women I ever fancy are either strong willed or smart, but still moderately attractive, normally blond. 90% of those are normally very happy dominating their dopey partner (trust me they are ALWAYS dopey skinny gits, that basically do everything for their girls at the snap of a finger)).

    But I'm not going to lose sleep over it. I've gone this long without a female companion, I don't desperately need one.

    Besides, I always chicken out just before I ever tell a girl I like what I think about them anyway, (Oh logic, you can be such an encumberance sometimes...).

    I think part of my attitude must have something to do with my childhood.
    I remember I was relentlessly stalked and teased by a girl I fancied.

    I was never sure if her advances were just a joke or were genuine, but I obviously assumed the former, and never asked her out out of fear of embarrasment.
    (Plus I was bullied back then, and something like this could have made it much worse, so I was extra cautious!)

    Just thinking about it gives me a headache, even now! Xp
  • edited March 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    It's true, so many women just can't CHILL OUT. You go to talk to them and it's so INSANE. It's like are you trying to pick me up ARE YOU ARE YOU!!! :D

    Or it's like you never made a move *BEEP YOU!*

    Seriously, why can't chicks just calm down, relax, hang loose? It's always some sort of big deal to them. Guys can hang out, calm down, Chillax...

    Have you considered the fact that you might be a part of the problem instead of blaming an entire gender? That or you just have had bad luck. Or you're overreacting.
  • edited March 2011
    Online dating that you have to pay for is, in and of itself, something of a scam. I'd link you to an article I read showing some very interesting numbers to that effect, but I think it's down now. Anywho, just go to OkCupid. It's free and has produced results for me in the past. Mediocre results, sure; but I chalk that up to living in Georgia.
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    Have you considered the fact that you might be a part of the problem instead of blaming an entire gender? That or you just have had bad luck. Or you're overreacting.

    I'd like to blame a majority of humanity by their way of thinking rather than blaming a type as a whole by their hormonal and bodily structure. Blaming an entire gender for your own failure is wrong but I wouldn't say blaming a majority is a wrong way of criticizing.
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    Have you considered the fact that you might be a part of the problem instead of blaming an entire gender? That or you just have had bad luck. Or you're overreacting.

    Did you ever consider that all girls are evil? See fig. 1

    Proof_that_Girls_are_Evil.jpg
  • edited March 2011
    I know that's a joke, but couldn't the same be said for guys? :p
  • edited March 2011
    Yeah women are not all that different from men... we all want to be respected and cherished by the other..
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    I know that's a joke, but couldn't the same be said for guys? :p

    Guys typically don't expect women to pay for dinner and stuff for them... unless they're douchebags. Just saying.
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    Have you considered the fact that you might be a part of the problem instead of blaming an entire gender? That or you just have had bad luck. Or you're overreacting.

    Not likely, chicks probably get emotional and attach feelings early on and take things too seriously. So, when you're talking to them and you don't make them feel beautiful/ attractive, they get all insecure and starting eating tubs of ice cream and spend the night crying on the bed because they have a exam tomorrow and the tough girl act is wearing thin and their stressed want a man there to hold them and make them feel good about their selves...
    Irishmile wrote: »
    Yeah women are not all that different from men... we all want to be respected and cherished by the other..

    Irishmile, the grown gentleman. Seriously, I respect what you say.

    Whatever man, if you say so about women, though...They seem a bit more on the heavy side of things if you ask me.
  • edited March 2011
    Guys typically don't expect women to pay for dinner and stuff for them... unless they're douchebags. Just saying.

    ...And what makes women not douchebags for expecting guys to pay for their dinners?

    doodo! wrote: »
    Not likely, chicks probably get emotional and attach feelings early on and take things too seriously. So, when you're talking to them and you don't make them feel beautiful/ attractive, they get all insecure and starting eating tubs of ice cream and spend the night crying on the bed because they have a exam tomorrow and the tough girl act is wearing thin and their stressed want a man there to hold them and make them feel good about their selves...

    Wow. Holy shit.

    You should stop sourcing your information about women from movies and tv.
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    ...And what makes women not douchebags for expecting guys to pay for their dinners?
    Absolutely nothing. That's just being proper. Tradition, and all that. Fact is that going by the joke equation, guys are only half evil. Still baring in mind that this is a joke, mind you. So the same could not be said for men.

    Giant Tope wrote: »

    Wow. Holy shit.

    You should stop sourcing your information about women from movies and tv.

    That's what happens when people have never been on dates and are forced to use TV to learn about ladies. :P
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    ...And what makes women not douchebags for expecting guys to pay for their dinners?




    Wow. Holy shit.

    You should stop sourcing your information about women from movies and tv.

    I might argue it's actually science. The tub of ice cream, hormones...the motherly instincts...the need to be a mother, etc etc. I'd say it's likely of most women that they are in fact this way and so when you don't find them attract, they get jealous, or spite you.
  • edited March 2011
    Absolutely nothing. That's just being proper. Tradition, and all that. Fact is that going by the joke equation, guys are only half evil. Still baring in mind that this is a joke, mind you. So the same could not be said for men.

    And.. if a woman is chivalrous towards a male so, the guy's being a douchebag?
    doodo! wrote: »
    I might argue it's actually science. The tub of ice cream, hormones...the motherly instincts...the need to be a mother, etc etc. I'd say it's likely of most women that they are in fact this way and so when you don't find them attract, they get jealous, or spite you.

    You know, you keep talking about having woman troubles. The fact that you think of women this way and using a veil of pseudo science to justify it only tells me why you have such troubles.
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    And.. if a woman is chivalrous towards a male so, the guy's being a douchebag?

    Men typically make 10% more in their lifetime then women do. This is obviously unfair. Therefore, it makes more sense to expect men to follow tradition and just pay for the goddamn date. I have never asked a woman I've dated to pay for anything. It's just bad form.
  • edited March 2011
    I have never asked a woman I've dated to pay for anything. It's just bad form.

    Pretty much this, it's just not done like
  • edited March 2011
    Circular argument, my friend. The reason why men make more than women is because they are the expected head of the household while women are more typically viewed as making extra income. If you keep spreading traditions like this, things will never change.

    I find it a bit bizarre that some guys complain about "wasting" money on their girlfriends. Then they insist on being the sole payer of excursions.
  • edited March 2011
    I'll tell you what was taught to me by my guy friends.

    A. Ugly chicks, needy, jealous.

    B. Pretty chicks, normal sane chicks, most date-able material, slightly jealous at times. Best type of chick to date.

    C. Hot chicks, crazy chicks, just crazy chicks...
  • edited March 2011
    What's ones view on sitting down at a table where a man or woman is sitting, ordering a ton of food, eating it all while ignoring them, then leaving them with the check.
  • edited March 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    I'll tell you what was taught to me by my guy friends.
    Maybe you and your friends should stop women like different entities. That fixes a lot of problems.

    What's ones view on sitting down at a table where a man or woman is sitting, ordering a ton of food, eating it all while ignoring them, then leaving them with the check.

    Stupid. Whenever I'm on a date or whatever, I pay for my own things. Occasionally when I'd be low on cash, they'd pay for me, but I'd do the same for them.
  • edited March 2011
    What's ones view on sitting down at a table where a man or woman is sitting, ordering a ton of food, eating it all while ignoring them, then leaving them with the check.

    Brilliant!
  • edited March 2011
    Giant Tope wrote: »
    Circular argument, my friend. The reason why men make more than women is because they are the expected head of the household while women are more typically viewed as making extra income. If you keep spreading traditions like this, things will never change.

    I would like to see the look on a girls face when I suggest she pay for the meal in the name of gender equality. Anyway, I doubt who pays for dinner is what's keeping women down really at the end of the day
    doodo! wrote: »
    I'll tell you what was taught to me by my guy friends.

    A. Ugly chicks, needy, jealous.

    B. Pretty chicks, normal sane chicks, most date-able material, slightly jealous at times. Best type of chick to date.

    C. Hot chicks, crazy chicks, just crazy chicks...

    Nonsense
  • edited March 2011
    doodo! wrote: »
    Brilliant!

    I knew it! My test has caught one!
  • edited March 2011
    Jump through hoops, tell jokes, get some muscles...smell nice, dress up, smile alot.

    Say the right things at the right time but NOT THE WRONG...
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